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Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 01:48
by kotaeshiranaihito
meotsuburu wrote:
. While yes, I could be corrected on your term femenism, but your lack of detail and inability to be concise is apparent. Not everyone has the luxury of speaking with you real-time (and not everyone has the luxury of speaking to me in real-time as well).
<sarcasm>My concision is the main problem.</sarcasm> It's the fact that you only seem to take one line from my posts, give it your own meaning and then start giving me crap about it. Read THE WHOLE POST, PUT IT TOGETHER, and then give an answer. Reading one line and then being a word nazi only further misconscrues the situation.
If you read the words I responded to, then read the entire post and put it together there would be little chance of you misconscruing it that much. All you did was read the words "femenist crap" then quoted those words and started making up your own version of what I said.
This is not the first time you've done this. I read your other responses to me and they all seem to be the same. Read the whole thing before responding, or don't respond at all.
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 03:03
by meotsuburu
kotaeshiranaihito wrote:
My concision is the main problem.
Ok.
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 03:14
by kotaeshiranaihito
meotsuburu wrote:kotaeshiranaihito wrote:
My concision is the main problem.
Ok.
... sarcasm (if you actually learned to read an entire post you'd be able to tell) ... look it up, but here's an example: "you are a genius". For your level of genius, I'll fix up my post.
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 04:38
by meotsuburu
nanimoshiranaihito, you should have been fixing your mistakes since the very beginning instead of defending them. As you seem obdurate to reason, I don't see the point in posting any more. If you feel it's important, post away.
Maybe so...
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 05:29
by booniez
I think it is possible for a guy and a girl to just be friends...
HOWEVER....
Sometimes, you don't know you have some feelings of love for her (or him) until that friend tells you he/she found a lover and it's not you. If you can take that news in stride, then you are and were friends. If you heard the news and it stabbed your heart, then maybe you let it go to far without knowing.
This has happened to me more times than I care to admit.
"Nice guys" make great "friends" for girls. Guys: don't be nice. You will finish last.
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 13:39
by nikochanr3
eye wrote:nikochanr3 wrote:she's goregous. {...} we've never tried anything
sorry for the misspelling.
seriously though there are a TON of girls in the world. i dont feel the need to lose friends cause i have to hit on every pretty girl within a certain radius. ive never been like that, and ive always had plenty of female company.
im not even close to the most mature person in the world so the fact i see this, and people my age cant fathom it makes me laugh....
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 18:00
by kotaeshiranaihito
meotsuburu wrote:nanimoshiranaihito, you should have been fixing your mistakes since the very beginning instead of defending them. As you seem obdurate to reason, I don't see the point in posting any more. If you feel it's important, post away.
If you have free time to be worried about other peoples' mistakes you should use it to think about your own. You said you would appreciate it if people would be kind enough to point out some of your mistakes, well I'm going to be extra kind now.
meotsuburu wrote:Feminism is not a theory to be proven or disproven, it is a philosophy.
I don't need you to tell me what feminism is, and while it itself is not a theory, simone's “One is not born to be a man/woman. One becomes ONE.” is a theory that has been disproven. Learn to read more than just two words, it will be very useful for you.
metsuburu wrote:I am 100% wrong, but you agree TV influences us.
I also never said "cause" I said 'educate.' And from what I am saying, (READING COMPREHENSION ASSISTANCE) is that Dramas do not exclusively entertain us.
Please show me exactly where I wrote that "you are 100% wrong". That entire post had absolutely nothing to do with you, it was a reply to someone else who quoted a person who said "One is not born to be a man/woman. One becomes ONE." A reasonable assumption is that this person believes that men and women are not different inherently, and are made different by media and conditioning, which scientists proved is wrong (this is my opinion, if you don't believe in the evidence scientists gave that is a different story). I never said the media and conditioning do not affect us at all, in fact I said that they EXACERBATES WHAT'S ALREADY THERE (I can use big words too).
Also where the hell did I write that you said "cause"? Dude, seriously you're not that important, not every post I make is about you, before you make such ridiculous claims, read who the post is replying to.
meotruburu wrote:
Innate feelings are inane as well.
Oh are they now, I can find about a million scientists who would disagree with you, I could continue on about how that claim is ridiculous, but unlike you I ACTUALLY READ MORE THAN A WORD. I read the words that come after the sentence, used this little thing called common sense to see that the next paragraph (BTW grammar whore, the next two sentences should be in the same paragraph) is connected with this one, so lets see what it says.
meotsuburu wrote:
Innate feelings are inane as well.
Feelings are temporal. We are born with a body: head, arms, hands, legs, and feet. If all shows reflect what we want based on what we were born with, it would be nothing as the body wants nothing (and needs nourishment).
I see; head, arms, legs and feet (no comma before the "and"). Wow, from science class I could've sworn we were born with a couple more things. From what I remember it was the nervous system, digestive system, circulatory system and many others including the endocrine system, which secretes hormones, which have been proven to affect the way we act, cause desires and some regulations. Hmm, I guess I was wrong, we were only born with the head, arms, hands, legs and feet. And yes those things do not desire anything.
meotsuburu wrote:
"Not your fault" excuses. Feminists and other losers are the underdog. The losers that escaped religious persecution sailed to the New World and are now called Pilgrims. The losers that escaped civil persecution and ran to the North are now called Runaway Slaves.
So you say Feminism is rediculous and crap. I, myself, do not agree with every word and letter but it is nice how you've label the two together.
Ummmmm where did I say feminism is crap? I said that the quote by simone (read above) is feminist crap. Also it's very nice that you know third grade history, but I suggest instead of wasting your time with that, you pick up a grammar book (since you're such a grammar lover) and learn what present tense writing is. And if you can't do that pick up a dictionary and learn what the word "Nowadays" means-oh wait I forgot, you can't do that because that would mean you *gasps* might have to read more than one sentence! You might even have to read a *double gasps* FULL PARAGRAPH!! Why the hell are you bringing up **** from 300-400 years ago when I'm clearly talking about events going on nowadays?
And a little insite to your "knowledge of history" (BTW I know since you probably don't get this, but that was sarcasm), well ... it's off. First off even though the pilgrims escaped persecution from england, they themselves persecuted other religions more than anyone else. Yes they wanted religious freedom for themselves, but they didn't allow others religious freedom. Are they winners in your book?
And those that escaped civil persecution are now know as runaway slaves huh (sarcasm again). So the Irish, the Jews, the southern white trash, and pretty much anyone who wasn't an anglo-saxon protestant landowner was a runaway slave huh. Wow, I never knew that. I always thought that Slaves who ran away from their masters were known as runaway slaves. But it turns out it was anyone who escaped from civil persecution from the south and entered the civil persecution in north that was a runaway slave. Hmmm, thanks for that info. (sarcasm once again)
dumbass wrote:
Above is addressed to AboutDrama.
Dumbass, I think she/he would know that it was addressed to him/her. Why? Because THE ENTIRE POST WAS ADDRESSED TO HIM/HER. How does he/she know it? Because it was in a reply to his/her post.
You on the other hand seem to think that all my posts are directed towards you. Why? Because you're a dumbass who can't seem to read more than a sentence, that's why.
Next time learn to reply to posts that are directed towards you.
meotsuburu wrote:
Never said a company's purpose was to be sweet or generous. And the by-product/side effect of a lesson learned is your concession that dramas do not exclusively entertain us.
As for its application in real life, (again) not everything is gold.
OMG, can it be? You replied to a post that was actually directed towards you!!! Congrats. Now please show me where I said that you believe the purpose of a company is to be sweet or generous?
Also please show me where I said Dramas "exclusively" entertain us? Obviously you need to learn the meaning of the word "purpose", you vocabulary school reject. I said that the "purpose" for companies is to make money, and imo our "purpose" for watching dramas should be entertainment only. Also, I said imo anyone who makes it their "purpose" to learn something from a drama (learn the meaning of the word "tries") is a retard. That is my opinion, if someone thinks it was harsh, then sorry. I never however said that it is impossible to learn something from a drama. It's a ridiculous statement because you can learn something from anything. You can learn something from taking a **** even. Hopefully, a by-product here was that you learned to read an entire paragraph before posting crap.
meotsuburu wrote:
You cannot understand how I thought you believe killers are created by video games and TV because I never said you did (I addressed the remark, not the person). I misconstrue as you miscommunicate.
Oh really? You never said that did you?
meotsuburu wrote:
TV and violent video games cause killers? A killer is a person who kills. TV and violent video games do not cause people at all. And where does this conclusion come from? If I do believe something, I will say so myself! I do not need you to tell me what I do or do not believe. Do put words into my mouth so you can argue with yourself.
Hmm, according to this, YOU DID! And what the hell does that last sentence mean anyway? You want me to put words in your mouth so I can argue with myself? ummm yeah ... for someone who criticizes others for minor mistakes, you sure do make a lot of them yourself. Anyway, you want me to put words in your mouth, no problem.
*me putting words in your mouth* "I can't read a paragraph for ****, and apparently I can't write one either, yet for some reason I feel it necessary to look through other peoples posts, find insignificant grammar, vocab etc errors and start giving them **** about it".
I'm so glad you decided to stop posting, it saves me a headache trying to decipher the crap you write and where you get ideas for your crap as well, but just in case you do deicde to post again
1) read the entire post, if you're too stupid to do that, read an entire paragraph before replying, if you're too stupid to do that ... I really feel sorry for you.
2) Learn to reply to posts that are directed to you. If it's not directed at you and you want to reply to it, fine, just don't start connecting it to yourself. You're not important, and I wasn't thinking of you when I wrote it.
3) stop being such a grammar ****. Not every sentence can be perfect, stop picking out small sentences that might look fragmanted and start giving me **** about it. It is impossible to get a point across in one sentence, that's why sentences are put together to form paragraphs. Also, it's not always easy to get your point across from paragraphs, that's why paragraphs are put together to form posts. If you try hard enough you can find mistakes with any one single sentence.
4) using big words does not make you cool. We all have a dictionary and thesaurus, we can all do it.
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 18:41
by kotaeshiranaihito
nikochanr3 wrote:eye wrote:nikochanr3 wrote:she's goregous. {...} we've never tried anything
sorry for the misspelling.
seriously though there are a TON of girls in the world. i dont feel the need to lose friends cause i have to hit on every pretty girl within a certain radius. ive never been like that, and ive always had plenty of female company.
im not even close to the most mature person in the world so the fact i see this, and people my age cant fathom it makes me laugh....
Ok I get that, but what if she was like really really hot, like the hottest girl out of all the "goddess" level girls, woud you try something then if you had the chance?
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 18:54
by Atomic
It depends on the percentages, and how desperate I am for some booty call...
Looking at a variety of things like what are my chances of actually getting this chick?(30% or higher, I say go for it... Less than that and I'll tell ya just save your ego/pride and try someone else)
Is it worth the hassle of getting shot down? (if she's a goodess among god, then hell ya.)
Also depnds what type of relationship she's looking for.. Last thing you want is to end up as just "friends"..
kotaeshiranaihito wrote:nikochanr3 wrote:eye wrote:
sorry for the misspelling.
seriously though there are a TON of girls in the world. i dont feel the need to lose friends cause i have to hit on every pretty girl within a certain radius. ive never been like that, and ive always had plenty of female company.
im not even close to the most mature person in the world so the fact i see this, and people my age cant fathom it makes me laugh....
Ok I get that, but what if she was like really really hot, like the hottest girl out of all the "goddess" level girls, woud you try something then if you had the chance?
???
Posted: Oct 11th, '06, 18:58
by JasonTransays
I went through a lot with a friend that was a girl. She was my best friend and holy crap she was really something, but after awhile she blew me off for some guy and never talked to me every again.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 00:32
by meotsuburu
kotaeshiranaihito wrote:
If you have free time to be worried about other peoples' mistakes you should use it to think about your own. You said you would appreciate it if people would be kind enough to point out some of your mistakes, well I'm going to be extra kind now.
Let's see.
I don't need you to tell me what feminism is, and while it itself is not a theory, simone's “One is not born to be a man/woman. One becomes ONE.” is a theory that has been disproven. Learn to read more than just two words, it will be very useful for you.
And here you agree it is not a theory. As for Feminism, I didn't say it was true but to be taken into consideration. "One is not born to be a man/woman. One becomes ONE." Did you think i believed this? I told you already I didn't agree with every word. Sheesh, you coupled the two (again) and here I am being criticised for not understand a post.
Please show me exactly where I wrote that "you are 100% wrong". That entire post had absolutely nothing to do with you, it was a reply to someone else who quoted a person who said "One is not born to be a man/woman. One becomes ONE." A reasonable assumption is that this person believes that men and women are not different inherently, and are made different by media and conditioning, which scientists proved is wrong (this is my opinion, if you don't believe in the evidence scientists gave that is a different story). I never said the media and conditioning do not affect us at all, in fact I said that they EXACERBATES WHAT'S ALREADY THERE (I can use big words too).
Also where the hell did I write that you said "cause"? Dude, seriously you're not that important, not every post I make is about you, before you make such ridiculous claims, read who the post is replying to.
Who thinks I am important? You perhaps.
While the above may have "nothing to do with me," you refer to femenist crap and the whole media rant is in support of what i said. Not everything is an attack so your paranoia needs not act up.
Oh are they now, I can find about a million scientists who would disagree with you, I could continue on about how that claim is ridiculous, but unlike you I ACTUALLY READ MORE THAN A WORD. I read the words that come after the sentence, used this little thing called common sense to see that the next paragraph (BTW grammar whore, the next two sentences should be in the same paragraph) is connected with this one, so lets see what it says.
So what if you disagree? So what if a million scientists disagree? Science is a powerful discipline for the simple fact that the data speaks for itself. Feelings, as you are being nice in this post, affect its validity. Example, you claim you can find a million scientists but where else can this exaggeration be found in your post?
The rest of the quote is extraneous.
I see; head, arms, legs and feet (no comma before the "and"). Wow, from science class I could've sworn we were born with a couple more things. From what I remember it was the nervous system, digestive system, circulatory system and many others including the endocrine system, which secretes hormones, which have been proven to affect the way we act, cause desires and some regulations. Hmm, I guess I was wrong, we were only born with the head, arms, hands, legs and feet. And yes those things do not desire anything.
I actually like this, since some of what I am saying is getting through to you. The short enumeration I provided was not complete, and I never said it was complete. If you want to add more, go ahead. And you are agreeing with me at the end as well.
Ummmmm where did I say feminism is crap? I said that the quote by simone (read above) is feminist crap. Also it's very nice that you know third grade history, but I suggest instead of wasting your time with that, you pick up a grammar book (since you're such a grammar lover) and learn what present tense writing is. And if you can't do that pick up a dictionary and learn what the word "Nowadays" means-oh wait I forgot, you can't do that because that would mean you *gasps* might have to read more than one sentence! You might even have to read a *double gasps* FULL PARAGRAPH!! Why the hell are you bringing up **** from 300-400 years ago when I'm clearly talking about events going on nowadays?
Seriouisly. My post from "300-400 years ago" states the plight of Feminism. Not just Feminism itself then or nowadays. Yes, it (the plight) has changed (slightly) but why do you talk about that? It was for AboutDrama.
And a little insite to your "knowledge of history" (BTW I know since you probably don't get this, but that was sarcasm), well ... it's off. First off even though the pilgrims escaped persecution from england, they themselves persecuted other religions more than anyone else. Yes they wanted religious freedom for themselves, but they didn't allow others religious freedom. Are they winners in your book?
And those that escaped civil persecution are now know as runaway slaves huh (sarcasm again). So the Irish, the Jews, the southern white trash, and pretty much anyone who wasn't an anglo-saxon protestant landowner was a runaway slave huh. Wow, I never knew that. I always thought that Slaves who ran away from their masters were known as runaway slaves. But it turns out it was anyone who escaped from civil persecution from the south and entered the civil persecution in north that was a runaway slave. Hmmm, thanks for that info. (sarcasm once again)
Puritans as winners or losers. Who started saying people were losers at all? I believe it was you so you can argue with yourself further. Why don't you tell me who you think is a winner and who you think is a loser, then post a reply to yourself what you think about that.
nanimoshiranaihito wrote:
Dumbass, I think she/he would know that it was addressed to him/her. Why? Because THE ENTIRE POST WAS ADDRESSED TO HIM/HER. How does he/she know it? Because it was in a reply to his/her post.
You on the other hand seem to think that all my posts are directed towards you. Why? Because you're a dumbass who can't seem to read more than a sentence, that's why.
Next time learn to reply to posts that are directed towards you.
Why, why, why? You know why and there is nothing you can do about it. This dumbass humilated you and continues to do, then you agree with me at times- grudgingly.
As for not reading the entire post, it's because most of it is fluff and criticism with no merit.
OMG, can it be? You replied to a post that was actually directed towards you!!! Congrats. Now please show me where I said that you believe the purpose of a company is to be sweet or generous?
READ: I NEVER SAID IT, AND I NEVER SAID YOU SAID IT. But you don't deny the consession that dramas do not exclusively entertain us.
Also please show me where I said Dramas "exclusively" entertain us? Obviously you need to learn the meaning of the word "purpose", you vocabulary school reject. I said that the "purpose" for companies is to make money, and imo our "purpose" for watching dramas should be entertainment only. Also, I said imo anyone who makes it their "purpose" to learn something from a drama (learn the meaning of the word "tries") is a retard. That is my opinion, if someone thinks it was harsh, then sorry. I never however said that it is impossible to learn something from a drama. It's a ridiculous statement because you can learn something from anything. You can learn something from taking a **** even. Hopefully, a by-product here was that you learned to read an entire paragraph before posting crap.
The whole bottom of the paragraph is what i told you. Do you have anything else to regurgitate? From your professor maybe?
Oh really? You never said that did you?
I have someone else to put words in my mouth for me.
Hmm, according to this, YOU DID! And what the hell does that last sentence mean anyway? You want me to put words in your mouth so I can argue with myself? ummm yeah ... for someone who criticizes others for minor mistakes, you sure do make a lot of them yourself. Anyway, you want me to put words in your mouth, no problem.
*me putting words in your mouth* "I can't read a paragraph for ****, and apparently I can't write one either, yet for some reason I feel it necessary to look through other peoples posts, find insignificant grammar, vocab etc errors and start giving them **** about it".
I'm so glad you decided to stop posting, it saves me a headache trying to decipher the crap you write and where you get ideas for your crap as well, but just in case you do deicde to post again
1) read the entire post, if you're too stupid to do that, read an entire paragraph before replying, if you're too stupid to do that ... I really feel sorry for you.
2) Learn to reply to posts that are directed to you. If it's not directed at you and you want to reply to it, fine, just don't start connecting it to yourself. You're not important, and I wasn't thinking of you when I wrote it.
3) stop being such a grammar ****. Not every sentence can be perfect, stop picking out small sentences that might look fragmanted and start giving me **** about it. It is impossible to get a point across in one sentence, that's why sentences are put together to form paragraphs. Also, it's not always easy to get your point across from paragraphs, that's why paragraphs are put together to form posts. If you try hard enough you can find mistakes with any one single sentence.
4) using big words does not make you cool. We all have a dictionary and thesaurus, we can all do it.
Yawn... Save yourself the trouble of thinking if it gives you a headache. Nanimoshiranaihito.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 00:42
by bakan3ko
not pretty girls! others are fine.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 01:24
by lazybum
i think it's completely possible otherwise you'd only have friends of the same sex as you, and we all know that none of us have only friends that are girls or for guys, only guys.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 03:59
by AboutDrama
Hi kotaeshiranaihito,
Thanks for posting your opinion. I greatly appreciate it.
Thanks for inviting me for real time conversation but I don’t think I’ll accept it. After reading your post I already feel slighted by you and you even personally attack me and make assumption of me even you don’t even know me??? From the post, I read between the lines and I can feel your emotion while writing the post. You have proven to me that you ‘re intelligent and smart. OK. So just chill man…
AGAIN, thanks for your opinion and I truly truly respect your opinion. Have a good day.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 04:11
by kotaeshiranaihito
AboutDrama wrote:Hi kotaeshiranaihito,
Thanks for posting your opinion. I greatly appreciate it.
Thanks for inviting me for real time conversation but I don’t think I’ll accept it. After reading your post I already feel slighted by you and you even personally attack me and make assumption of me even you don’t even know me??? From the post, I read between the lines and I can feel your emotion while writing the post. You have proven to me that you ‘re intelligent and smart. OK. So just chill man…
AGAIN, thanks for your opinion and I truly truly respect your opinion. Have a good day.
Sorry if I hurt you, that definitely wasn't my intention. I'm not really good at message board stuff. And don't worry I'm always chill
, it honestly takes a lot to get me angry, almost never happens on a message board.
Posted: Oct 12th, '06, 11:37
by ocha otoko
from the looks of it things got pretty heated there... but hey hang on now guys, you do know things like the media and femenism *spelling will always remain controversal...so is there really a point to discussing it on a board like this while the question was if guys and girls can just be friends.
now looking at it all again...we should get one thing clear first...and that is...the term 'friend' and 'friendship' are different to every person and when we can't even settle on that yet there is no point talking about anything more...
the way i see it... if you see 'friendship' as something that doesn't get affected by the sex of your friend then...i see no reason why guys and girls just be friends... but if you are the type that cannot bring the opposite sex and friendship together,...then it can't be done then...nothing wrong with that...so as ive said..it depends...so there's really no argument...this topic was quite ambiguous...
Posted: Jan 5th, '07, 06:20
by xbabygmonsterx
the person I talk to the most after my boyfriend online and on the phone is my guy friend Matt. we've been pretty good friends for a while now and there's no feelings besides friendship
Posted: Jan 8th, '07, 15:31
by mun78
i'll say this, i have had sexual desires for everyone female friend that I have ever had, because of that hormonal crap, but i've never taken it as far as a relationship, because I'd rather be carefree and have fun than ruin a good relationship.
Posted: Jan 8th, '07, 15:43
by i'mNOangel
i think that is maybe possible but on mostly cases is always the girl is secretly in love with the boy or he opposite....i have a guy friend and i have crush on him for quite a while now.but it's just what i think thought.
Posted: Jan 8th, '07, 15:51
by NADZ
does it make a big difference if he/she thinks of u are a sister/bro.???
Posted: Jan 8th, '07, 21:58
by cacharel*
i think that it is possible..
as for me..
i have more male friends as females..
don't know why, but somehow i can communicate better with the guys as with the girls..
and guys seem to be more understanding
of course there are also a few girls who mean a loot to me..
i can talk with them about everything and we are always together
those girls also have the same friends as me and also think that they feel more comfortable around guys
i know..it sounds kinda strange^^
Posted: Jan 11th, '07, 23:33
by sveta
its possible to be friends without sex. I have a close male friend and we're friends and nothing else.
Posted: Jan 12th, '07, 00:31
by Yunase
NADZ wrote:does it make a big difference if he/she thinks of u are a sister/bro.???
Yes, if she's really your good friend, then she's trully considering you as her most respected pal, or more simple, she doesn't want you as her boyfriend, which means : no sex !
Posted: Jan 17th, '07, 13:41
by the dark angel
I also think that girls and boys can be friends..
I have many 'boy friends' whom I like very much, but not in the romantic way
Posted: Jan 21st, '07, 01:29
by MatsuJunlover
It's very possible...I had a best guy friend and we had been friends since he was 6 and I was 7...everyone in school assumed we were dating but well we weren't. We were just really good friends and he asked me if i thought we should try dating and i said 'sure, why not, everyone already thinks we are...'
Yeah it was a big mistake...he adored me, and well to me...he was like a brother so when he went to kiss me...awkward!
It actually destroyed a good friendship.
Sometimes being friends can make a relationship easy...and well other times it's better to stay friends. Sometimes you need to step back and think... "do I want them as my friend...or my boyfriend/girlfriend?" To me...I would always choose friend...because if you break up with a friend you decided to date, it's hard to go back to being just friends...
you can talk to your friends about your relationships...but well it's hard to talk to a friend your in a relationship with...about the relationship.
Posted: May 21st, '08, 01:10
by akiko-chico
Yes I believe guys can and girls can just be friends. I have quite a few good guy friends.
Posted: May 29th, '08, 03:24
by kgobea
friends like i see you every 3-4 days....yes!
friends like i see you everyday and we hangout...No!
bestfriends??....HELL NO!
IT WILL EVENTUALLY CROSS THE LINE.
i am a tomboy so all my friends are guys and i have crossed that line more than a few times. good thing i think like a guy too and didnt ruin any friendships.
this is my own opinion so please respect it, just like i respect yours ^_^
Posted: May 30th, '08, 04:05
by Yuki.A
I say it is possible. But for me I mostly have girls as friends because you know 'girls' lol. I just feel more comfortable with us womens. I'm not saying I don't talk to any guys but it always turns around from friendship to love. Not me liking the guy though. I'm the kind that is easy going and can talk to anyone. And when I get close to someone I joke and play around a lot. Which the other side I guess takes it the wrong way? But they end up liking me all the time. And when they come forward with and tell me and ask me out, I end up feeling bad because I have to hurt there feelings, which I don't like to do that but I have to. And when I find out that someone likes me and I don't like them back like the way they do, I start to feel uncomfortable. I can't even look at there face. I try to avoid them if I can. But overall I say guy and girl friendship can happen as long as either side don't fall for each other or one side fall for the other.
Posted: May 30th, '08, 10:39
by meredith
i vote for yes! i think it is possible for boys and girls to be just friends... it wasnt nothing like love relationship. friends doesnt means you can only be friend with the same gender as you are. you can always make friends with people other than your gender. that's make life intrstng... i guess.
for me, i rather make friends with guys. it's not that i'm so bitchy or anything else, it just that i think that most girls are hypocrite. they just be with me for some reasons and then leave when they get what they want. besides, girls can be very greedy when it comes to knowledge but guys, they always respect you and answer everything you ask... that's me
i dont know bout others...
Posted: Jun 6th, '08, 05:01
by zippyflu
do friends get physical like tickle each other and wrestle ??
Posted: Jun 26th, '08, 16:35
by Ruka707
I vote for yes.
For example, I have a veryveryvery best female friend, but except her, I only have male friends. Most of them are like brothers to me. My relationship with guys was always good (I grew up surrounded by boys - I have three brothers.), and I'm kind of boyish... so we can understand each other pretty good.
Posted: Jun 29th, '08, 03:49
by danchemistry
Yes why not.
Posted: Jun 29th, '08, 05:40
by Lovelymagic
Yes I think so. Because a nice guy don't stand a chance, therefor there is no reason to become more than friends. For I would really like to be friends with women and watch alot of dramas with, but where the heck are you damn romantic females. I need someone to watch my dramas with...as friends
!!
Posted: Jun 29th, '08, 06:10
by engchunh
No they must ---
Posted: Jun 30th, '08, 19:23
by biniBningPunkista
it is possible especially if the guy is gay. kidding aside, it really is possible ^_^v
Posted: Jun 30th, '08, 22:54
by DemonofRazgriz1
I voted yes.
For me, a guy, I only have one guy best friend but I have 4 girl best friends. It's always been the case that I've been able to communicate with girls better guys. And while I do like one of my girl-friends, it doesn't limit me at all when I hangout with her.
Posted: Jul 2nd, '08, 14:41
by angel's advocate
voted yes. absolutely! i have a lot of male friends. in fact, we had a similar discussion amongst a group of friends about a year back because that group consisted of mostly males and the females in that group (myself included) tended not be 'girlish' girls. don't get me wrong, i can put on a pretty dress and do my makeup as well as the next gal and i have a pretty decent sense of fashion. i also have my share of female friends both in and outside of that group. but pretty much all the girls in that group were saying in reality, a lot of us within that group felt more comfortable with males unless the other girls were like ourselves, and more logically/practically minded, and not prone to emotional fluctuations or flirting. it's not so much that we don't understand any of the things that girls typically talk about or do, it was simply that we had the ability to laugh at a lot of the silly things associated with being female, or the stereotypes that surrounded us.
that aside, communicating with males is much more straightforward. they'll pretty much tell you what they think and when they're angry, they'll show it. it's direct. girls tend to be more underhanded (not to say this applies to all females). if they're angry, they might not tell or they'll tell you they're not when they're behaviour clearly says otherwise. if they don't like you, they're less likely to confront you directly, they'll just tell everyone else behind your back.
i'm also on pretty good terms with my ex. we stopped dating a couple of years back and after an initial cool off period, we've been in touch on and off. i'm generally pretty up-to-date with what goes on in his love life because he's happy to tell me everything.
Posted: Jul 2nd, '08, 14:46
by melonyhappy
yah....a good portion of my friends are guys....
Posted: Jul 4th, '08, 04:40
by zyrene
yes it is possible but one thing is for sure one of them if not the two, doesnt want to be just a friend. specially when they are really close eventually one of them will fall for the other. but if no one will make a move then they will be just friends forever, and thats sad...
Posted: Sep 12th, '08, 03:07
by banno
I think it is possible to be friends with a member of the opposite gender. There will be a risk of falling for one another if either/neither one aren,t attached though.
Posted: Sep 12th, '08, 03:43
by risjenny
iam so sick of the bullshit that people say that guys and girsl can never be friends bcos of th eoppsite sex...of course they can friends and good friends too..the oppsosite sex dont make a different..its all about how well you and ur friends know each other just like a guy-guy friends or girl girl friends..its not like we all are attracted to all the guys that comes along and that we see..why cant people understand the same with guys and girls being friends..i have had many many good guys friends..of course there ae always rumours going around bcos humans like to gossip by its nature..but i clearly show it infront of my friends and others that its simply friendships..right from the start..
½ of the people that start gossiping and thinking otherwise, is simply ignorant envioused (unconsciously) or too bored of their own life...
Posted: Nov 2nd, '08, 16:41
by Rabu
I would say yes.
I mean, why not?
I don't think this is impossible, you just must not come to close to your friend
Posted: Nov 2nd, '08, 22:42
by azntina
Yes it's possible!! Just as long as one doesn't start falling for the other, then it become awkward if you know what I mean.
Posted: Nov 4th, '08, 05:57
by lucus_clyne
i voted yes.
well, for me it's way way way better to have guy friends than girl friends because guys tend to say everything without pretenses and they say things that will help you to be a better person either in a positive nor negative ways. I have more guy friends than girls and it's great that I have them.
zippyflu wrote:do friends get physical like tickle each other and wrestle ??
yep, it's a way of showing how much they really appreciate one another. My friends tend to do this to me whenever they are happy and they just like to tease me haha...
Posted: Nov 4th, '08, 10:24
by little_jen
It is possible for a guy and a girl to be friends. But in my case I have a friend and eventually we end up dating and now we broke up because we think we best being just friends. We are much happy being just friends, I might say that friendship is a best foundation in a relationship.
Posted: Nov 10th, '08, 07:28
by christinegee
yes n no
Posted: Nov 10th, '08, 07:37
by br4nd0n
yes they can be friends, but only with certain circumstances.
Posted: Nov 15th, '08, 08:26
by LiL_gianT23
i have a lot of friends of the opposite gender.. and we're all good and just friends..
Posted: Dec 5th, '08, 22:15
by cesothao
narushinyak wrote:IMO, It is very possible if both are not attracted to their physical looks at all.. if they were already bf/gf it's very hard to stay as just friends.. because being just friends is same as falling for the other except you are not really physically attracted.. being just a friend as in seeing each other once in awhile maybe.. but never a close friend me thinks.. -_-; I mean.. even though looks aren't everything.. you end up falling for someone because they will suddenly look attractive to you physically .. to a certain degree. On the other hand.. you can be friends with anyone almost despite what you think about their looks. therefore I vote no!
what you said is true but I voted YES b/c I have a guy friend whom is decent looking but certainly isn't my type..and im pretty sure im not his type either b/c his gf and I have nothing in common. haha.. but the thing is that after getting to know him pretty well and just hanging out, I have started to treat him as one of the girls... or you can say like a sibling.. nothing more or less.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '09, 15:24
by Calevera
with my female friends, I tend to wonder 'what if we progress to romance?'. The thought just comes and goes, but I don't act upon it.
So, in the end, we remain friends and don't cross the line into romance but that doesn't mean the thoughts don't cross my mind.
People are different, though. Maybe I'm not strong enough to fend off the romantic thoughts like others could be.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '09, 22:51
by Phantasia
It's possible. If both the guy and the girl doesn't feel attraction to one another. Or if one of them is lesbian/gay. =]. If they are attracted, they may feel to want more affection and if one doesn't. It'll be difficult to stay friends.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '09, 23:05
by kuro570
My best friend is female.. as for anything else... yeah I used to like her and also have special privs when those certain times she had no bf or when she got into a fight with them
Posted: Mar 23rd, '09, 23:08
by groink
Calevera wrote:People are different, though. Maybe I'm not strong enough to fend off the romantic thoughts like others could be.
This statement of "fending off" a feeling sounds more like you're fighting the urge or avoiding the urge overall by convincing yourself that the friendship is more important. That's like alcoholics, where they'll never become non-alcoholics because the urge will forever and ever be there - they just deal with it through the 12 steps. I think most, if not a high majority of guys put themselves through this sense of doubt, in order to keep the relationship friendship status. I don't know why guys even put themselves through that, as though the friendship is THAT important to them.
For me, if I feel a sexual attraction towards a female friend, I'll act on it! I've seen far FAR too many people in their later years say crap like, "What if!" Well, "What If!" is not in my vocabulary. Many young people think that their lives are all about making friends and such. Well, enjoy it while you're attending college or high school. Because by your mid-20s, your thoughts will mature and you'll start thinking about things like building a career, building a family, finding a spouse, but at the same time think a lot LESS about friends. What if one of your friends back then was "the one?" You'll think about it in your 30s... your 40s... your 50s, and so on. Those few years of preserving the friendship IMHO is not worth the decades that follow wondering "What if?" - especially if you don't even see these people ever again. That's the number-one thing I've learned when I reached my 40s.
--- groink
Posted: Mar 23rd, '09, 23:16
by ethidda
Sure, guys and girls can be platonic friends, but I think it needs to develop into that over some time. I think (as a girl) when you meet a guy (who's reasonably attractive), you always wonder for a bit what it'd be like to date him, but as you get to know him better, maybe you realize that the romance would never be there.
Maybe in more conservative cultures, it's not possible, but I think in today's culture, it is. I mean, otherwise, you can also ask, can two girls be platonic friends with each other? After all, we have pop songs like "I kissed a girl" being so popular on the radio and playing everywhere.
Posted: Mar 24th, '09, 14:04
by nankasento
groink wrote:Calevera wrote:People are different, though. Maybe I'm not strong enough to fend off the romantic thoughts like others could be.
This statement of "fending off" a feeling sounds more like you're fighting the urge or avoiding the urge overall by convincing yourself that the friendship is more important. That's like alcoholics, where they'll never become non-alcoholics because the urge will forever and ever be there - they just deal with it through the 12 steps. I think most, if not a high majority of guys put themselves through this sense of doubt, in order to keep the relationship friendship status. I don't know why guys even put themselves through that, as though the friendship is THAT important to them.
For me, if I feel a sexual attraction towards a female friend, I'll act on it! I've seen far FAR too many people in their later years say crap like, "What if!" Well, "What If!" is not in my vocabulary. Many young people think that their lives are all about making friends and such. Well, enjoy it while you're attending college or high school. Because by your mid-20s, your thoughts will mature and you'll start thinking about things like building a career, building a family, finding a spouse, but at the same time think a lot LESS about friends. What if one of your friends back then was "the one?" You'll think about it in your 30s... your 40s... your 50s, and so on. Those few years of preserving the friendship IMHO is not worth the decades that follow wondering "What if?" - especially if you don't even see these people ever again. That's the number-one thing I've learned when I reached my 40s.
--- groink
I agree with groink, I too had that in my early 20s, hell I even had a time when I thought screw family as well and just packed my bags and moved across the globe.
Friends you can choose unfortunately family you can not.
Friendship is a two way street if your the only one working on it cut it off and keep on moving, it ain't worth your time, there are enough people on the planet to meet and they might be much better friends then the ones your dwelling on.
I apply that with all my friends not just the opposite gender, if it's not two ways it ain't worth my time, I'd rather spent that time on my career or extra R&R for myself or friends that are worth my while.
And although I'm going towards forty I don't have the urge to start a family, I see this with my family and friends, everyone is getting married left and right and starting their own family, some are even trying to push me to start one and they can all just kiss my arse, I'm the one who decides that and no one else and I sure as hell don't give a **** about the family name and continuing it, hell in the event I actually do get married I'm thinking of changing my surname just to piss of some of the family on purpose.
Euh... yeah to get back on the subject, if it's not going anywhere and your dwelling on it with 'what ifs' its better to just move on, life's to short and there are more worthwhile experiences around the corner.
Posted: Mar 31st, '09, 01:49
by okgo
Yes, it's possible. The difficult thing with having a bff of the opposite gender is when it comes to dealing with a GF who can't understand why your best friend is a girl. -_-
Posted: Apr 12th, '09, 11:10
by oeyamw
aftering voting, i think i say something here...
i think it's possible, because likely both parties have already know what state of relationships are they in. if one changed his/her mind to want to further a deeper relationship, i think it could be hard to accept for other party. nevertheless, there's possibility that the good friend may end up falling in love with his/her good friend.
Posted: Apr 12th, '09, 11:32
by kaheiyeh
To be quite honest, I have quite a few female friends that I am quite close with but I would never consider going deeper than it is now. Granted I did go out with one of them for a very short while but we both figured it wouldn't work. We're still close friends in the end and I think that's how it's going to stay.
Does get slightly annoying though when they constantly come asking how to deal with their BFs though ... (゚ロ ゚ノ)ノ
Posted: Apr 12th, '09, 12:58
by ssih
There are several situations where a guy and girl can be just friends:
1) Both are gay.
2) One's hot, the other is gay.
3) Neither are hot, but both think they're hotter than the other.
But the easiest and most common situation:
They're married to each other.
Posted: Apr 12th, '09, 20:57
by Katschoo
ssih that was nearly funny...
Posted: May 8th, '09, 01:40
by Jhobbit
Once you sleep with your friends, it kinda kills the relationship and really hard to go back to being just friends. If you want to keep this friend then think carefully about what it will do.
Posted: May 8th, '09, 12:21
by kittykhatz20
I think it's possible... I mean, I like hanging out with guys, sometimes even more than with girls except when they talk about their stuff.... I also know my guy friends too well that the idea of dating them would just make me puke... aheheheh well they're good friends and they're really good unwanted-suitor repellents. My buddies are not bad looking mind you a lot of girls in school go gaga on them and well the bad side is I will encounter haters for being their friends... I have good relationships with their GFs then and they're ok with the guy I was seeing then so it was cool...
you can't undermind the issue of unrequited love though, but i think that with enough will there is nothing that people will eventually get over with once they grow up....
i think it's possible to have a platonic friend/s of the opposite sex... It doesn't really matter if your best friend is a girl or boy...it's an ideal setup though to love your best friend and for him or her to be the love of your life coz they basically fell in love with the whole package... best friends normally know your good and bad side and for them to still like you, that's really something but some people are just meant to be your friends while others can start as friends then be more... it totally depends...i think friendship is not entirely impossible. I don't know if I made any sense...
Posted: May 8th, '09, 12:32
by ringosan
i think it is possible for boys n girls being best friends,,because for guys i think average they really think a girl is a friend when u say lets be friend..boys stick to that and when u want to change the friendship to like lovers they might starting to keep a distance with the girl..same think with the girl if they really meant friendship with the boy..it becomes weird and awkward you know..
Re: Is it possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends?
Posted: Jun 23rd, '09, 09:41
by sistergirl
yes,it's possible for a guy and girl to be friends. i am girl and i have lots of guy friends.
Re: Is it possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends?
Posted: Jun 23rd, '09, 10:14
by groink
sistergirl wrote:yes,it's possible for a guy and girl to be friends. i am girl and i have lots of guy friends.
Ask each of them, "Tell me the truth... Have you ever thought about me naked?"
I have lady friends who tell other friends, "Oh, groink? He doesn't think about me sexually", and yet I know their bra sizes. I don't know why women think like this. It is as if they don't think of themselves as sexually appealing, which IMO is the root of the issue. And, at the same time, guys will very rarely ever admit to it. They think that it'll upset the friendship. I have absolutely no problem telling my lady friends, if asked, that I find them to be a good f*ck. Even the married ones - if one of them break up with her husband, I have no problem satisfying her sexually if asked. It is still a friendship, but as one of my lady friends say in her blogs, it is FWB.
--- groink
Posted: Jun 23rd, '09, 14:09
by morserachel
I'll say it is possible. It is not wrong to see each other as a man or woman but the important thing to know is where to draw the line. One of my best friend is male and I know he has special feelings for me but we both know where the line is and consciously never attempt to cross it. Do I have thoughts of him being naked? Yes, at times, but that is where it will stay, in my head. I believe why we can remain close friends is simply that we work at it and set the limits as to what is permissible and what is not.
friends
Posted: Jul 14th, '09, 13:58
by dabogy
everything is possible, just go with the flow
than to regret in the future
Posted: Jan 13th, '10, 12:24
by bomber1122
Possible, but most likely not ver small probablity
Posted: Feb 25th, '10, 07:45
by pinkie
i dunno bout others but it's difficult for me to remain as good freinds with him. I don't realize i'm in love with him until he told me he wanted to get to know another girl. i got so jealous i hung up on him. the next day i pretend to ask him some questions but i told him i dunno how to ask him bout it, he says "like that no need to ask lo"..i think he could sensed it
Posted: Feb 25th, '10, 08:07
by OnlyWish
i think so when there is no attraction
Posted: Mar 8th, '10, 20:46
by Franashi
Yes, it's possible. One of my bf is a guy, we know each other like five years ago and we know that we don't like in a "love" way, that we would never be together like that and I had have a plenty of really male good friends and we didn't fall in love or something...
(I just know a case of a couple... but they were like "the perfect couple" since the start, that's the only case... xD)
Posted: Mar 8th, '10, 22:20
by Cherek
Mataku, somtetimes I get the impression the lady's are trying to say "look I can have alot of male friends that do not thinks sexually of me" as if it some kind of sport/achievement.
PS. Groink is my hero on this matter
Disclamer: male mid 20's
Re: Is it possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends?
Posted: Mar 18th, '10, 04:17
by Fantastical
groink wrote:sistergirl wrote:yes,it's possible for a guy and girl to be friends. i am girl and i have lots of guy friends.
Ask each of them, "Tell me the truth... Have you ever thought about me naked?"
I have lady friends who tell other friends, "Oh, groink? He doesn't think about me sexually", and yet I know their bra sizes. I don't know why women think like this. It is as if they don't think of themselves as sexually appealing, which IMO is the root of the issue. And, at the same time, guys will very rarely ever admit to it. They think that it'll upset the friendship. I have absolutely no problem telling my lady friends, if asked, that I find them to be a good f*ck. Even the married ones - if one of them break up with her husband, I have no problem satisfying her sexually if asked. It is still a friendship, but as one of my lady friends say in her blogs, it is FWB.
--- groink
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Posted: Mar 18th, '10, 04:49
by Peggy
Fantastical!!!!!!!!!!!
Get back to Ethlenn before she lashes you with her nine tails .... you are needed.
Peg
Posted: Mar 18th, '10, 05:41
by Neliets
In real life definitely. In dramas - I doubt it.