Do you allow a kiss on your first date?
Do you allow a kiss on your first date?
Do you allow a kiss on your first date?
I think this question sound like for the girls.
Well Girl! What is your response?
This question might be for the guy too. I'm sorry.
For the guy out there, do you wish to kiss the girls on the first date?
What kind of kiss do you wish to kiss the girl? A gentle kiss Or……
I think this question sound like for the girls.
Well Girl! What is your response?
This question might be for the guy too. I'm sorry.
For the guy out there, do you wish to kiss the girls on the first date?
What kind of kiss do you wish to kiss the girl? A gentle kiss Or……
why freerose, are you dying of wanting to kiss somebody, but not so sure if you'll do the right thing? you don't give us your answer to that subject....any way it's gross to kiss somebody you really don't know yet....where has his mouth been for the last 24 hours? .... then there's the kiss of death and kiss of life, which one do you want to recieve or give? ....sorry, just being silly here ....
i wouldn't allow a kiss on my first date because i wouldn't want someone i didn't know very well to get close to me physically without getting to know who i am first. But maybe if it was a first date with somebody i knew for a while and had a crush on for a long time then..~~~ ehe..i might let what i say slide just a bit~
Kissing... on a first date? Like this?
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hmmm it depends on your relationship or current status when you have your first date... strangers, friends, close friends or what? right? hehe
it is very shameful if you tried to kiss and get slapped, but i think guys would like to kiss their dates, it depends on how they manage to .. umm make their date agree on that.. hahaha
it is very shameful if you tried to kiss and get slapped, but i think guys would like to kiss their dates, it depends on how they manage to .. umm make their date agree on that.. hahaha
giving your instrument? are we still talking about kissing? If so, I sincerely wonder what it is that you keep in your 'toolbox'?wai_muna wrote:not at all...puh leasee...i wouldnt giving my instrument easily..
BTW. to docipain.
what does 'docipain' stand for? Right now, I can't seem to get rid of reading it as a portmanteau for 'docile' and 'pain' possibly meaning either somekind of masochistic behavior or an anti-depressant drug. Please fill me in here.
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it's a feeling you get.....
I think the situation and the person you are with will determine this. People will give subtle clues ( or not so subtle) of the behavior that they want or don't want.
For me, I am flexible if it happens, it happens. I am not certain that going into a date with preconcieved notions is a good thing. After all, if you say you won't, but then REALLY decide you want to....now you're stuck in a dilemma.
Although, sometimes boundries are a good thing....if the feeling is coming off pretty strong from both of you....a first date kiss isn't the worst thing that could happen.
I kissed my wife on the first date ( she was going back to Japan the next day and I didn't know if I would get another chance !! ) and here we are still married and just had our 8th anniversary.
What I'm saying is....be flexible.
For me, I am flexible if it happens, it happens. I am not certain that going into a date with preconcieved notions is a good thing. After all, if you say you won't, but then REALLY decide you want to....now you're stuck in a dilemma.
Although, sometimes boundries are a good thing....if the feeling is coming off pretty strong from both of you....a first date kiss isn't the worst thing that could happen.
I kissed my wife on the first date ( she was going back to Japan the next day and I didn't know if I would get another chance !! ) and here we are still married and just had our 8th anniversary.
What I'm saying is....be flexible.
Hi,
I kiss my gf when we went out for like 30-40 dates, who is now my wife (we recently got married and holding customary in NOV 2006, every one is invited ).
I think as asian i have different family values as compare to American or Europen and i think one have to give some time to understand each other before start smooching around .
I believe you only treasure importance of something when you earn it with trust and hardwork not just on first day of your date .
I kiss my gf when we went out for like 30-40 dates, who is now my wife (we recently got married and holding customary in NOV 2006, every one is invited ).
I think as asian i have different family values as compare to American or Europen and i think one have to give some time to understand each other before start smooching around .
I believe you only treasure importance of something when you earn it with trust and hardwork not just on first day of your date .
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huh?
What do you mean asians have a different value system?? And you only value something if you wait for it???
I'm Chinese and my wife is Japanese. How much more asian do you get?!? As for how precious to me she is; I would do anything or kill anyone or even die for her and my daughter.
I am certain your statement was not meant this way, but don't assume because we knew on the first date something special was happening between us, that those feelings are not strong. Ever hear of love at first sight?
Kissing on the first date should be fine if both of think it is good. Life is too short to waste. ( This doesn't mean jump in bed with anybody at anytime!! ) But when it's right.......
By the way......Congratulations on your marriage! Very cool thing.
I'm Chinese and my wife is Japanese. How much more asian do you get?!? As for how precious to me she is; I would do anything or kill anyone or even die for her and my daughter.
I am certain your statement was not meant this way, but don't assume because we knew on the first date something special was happening between us, that those feelings are not strong. Ever hear of love at first sight?
Kissing on the first date should be fine if both of think it is good. Life is too short to waste. ( This doesn't mean jump in bed with anybody at anytime!! ) But when it's right.......
By the way......Congratulations on your marriage! Very cool thing.
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Re: huh?
huh??? im confused. i know thats often, but im really confused this time.valory wrote:I totally understand your feelings for your wife and daughter. I feel the same about my crystal meth.boobookitty wrote:As for how precious to me she is; I would do anything or kill anyone or even die for her and my daughter.
Re: huh?
niko, please allow me to de-fuse younikochanr3 wrote:huh??? im confused. i know thats often, but im really confused this time.valory wrote:I totally understand your feelings for your wife and daughter. I feel the same about my crystal meth.boobookitty wrote:As for how precious to me she is; I would do anything or kill anyone or even die for her and my daughter.
I was just trying to find a subtle way to point out this SCARY quality of love. I mean, these kind of utterances totally freak me out. Dying for your spouse or children, I can still forgive as a token of love, but 'killing ANYONE', crosses the line for me. Then were just stepping out of the love-bus straight into the kookoo-train heading for nutcase-village.
Addict behavior. Hence the drug reference.
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you would want to entice the guy.. if i were you, I wouldn't allow the first kiss on the 1st date. Even to a guy I like, I would let him wait until the 2nd/3rd date then allow him to kiss on the cheek. If indeed you know that he likes you alot and you do the same then a kiss on the cheek or the forehead on the 1st date is ok.
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It is kind of silly having to set up a numbered rule for dating. It amounts to one's insecurity to trust their own instincts, that they have to formulate or borrow someone else's rules. If there is chemistry, then both would surely know.
Self-confidence is really important. If you play a numbers game, you might not even make it to date #2.
Self-confidence is really important. If you play a numbers game, you might not even make it to date #2.
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well...i dont think its so much of "allowing" yourself to kiss your partner on the first date...i think its more of how comfortable you feel around them. I mean if this is the first date, a kiss would be appropriate if you feel like you're really in love and you feel comfortable with the person. However, i really dont think you should kiss someone just because you feel that you are "suppose" to kiss on a date...or that a date is "suppose" to end with a kiss goodnight or something. -sighh- But what do i really know? Im fifteen years old and have never gone on a date in my life .
i wouldnt mind...it would be nice to get to kiss your date on the first time. ...but it also depend if they are conservative or like how secure they are. because you dont want to blow it, in the last second ... but anyhow just to be safe, just hug your date ... but just try to follow your heart do what you got to do
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heeeeecks no. I'm rather conservative when it comes to dating. I've only kissed two guys before. the first was eh a few years back or okay two years back lol. It was after 2 weeks of dating and everything felt rushed and I was uncomfy and didn't like it. It didn't last too long either -_- only about 2 weeks after that.My current boyfriend and I've been dating for 2 years and it took about 4 months to get kissing. or okay it was one weekend of kissing and then there was like shyness on my part and I didn't kiss him for like a week after that hahaaha. I like the slower paced relationships I guess
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To me it depends....sometimes you can have great chemistry with a person, other times you want to get to know them much better So to me it depends on the guy, sometimes it feels like you've known them forever and it makes kissing them easy, other times you just need to take a second glance and get to know them better...
so yeah...depends for me
so yeah...depends for me
Think its very hard to say, it depends on many aspects, really.. Not just how long uve known eachother, but also if u really love eachother, the mood, the moment..
As for me its strange, cause it could be easier to kiss for fun someone Im not really in love with, just for the heck of it, than someone I really like. Thats probably because then Im nervous and too aware of every little thing and so it doesnt flow naturally What I mean is, it will depend on how natural and comfortable it feels when u are together, no matter if a 1st date or not
As for me its strange, cause it could be easier to kiss for fun someone Im not really in love with, just for the heck of it, than someone I really like. Thats probably because then Im nervous and too aware of every little thing and so it doesnt flow naturally What I mean is, it will depend on how natural and comfortable it feels when u are together, no matter if a 1st date or not
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Most of the girls i kissed them, were before dating them.
why? it depends, once i was drunk , i kissed a girl and said that i love her (but it was half true), then she responded by a kiss. i didnt expect that she ll fall in love with me. after dating her many times, i explained to her my true feelings and asked to break up. (after reading this ,girls will say now that i m a bastard...)
the other girls i kissed, and dated them or not after.
actually i have never kissed a girl that i really love her...i acted romantic with each girl i dated and i hated doing it because i felt i was fake and she never notices that.
what kind? gentle at first.
do you wish to kiss the girls on the first date?
no, i d prefer after two or three dates at the perfect moment like in a movie or drama (lol in jdrama , i have to watch at least 6 or 8 ep so that the first kiss occurs!).
why? it depends, once i was drunk , i kissed a girl and said that i love her (but it was half true), then she responded by a kiss. i didnt expect that she ll fall in love with me. after dating her many times, i explained to her my true feelings and asked to break up. (after reading this ,girls will say now that i m a bastard...)
the other girls i kissed, and dated them or not after.
actually i have never kissed a girl that i really love her...i acted romantic with each girl i dated and i hated doing it because i felt i was fake and she never notices that.
what kind? gentle at first.
do you wish to kiss the girls on the first date?
no, i d prefer after two or three dates at the perfect moment like in a movie or drama (lol in jdrama , i have to watch at least 6 or 8 ep so that the first kiss occurs!).
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Well i wouldn't really call that being a bastard....i've kind of done that to guys before. Usually they kiss me and I half heartedly kiss back...but to me as kiss doesn't mean a lot unless you're really in love with the person and I can safely say...I wasn't in love with them.
I too would like the moment to be special, and it to be the right person, and I think you just know if the person is the right person.
I too would like the moment to be special, and it to be the right person, and I think you just know if the person is the right person.
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It kind of depends. If it was someone I wasn't very familiar with then probably not. I think kisses aren't something to just throw out. If it was someone that I'd known awhile and really liked of course. I'd rather wait a couple dates before we started kissing though. I mean there's no need to rush things. The world isn't going to come to an end tomorrow.
phramc wrote:It kind of depends. If it was someone I wasn't very familiar with then probably not. I think kisses aren't something to just throw out. If it was someone that I'd known awhile and really liked of course. I'd rather wait a couple dates before we started kissing though. I mean there's no need to rush things. The world isn't going to come to an end tomorrow.
Why leave for tomorrow the fun u can have today?? kidding. I just have little self discipline..
Know u were serious though.
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Well, yeah, guess if you knew the world was gonna end tomorrow you wouldnt even be on a first [and last] date Who knowsMatsuJunlover wrote:i would hope the world wasn't going to end tomorrow... and if it were....ummm kissing on a first date would be the last thing on my mind
As a Matsu Jun fan u probably watched Gokusen, right? Akanishi Jin was in Gokusen 2, along with Kazuya
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On first date? Most certainly not. If not, then, how many dates would it take me to allow a kiss to happen? It depends. I'm not that kind of person who take such a move or even permit that move from another person. But hey, I could be flexible IF I WANT to yet I take this serious as much as it should be. I want to have the feeling that I'm being pursued than having the sense of lusting/being lusted.
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It really just depends on personalities to tell you the truth. I mean if you are both extremely nervous on the first date, it may take a while to lead up to kissing. If there is a strong attraction and you both seem up for it, there really is no problem to kissing on the first date.
I feel that there really is no rule against kissing on a first date if it goes extremely well.
Just don't let a guy jump on you because that really isn't fair. If he asks or gives the initiative and you want to as well, then go ahead. If he starts kissing you and you were not prepared for it, it kind of can be intrusive and scary. Don't let first dates do that to you. You have to gain more trust from the guy before letting him suprise you like that in my opinion.
I feel that there really is no rule against kissing on a first date if it goes extremely well.
Just don't let a guy jump on you because that really isn't fair. If he asks or gives the initiative and you want to as well, then go ahead. If he starts kissing you and you were not prepared for it, it kind of can be intrusive and scary. Don't let first dates do that to you. You have to gain more trust from the guy before letting him suprise you like that in my opinion.
I agree with what you said. Just wanna add, if you are not up for it, don't let a guy nor a girl jump on you, because it isn't fair either. Thats because sometimes girls are the ones who make the first move.Le_Muse wrote:It really just depends on personalities to tell you the truth. I mean if you are both extremely nervous on the first date, it may take a while to lead up to kissing. If there is a strong attraction and you both seem up for it, there really is no problem to kissing on the first date.
I feel that there really is no rule against kissing on a first date if it goes extremely well.
Just don't let a guy jump on you because that really isn't fair. If he asks or gives the initiative and you want to as well, then go ahead. If he starts kissing you and you were not prepared for it, it kind of can be intrusive and scary. Don't let first dates do that to you. You have to gain more trust from the guy before letting him suprise you like that in my opinion.
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if me i dun want to kiss on my first date with sumone that i just started going out with
but sumtimes guys just get aggresive and yea things happened..lols
if u really2 like that sumone i think just a kiss should be fine but think how the girl or the guy might feel..sum ppl just very shy and dun like being kissed sum are just used to it...lols
it'll be better if love have grown between u 2....but as always bitter and sweet is the flavour of love^x^
but sumtimes guys just get aggresive and yea things happened..lols
if u really2 like that sumone i think just a kiss should be fine but think how the girl or the guy might feel..sum ppl just very shy and dun like being kissed sum are just used to it...lols
it'll be better if love have grown between u 2....but as always bitter and sweet is the flavour of love^x^
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The only way a guy is getting a first kiss from me is if that first date is with someone I ALREADY HAVE KNOWN FOR A MORE THAN A MONTH OR SO who just so happens to be on a first date with me. If I met someone two days ago and we happen to go on a date two days later, heck no he's not touching my lips.
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I think kissing isn't something "big", i mean, you can kiss your friend (if u're really drunk ) so you really doesn't have to love the guy/girl to kiss him/her! As long as you don't have sex at the first date, it's okay !
But I think by watching drama a "kiss" became something important... but dramas aren't realisitc at all -_- drama's couple never kiss each other o_O
But I think by watching drama a "kiss" became something important... but dramas aren't realisitc at all -_- drama's couple never kiss each other o_O
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