Delete post
It sounds like he is afraid to stand up for you and himself. And that's not right, I wouldn't like it very much if my boyfriend acted like that. If he even cared about you a little bit, he wouldn't let his brother and his brother's girlfriend treat you like that. That's verbal abuse, what they are doing to you, and its not right.
So my question is, how long are you going to let this happen? He's not doing anything about it, and yeah, I'd be really hurt too if I were you, I understand how your feeling. So, if he's not doing anything now, he probably won't do anything in the future either. So, you need to weigh how much you love him versus how much you are willing to stand being treated like this.
And if he continues to do nothing, then I'd leave him and find someone who knows how to respect a person and stand up for them and REALLY show them what it means to love them.
So my question is, how long are you going to let this happen? He's not doing anything about it, and yeah, I'd be really hurt too if I were you, I understand how your feeling. So, if he's not doing anything now, he probably won't do anything in the future either. So, you need to weigh how much you love him versus how much you are willing to stand being treated like this.
And if he continues to do nothing, then I'd leave him and find someone who knows how to respect a person and stand up for them and REALLY show them what it means to love them.
-
- Posts: 47
- Joined: Nov 14th, '06, 03:03
Wow that doesn't seem like much of love to me. If someone did love you i dont think they would let you fight battles alone and i know he seems to be in a bad position because he's in between the one he's in love with and his family, but if his family goes that far something should be said. Even though he tells you he loves you just never forget ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS. and to me it seems like his actions are barely whispering right now.
you did right by breaking up with him!! bcos he is freaking whimp!!!! afraid to get in conflict with his brother, he doesnt dare to speak up for you! Nobdy and i MEAN NOBODY would let someone talk **** about ur love ones!!!! iam sorry to put it this way but he is a p***y...i guy like that doesnt deserve you,... for my friends i would shake the roof off if something like this happened, bcos they are my friends..for the ones i truely love like BF, i would go further...if the guy just stood still and said nothing, he just lost my trust l*snap* like that..you are suppose to protect and care for ur loved ones, if he couldnt even stand up for you, imagine when worse things happens in the future, he would be running the other direction...sorry but security feeling within this guy is lost...
To me it seems like your boy friend just keep quiet because he didn't know what to do because he never was in a situation like that. i think after that happened that he probably is a little better at situations like that. i don't know him or you but u seem to care about him a lot. so i say if i was you i would think about giving him a second chance because everyone deserves a second chance. i mean i i had a boy friend that did that to me and i loved him very much i would give him a second chance. but what do i know i'm very optimistic anyways.
hope this helps you good luck
hope this helps you good luck
i dont know as i said before he might have not known how to deal with those situations. as i said i'm very optimistic. if you loved him the whole time and he loved you the whole time to that point i would find it in my heart to forgive him one last time and talk it out with him. maybe he isn't as bad as you think
well how much time passed since the first and second time. if it was a week or less well i mean can you expect anybody to change their ways in a few days. or has it been like a month or so then i understand what you mean. i know if it was me i might not be able someone i love that much you know what i mean
You did the right thing breaking up with him, I wouldn't want someone who says he loves me but can't stand up for me. And I can't believe he just stood there listening to his brother and his girlfriend bash at you, if he cared he would have at least told them to stop. And especially after giving him a second chance he can't even redeem himself. Plus if he can't even stand up to his own brother, just think in the future if you get into some kind of trouble, what will he do then? Just stand by and watch like a bystander? Breaking up with him was a good idea, because it shows that you mean business, if you kept giving him chances he'd probably won't take you seriously.
i'm telling you i would give him another chance because i know my parents went through the same thing when they were young. and my mom barely gave him a second chance, but he reedemed himself and everything worked out. the problem with my dad was that he was just a good person who would never hurt anything or anyone he was too good for his own good anybody could use him but he shaped up and they have been happily married for 23 years.
the way i see it... there's no point in another shot... It's better that u two broke up... I mean ...think about it... do u really want to date someone who's family has no respect for u and doesn't even treat u with common decently...u're boyfriend's brother doesn't seem to have any respect for ur boyfriend or for u... cause if he does even if he doesn't like u he would just quietly told ur boyfriend and let him make the decision himself and respect that decision... not have a blow out fight like the one u describe... and i can understand maybe why ur boyfriend didn't stand up for u in that fight... he probably thought it was stupid and childish to yell at his brother and his brother's girlfriend and didn't want to belittle himself... having said that I still think that even if he didn't want to belittle himself since it has already gotten to that point.. he should have said something on ur behalf... that would have been the boyfriend thing to do, especially if he loves u as much as he claimed to... and he should tell his brother to respect and treat u in a humanly fashion even if his brother doesn't like u because u are the girlfriend... I hope that make sense to u...love shouldn't have to be that complicated... that's just what I think...
-
- Posts: 41
- Joined: Jan 26th, '07, 04:08
OHH BY THE WAY, I JUST FOUND OUT THAT nstbgirl WAS indeed my ex boyfriend talking...
nstbgirl--i HOPE YOU SEE THAT THIS TIME ITS OVER--STOP CALLING ME
lol nice try ....
however , i think that he already check all the posts and people's opionions here . maybe if he really change this time .... i hope u would give him ONE LAST chance from my view this is totally his fault but i think that u still have some feeling left for him^^ ..... or maybe not then R.I.P Nstbgirl >.<
OMG NO WAY!!!guccijana wrote:OHH BY THE WAY, I JUST FOUND OUT THAT nstbgirl WAS indeed my ex boyfriend talking...
nstbgirl--i HOPE YOU SEE THAT THIS TIME ITS OVER--STOP CALLING ME
It so much shows how much of a coward he is, man I can't believe it seriously.
What's bugging me is in that story is that it seems he never gave you a kind of explanation for his behaviour, it doesn't look like it try to justify himself(not that there actually is an explanation, at least a valid one), nor did he try to apologise. He has to understand how badly he hurt you by doing it. Sweet words in love are good, but love is also about standing for each other, I mean if you can't count on the person you love to stand by you is it really worth it? I think you took the right decision, and I think he is being ungrateful , and almost impolite to your own family as well, when he lets you being bashed by his brother, whereas your parents defended him in other circumstances. I feel for you because I know how much it hurts to break with someone you still love, but sometimes it's just the best decision to make.
I wish you good luck for the coming days, or months, and I hope you'll meet someone worthy of your affection, you look like a nice person^^
Ah and I forgot to add: I don't believe in second chances, and unless he is begging you for it and he MEANS it, I don't think you should grant him this, but that's just my personal opinion^^
Who is online
Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 9 guests