He called me by another name
He called me by another name
So I'm friends with benefits with this one guy, Jake we'll call him.
Now we were at the club together and honestly, I don't care if he dances with another girl, or even makes out with another girl. However I ended up at the end of the night going back to his place however he kept calling me "Jen" which is extremely far from my real name.
I was shocked but I just ignored it because he was drunk. I layed in bed with him and he fell asleep but I just wasn't tired and didn't really want to be there so I ended up getting up and heading back to my own place. Did I have that right, and do I have the right to propose my argument or should I just drop it because we're only "friends"? Also he told me he hadn't had a real relationship in like 3 years, I figured that was a lie but kind of believed him due to his, eh, lack of experience, but after this, I don't know what to think anymore.
Should I just ditch period???
Now we were at the club together and honestly, I don't care if he dances with another girl, or even makes out with another girl. However I ended up at the end of the night going back to his place however he kept calling me "Jen" which is extremely far from my real name.
I was shocked but I just ignored it because he was drunk. I layed in bed with him and he fell asleep but I just wasn't tired and didn't really want to be there so I ended up getting up and heading back to my own place. Did I have that right, and do I have the right to propose my argument or should I just drop it because we're only "friends"? Also he told me he hadn't had a real relationship in like 3 years, I figured that was a lie but kind of believed him due to his, eh, lack of experience, but after this, I don't know what to think anymore.
Should I just ditch period???
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By all means DITCH him!!!!! B-tch at him too while you're at it!!!
The most important thing you have to have before getting into a relationship with anyone, be it friendship or some skewed romantic liaison is SELF RESPECT. Knowing your NAME and having the rest of the WORLD know it is the first indication of that.
You shouldn't even be talking let alone sleeping with someone who doesn't even know your name! Nobody should be so desperate to be with someone that they would tolerate remaining nameless as the bed he is sleeping on.
If you never talk to him again, it'll be no loss for you. Choose someone who respects you enough to know your name whether he is sober or blind stinking drunk.
Better yet -- don't go jumping into bed with anyone who's not even committed enough to remember your name. It's like sleeping with a wrong number.
The most important thing you have to have before getting into a relationship with anyone, be it friendship or some skewed romantic liaison is SELF RESPECT. Knowing your NAME and having the rest of the WORLD know it is the first indication of that.
You shouldn't even be talking let alone sleeping with someone who doesn't even know your name! Nobody should be so desperate to be with someone that they would tolerate remaining nameless as the bed he is sleeping on.
If you never talk to him again, it'll be no loss for you. Choose someone who respects you enough to know your name whether he is sober or blind stinking drunk.
Better yet -- don't go jumping into bed with anyone who's not even committed enough to remember your name. It's like sleeping with a wrong number.
If your relationship isn't deep (it sounds like it's not) then you really have nothing to lose if you ditch him quickly *shrug* Though I'm curious who's that Jen and I'd try to talk to him or maybe act annoyed and tell him "By the way, my name isn't Jen." and see what kind of explanation he's gonna tell.
Sooo he called me the next morning and was like 'why did you leave?" so i bitched him out and he ended up showing at my door with flowers and such and asked for my forgiveness and such. And I don't know, I semi forgave him to the point I still hang out with him. Mainly cause he's the only person I know in this city right now, but I told him I'm never staying over at his place again or any of that and I'm sticking to it.
Lol thanks! I just hung out with him tonight, and well he still kept trying to hold my hand and kiss me but I wasn't having any of it and he was all like "how come you don't like me anymore?" so I told him it's not that I don't it's that I can't trust him anymore and I only want to be friends and that I sure don't go kissing my other friends. He tried to act all okay with it but I could tell he was mad and I doubt I'll ever really see him again. Then again maybe he'll get over himself and we can be purely friends but who knows, he is a guy after all and their ego runs pretty deep lol. I just really need to meet more people -_- lol.
Thanks for all your support though guyz!
Thanks for all your support though guyz!
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lol ur kidding right???
friends with benefits???
wow i dont get this at all, i never understood things like dat, isnt "friends wit benefits" like a whenever u want it booty call agreement???
dont do that to urself find sumone who likes and respects you (and perferably only u) enough to know ur name lol
i dont mean ta be a jerk but it seems like your causing a problem for urself
but its your deal
but if ur not in a commited relationship why would it bother you if he was 'drunk' and calling you another name
friends with benefits???
wow i dont get this at all, i never understood things like dat, isnt "friends wit benefits" like a whenever u want it booty call agreement???
dont do that to urself find sumone who likes and respects you (and perferably only u) enough to know ur name lol
i dont mean ta be a jerk but it seems like your causing a problem for urself
but its your deal
but if ur not in a commited relationship why would it bother you if he was 'drunk' and calling you another name
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yeah all im sayin is have some self respect and common sense
its pretty obvious 'friends with benefits' will never work out bcuz people become attached to one another
so dont waste ur time on a person who wont invest in a meaningful relationship bcuz no matter how u say its jus for fun or i dont want a serious relationship people want sumone they can rely on ta be there for them and that kind of superfical relationship will only end up hurting u
and by ur post about tha aftermath he jus seems like he jus wants a toss-up and nothing serious so he probably wont care how much he hurts u as long as u say its alright and forgive him
but again i kno nuthing of the real situation, these are jus assumption based on observations in life
its pretty obvious 'friends with benefits' will never work out bcuz people become attached to one another
so dont waste ur time on a person who wont invest in a meaningful relationship bcuz no matter how u say its jus for fun or i dont want a serious relationship people want sumone they can rely on ta be there for them and that kind of superfical relationship will only end up hurting u
and by ur post about tha aftermath he jus seems like he jus wants a toss-up and nothing serious so he probably wont care how much he hurts u as long as u say its alright and forgive him
but again i kno nuthing of the real situation, these are jus assumption based on observations in life
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1. Leave him
2. It's not that you don't have the right to b-tch at him..but you guys are 'only friends' and there is nothing serious going on. I mean if he were really with you then by all means GO ON A RAMPAGE....but that's not the case and he has a right to remember other girls....and you guys made a deal..."benefits"....unless you really like him...then that's another case.
But for sure leave him!
2. It's not that you don't have the right to b-tch at him..but you guys are 'only friends' and there is nothing serious going on. I mean if he were really with you then by all means GO ON A RAMPAGE....but that's not the case and he has a right to remember other girls....and you guys made a deal..."benefits"....unless you really like him...then that's another case.
But for sure leave him!
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