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Your Ex
Posted: Mar 22nd, '10, 20:48
by HongKongChick
Since this is the life and relationships section, i thought i would ask about your past relationships.
How many ex boyfriends/girlfriends do you have?
and if u like to share some stories, let's!
i'll start.
i have 5 that i considered my Ex's
All non asian
Russian
Finnish
White + Native American
Bi racial
Bi racial
the third choice should have been 6-10. but i cannot edit it now. sorry.
Posted: Mar 22nd, '10, 20:51
by ik0n
3
Mixed Asians.
Posted: Mar 22nd, '10, 21:17
by Fantastical
in no pertcuar order
boy korean
boy taiwan
boy puerto rican
girl ecuadorian
girl x2 black
girl dominican
girl irish
girl jewish
girl polish
girl korean
I'm 35! I have a history. I feel no shame and think wistfully of past loves and tests that came back negative.
Re: Your Ex
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 15:37
by Cherek
HongKongChick wrote: and if u like to share some stories, let's!
We are waiting
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 20:56
by HongKongChick
ym... stories? i cant think of anything interesting right now. just that all my Ex's are tall.
the Russian - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 5
the Finnish - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 2
the White/Native american - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
the first bi racial - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
the second bi racial - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
yea..... never dated a short dude.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:09
by Fantastical
Tell us about your first ex.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:21
by HongKongChick
my first Ex. well he got my first kiss.
i was in England during the summer, went to a summer school over there near the Windsor Castle. we met there, both students there. but i didnt really like him that much. i mean he was cute. but u know, it was like a little fling that lasted a summer. hahaha... nothing serious about him, not the most memorable. he did cry a little bit when i had to leave though... hahaha
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:25
by Fantastical
did u ever hear from him again?
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:27
by Christina Mills
I work near windsor castle
HK chick is that Tavia Yeung in your Avatar
3 I would consider Ex's. All Chinese
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:28
by Cherek
Fantastical wrote:did u ever hear from him again?
he cried! he must have...
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 21:53
by Fantastical
Cherek wrote:Fantastical wrote:did u ever hear from him again?
he cried! he must have...
I'm crying for the poor bastard.
But another way to look at it...
SHe became his benchmark for women.
Posted: Mar 23rd, '10, 22:14
by Fantastical
HongKongChick wrote:ym... stories? i cant think of anything interesting right now. just that all my Ex's are tall.
the Russian - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 5
the Finnish - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 2
the White/Native american - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
the first bi racial - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
the second bi racial - i was 5 foot 3, he was 6 foot 1
yea..... never dated a short dude.
You're 5 foot 3?
AWWWWW!!!!! you are a walking Gaia Avatar!
SO CUTE!!! Just one pinch those cheeks..no not those...yeah...there they are....mmmm....
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 00:46
by wsim
No stories to share.
Hopefully there won't be too many ex'es to report in the future, but who really knows? Nevertheless, it is interesting to hear what other people have to share in this thread.
HKC, to be honest, it may have been even more hurtful/painful if some of those guys actually decided to go through with a long-distance sort of relationship. Better to have ended it there, I suppose. I know a couple of friends who have done the long-distance deal and it always fails miserably.
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 03:43
by HongKongChick
Fantastical wrote:did u ever hear from him again?
nope. heck, we were like 15 and 16, too young to even think about traveling across the globe to see each other or to phone each other, long distance was expensive back then (have i given away my age?
) . besides, it was just for the summer
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 03:45
by HongKongChick
Christina Mills wrote:I work near windsor castle
HK chick is that Tavia Yeung in your Avatar
3 I would consider Ex's. All Chinese
i loved it there, at night, i could see the Windsor castle all lit up from our school yard..it was beautiful. you heard of a St. George school? it's supposed to be a boy school, but in the summer, they rent it out for organizations to have summer school there. it was awesome!
no. that's not Tavia, that's actually me. but i love Tavia Yeung, i think she is just so beautiful
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 03:50
by HongKongChick
Fantastical wrote:Cherek wrote:Fantastical wrote:did u ever hear from him again?
he cried! he must have...
I'm crying for the poor bastard.
But another way to look at it...
SHe became his benchmark for women.
well i dont know about all that, benchmark. haha.. u are too kind.
we were young, and i did NOT look good back then. hahaha... total nerd
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 03:52
by HongKongChick
Fantastical wrote:
You're 5 foot 3?
AWWWWW!!!!! you are a walking Gaia Avatar!
SO CUTE!!! Just one pinch those cheeks..no not those...yeah...there they are....mmmm....
hahaha..... thanks!
no pinching... naughty naughty Kool aid
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 03:56
by HongKongChick
wsim wrote:No stories to share.
Hopefully there won't be too many ex'es to report in the future, but who really knows? Nevertheless, it is interesting to hear what other people have to share in this thread.
HKC, to be honest, it may have been even more hurtful/painful if some of those guys actually decided to go through with a long-distance sort of relationship. Better to have ended it there, I suppose. I know a couple of friends who have done the long-distance deal and it always fails miserably.
heck, it was not "what other people have to share in this thread" more like "what i have to share" i am the only one giving some kind of story here. hahaha
u are right. it can be hurtful if it didnt end early. though it wasnt the case with the Russian. more for the Finnish. gosh, he was gorgeous. possibly the best looking, most athletic one that i have dated. till this day when i think about him, it still puts a smile on my face. but that relationship was serious and it didnt end where it should have.... and it was painful.
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 04:38
by Fantastical
HongKongChick wrote:
no. that's not Tavia, that's actually me. but i love Tavia Yeung, i think she is just so beautiful
Yes very much so..I can easily;ly see how one ot woman can be confused with th eother.
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 11:20
by JaJe
Hmmm my past? well it´s a little complicated
- 1 boyfriend (Estonian); we first met in kindergarten - so we were like childhood friends - it lasted for 3 years? I´m not sure anymore
anyway it was more like "we are dating" than the real dating. Even though I really liked this guy, I didn´t saw our relationship the way I should have. In the end I told him that it´s over. It took ages before he started to talk to me again! It was years ago, but sometimes it seems like he still has a thing for me. Poor him.
- one night thing (American) - that bastard never called me back.
Thank god it wasn´t serious.
- 4-5 guys that I have said: "I´m sorry, but that´s never happening." two of them were my best-guy-friends. One of them lives together with his girlfriend now, but one day, when we both were pretty drunk and I asked him has he got over me. He answered that he tries to be, but sometimes it is really hard...
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
And if I hadn´t done so, then I wouldn´t have the chance to go out with my current-almost-boyfriend (who has the most beautiful eyes in the world
At least I´ll always have my idol-crush!!!
:
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 11:50
by Cherek
JaJe wrote:
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
and have you ever experienced this the other way around?
maybe with your current-almost-boyfriend
( idols do not count!)
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 17:09
by HongKongChick
Fantastical wrote:HongKongChick wrote:
no. that's not Tavia, that's actually me. but i love Tavia Yeung, i think she is just so beautiful
Yes very much so..I can easily;ly see how one ot woman can be confused with th eother.
the big difference is that Tavia doesnt wear glasses! AHAHHAHA
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 17:11
by HongKongChick
JaJe wrote:Hmmm my past? well it´s a little complicated
- 1 boyfriend (Estonian); we first met in kindergarten - so we were like childhood friends - it lasted for 3 years? I´m not sure anymore
anyway it was more like "we are dating" than the real dating. Even though I really liked this guy, I didn´t saw our relationship the way I should have. In the end I told him that it´s over. It took ages before he started to talk to me again! It was years ago, but sometimes it seems like he still has a thing for me. Poor him.
- one night thing (American) - that bastard never called me back.
Thank god it wasn´t serious.
- 4-5 guys that I have said: "I´m sorry, but that´s never happening." two of them were my best-guy-friends. One of them lives together with his girlfriend now, but one day, when we both were pretty drunk and I asked him has he got over me. He answered that he tries to be, but sometimes it is really hard...
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
And if I hadn´t done so, then I wouldn´t have the chance to go out with my current-almost-boyfriend (who has the most beautiful eyes in the world
At least I´ll always have my idol-crush!!!
:
so did it hurt alot when u have to break it off with ur first? given that u two practically grew up together?
one night thing huh.... um... those dont count as Ex'es. hahaha if they do, oh no.....
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 17:12
by HongKongChick
Cherek wrote:JaJe wrote:
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
and have you ever experienced this the other way around?
maybe with your current-almost-boyfriend
( idols do not count!)
that's right. idols dont count.
heck, all my idol crushes love me back! WHAHAHAHAHAHAH
Posted: Mar 24th, '10, 23:19
by Fantastical
HongKongChick wrote:Fantastical wrote:HongKongChick wrote:
no. that's not Tavia, that's actually me. but i love Tavia Yeung, i think she is just so beautiful
Yes very much so..I can easily;ly see how one ot woman can be confused with th eother.
the big difference is that Tavia doesnt wear glasses! AHAHHAHA
And you know daddy likes chicks with specs
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 15:19
by Christina Mills
HongKongChick wrote:Fantastical wrote:HongKongChick wrote:
no. that's not Tavia, that's actually me. but i love Tavia Yeung, i think she is just so beautiful
Yes very much so..I can easily;ly see how one ot woman can be confused with th eother.
the big difference is that Tavia doesnt wear glasses! AHAHHAHA
OH is that actually you? When I was living in HK most of the people looked really nerdy, rare to find anyone cute and photogenic. You must get approached quite a bit.. when I was living there I got approached at lest 5 times from talent agencies.. although I never trusted them.. thought they were quite a scam.
London is great although the weather could be better. Living here all these years.. I have never been to Windsor Castle
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 16:01
by HongKongChick
Christina Mills wrote:
OH is that actually you? When I was living in HK most of the people looked really nerdy, rare to find anyone cute and photogenic. You must get approached quite a bit.. when I was living there I got approached at lest 5 times from talent agencies.. although I never trusted them.. thought they were quite a scam.
London is great although the weather could be better. Living here all these years.. I have never been to Windsor Castle
yup, that is me. hahaha they look nerdy? wow, i thought i was the nerdy one there.
or maybe coz i actually go to the hip places so i dont notice nerds that much.
approached by talent agencies? yea i have, but. they asked if i would model for plus size!!!!! AHAHAHAHAAH
and of course not i dont trust either. i think it's a scam.
yea, the weather in London sucks, rarely get sunshine... always kind of cloudy and foggy. heheeh... the Windsor castle is absolutely beautiful. i love it. i love england, and of course, i love the british accent! oh.... i met a few brits in Vegas, and they are freaking awesome.
i must say that in England, to my surprise, people are more crazy with their looks then the US. for example, i have seen purple hair, blue hair, big spiky hair... crazy clothes... just walking around. hahaha... have not seen that in the states yet.
i am from Hong Kong, but i have never even been to the big Buddha. or the great wall. hahahaa
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 16:14
by JaJe
Cherek wrote:JaJe wrote:
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
and have you ever experienced this the other way around?
maybe with your current-almost-boyfriend
( idols do not count!)
The other way around? Hmm to be honest somehow it hasn´t happened to me YET. I´m sure one day it will, but I hope not with my current one
and oh my idol-crush loves me more than everybody else every time I look at his poster on my wall
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 16:16
by HongKongChick
JaJe wrote:Cherek wrote:JaJe wrote:
Yes, I feel like a **** at the moment... But I can´t help it if I really don´t feel that way towards the guy.
and have you ever experienced this the other way around?
maybe with your current-almost-boyfriend
( idols do not count!)
The other way around? Hmm to be honest somehow it hasn´t happened to me YET. I´m sure one day it will, but I hope not with my current one
and oh my idol-crush loves me more than everybody else every time I look at his poster on my wall
let's hope it never happens to you or anyone else.. it will hurt.
so did it not hurt to break up with ur first since u guys practically grew up together? how long did it take for u to recover?
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 16:50
by HongKongChick
so christina. are u white? if so, how did u end up dating those 3 chinese men? tell us the story if u want to...
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 17:17
by PocketKiriyama
I have none!!!!! Because a relationship is a pain in the ass.....atleast that was my thought for the past 8 years.
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 17:23
by HongKongChick
it's only pain in the ass if u have the wrong girl.
my Russian... i dont even consider that a real relationship. we were too young and it was for the summer. i knew nothing can work out. haha
my Finnish. this i was hurting. we both loved each other alot. just that the distance did us part. and the fact that he had to join the millitary for at least a year, kinda sucked. but we still talk on facebook, i will never forget him, and he will always have a place in my heart.
the White guy, it was nice, but i knew it was just physical. though he was the one who suggested we wouldnt get serious. but at the end, he was the one who freaked out when i started seeing someone else, and he asked me to move in with him, offered me a car and a house. yea... that was sweet and all, but i didnt want that.
the two bi racial guys, not so much a relationship. first guy was a good friend of mine, and i thought he was so sweet. but a few months down the road, i realized that i was only with him coz he was sweet....
the second guy, he was just HOT. and i thought i loved him, but i really didnt. i loved that he was hot, but that's about it.
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 17:26
by PocketKiriyama
HongKongChick wrote:it's only pain in the ass if u have the wrong girl.
my Russian... i dont even consider that a real relationship. we were too young and it was for the summer. i knew nothing can work out. haha
my Finnish. this i was hurting. we both loved each other alot. just that the distance did us part. and the fact that he had to join the millitary for at least a year, kinda sucked. but we still talk on facebook, i will never forget him, and he will always have a place in my heart.
the White guy, it was nice, but i knew it was just physical. though he was the one who suggested we wouldnt get serious. but at the end, he was the one who freaked out when i started seeing someone else, and he asked me to move in with him, offered me a car and a house. yea... that was sweet and all, but i didnt want that.
the two bi racial guys, not so much a relationship. first guy was a good friend of mine, and i thought he was so sweet. but a few months down the road, i realized that i was only with him coz he was sweet....
the second guy, he was just HOT. and i thought i loved him, but i really didnt. i loved that he was hot, but that's about it.
Wow you sure went through all types of relationship. You're right I'm scared of getting into a relationship. I got my heart broken once...which was my fault btw...that was pretty painful that time. I still see her every now and then. But I guess I'm over it. Then again she sure grew up to be a hottie.
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 17:30
by HongKongChick
PocketKiriyama wrote:
Wow you sure went through all types of relationship. You're right I'm scared of getting into a relationship. I got my heart broken once...which was my fault btw...that was pretty painful that time. I still see her every now and then. But I guess I'm over it. Then again she sure grew up to be a hottie.
yup. i can really say, been there done that.
oddly enough, never really have my heart broken by someone. by distance yes, but not by someone. and i hate breaking people's hearts....
but i am one of those really rational girls that if i know this relationship wont work out, i;d leave, and wont look back and regret. but then again, i am not most girls, i am weird. ahaha
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 17:38
by PocketKiriyama
HongKongChick wrote:PocketKiriyama wrote:
Wow you sure went through all types of relationship. You're right I'm scared of getting into a relationship. I got my heart broken once...which was my fault btw...that was pretty painful that time. I still see her every now and then. But I guess I'm over it. Then again she sure grew up to be a hottie.
yup. i can really say, been there done that.
oddly enough, never really have my heart broken by someone. by distance yes, but not by someone. and i hate breaking people's hearts....
but i am one of those really rational girls that if i know this relationship wont work out, i;d leave, and wont look back and regret. but then again, i am not most girls, i am weird. ahaha
Actually it was both ways. I felt really bad because I liked her but kept it to myself for years. Later on did I confess but she already moved on. I found out from my sister who's her friend at that time that she had a crush on me too.
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 18:02
by Christina Mills
HongKongChick wrote:Christina Mills wrote:
OH is that actually you? When I was living in HK most of the people looked really nerdy, rare to find anyone cute and photogenic. You must get approached quite a bit.. when I was living there I got approached at lest 5 times from talent agencies.. although I never trusted them.. thought they were quite a scam.
London is great although the weather could be better. Living here all these years.. I have never been to Windsor Castle
yup, that is me. hahaha they look nerdy? wow, i thought i was the nerdy one there.
or maybe coz i actually go to the hip places so i dont notice nerds that much.
approached by talent agencies? yea i have, but. they asked if i would model for plus size!!!!! AHAHAHAHAAH
and of course not i dont trust either. i think it's a scam.
yea, the weather in London sucks, rarely get sunshine... always kind of cloudy and foggy. heheeh... the Windsor castle is absolutely beautiful. i love it. i love england, and of course, i love the british accent! oh.... i met a few brits in Vegas, and they are freaking awesome.
i must say that in England, to my surprise, people are more crazy with their looks then the US. for example, i have seen purple hair, blue hair, big spiky hair... crazy clothes... just walking around. hahaha... have not seen that in the states yet.
i am from Hong Kong, but i have never even been to the big Buddha. or the great wall. hahahaa
Whats plus size? and what are the Hip places? I go back to HK every 3 years to visit friends and family.. mainly hang around mongkok, tst, lkf, club-ing..
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 18:06
by HongKongChick
PocketKiriyama wrote:
Actually it was both ways. I felt really bad because I liked her but kept it to myself for years. Later on did I confess but she already moved on. I found out from my sister who's her friend at that time that she had a crush on me too.
that's the worst.... i have had that happened a couple of times before... not a good feeling... lots of regrets
Posted: Mar 25th, '10, 18:09
by HongKongChick
Christina Mills wrote:
Whats plus size? and what are the Hip places? I go back to HK every 3 years to visit friends and family.. mainly hang around mongkok, tst, lkf, club-ing..
haha.. i wear XL in hong kong at those chain stores..... hahaha
i go to Causeway bay alot. um. that's the trendy place on hong kong island. mongkok isnt too bad, but i really do think there is a difference between us, the islanders and the kowlooners... hahaha
i dont go to LKF much, i am not that type of chinese that hang around with foreigners at LKF, i hand out with them at the local places. hahaha... and i am not much of a clubbing person... been there, done that.. getting too old for that now. haha
Posted: Mar 26th, '10, 16:34
by JaJe
HongKongChick wrote:JaJe wrote:Cherek wrote:
and have you ever experienced this the other way around?
maybe with your current-almost-boyfriend
( idols do not count!)
The other way around? Hmm to be honest somehow it hasn´t happened to me YET. I´m sure one day it will, but I hope not with my current one
and oh my idol-crush loves me more than everybody else every time I look at his poster on my wall
let's hope it never happens to you or anyone else.. it will hurt.
so did it not hurt to break up with ur first since u guys practically grew up together? how long did it take for u to recover?
Well it was pretty painful. I still really liked this guy, but it wasn´t working out between us and I had a really difficult times back then. One of the closest persons in my life died and I kind of "broke up" with every one I knew.
When I broke up with my boyfriend, then I actually wanted him to say that we can work things out etc. but he never did. He refused to talk to me for months - but then we started to go out together with other friends again. I still hoped that he would say something like that to me. But then one night I understood that I actually didn´t like him, that actually I liked the person I thought he was. I know it´s hard to understand
but after I had realized that - it wasn´t painful anymore
and now I feel only friendship towards him
Posted: Mar 26th, '10, 16:48
by PocketKiriyama
JaJe wrote:
Well it was pretty painful. I still really liked this guy, but it wasn´t working out between us and I had a really difficult times back then. One of the closest persons in my life died and I kind of "broke up" with every one I knew.
When I broke up with my boyfriend, then I actually wanted him to say that we can work things out etc. but he never did. He refused to talk to me for months - but then we started to go out together with other friends again. I still hoped that he would say something like that to me. But then one night I understood that I actually didn´t like him, that actually I liked the person I thought he was. I know it´s hard to understand
but after I had realized that - it wasn´t painful anymore
and now I feel only friendship towards him
I'm glad you worked out your feelings.
Posted: Mar 26th, '10, 17:19
by HongKongChick
JaJe wrote:
Well it was pretty painful. I still really liked this guy, but it wasn´t working out between us and I had a really difficult times back then. One of the closest persons in my life died and I kind of "broke up" with every one I knew.
When I broke up with my boyfriend, then I actually wanted him to say that we can work things out etc. but he never did. He refused to talk to me for months - but then we started to go out together with other friends again. I still hoped that he would say something like that to me. But then one night I understood that I actually didn´t like him, that actually I liked the person I thought he was. I know it´s hard to understand
but after I had realized that - it wasn´t painful anymore
and now I feel only friendship towards him
yes, understanding your own feelings can be very hard sometimes, and alot of girls will go on with their lives without even trying to figure that out.
i am glad that u did coz it'll just be painful and lots of regrets....
kinda like my Finnish, me and him have a history that will never be forgotten or over. it's sad that the only reason we couldnt be together was the distance and really, the money too. so till this day, we still talk and all, and those feelings will sometimes rise up again, and it's painful, but i know that we can never be together because he has a life in Finland and i have mine in the states.