SINGLES RANTING THREAD (Dating Advice)
- Cloud James Lionheart
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hmm hes right about trying to talk in a easiar way, ill try ask my older brother if he can set up a chatroom sight for us, so it will be easier for us to talk, ill be able to tell you if were able to do it tomorrow ^_^ so does anyone have any problems that we can help with..? all im trying to do now is think positive and try to build up my courage, i think it would be the best for me. well ill tell you the results when i come back from college on wednesday.
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My only problem now is my cold :\ *lying in bed for the third day in a row*
When you go to college on Wednesday, make sure you look your best. You'll have more courage that way. I don't mean go all out and get fancy, but make sure you're clean, neat, get PLENTY of sleep the night before so you wake up ready to face the day (and her!), and don't forget to brush your teeth! Make sure not to wear anything with holes or anything (unless you regularly sport some sort of grunge style that works for you :\).
~Denwa
When you go to college on Wednesday, make sure you look your best. You'll have more courage that way. I don't mean go all out and get fancy, but make sure you're clean, neat, get PLENTY of sleep the night before so you wake up ready to face the day (and her!), and don't forget to brush your teeth! Make sure not to wear anything with holes or anything (unless you regularly sport some sort of grunge style that works for you :\).
~Denwa
- Cloud James Lionheart
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equang wrote:My only problem now is my cold :\ *lying in bed for the third day in a row*
When you go to college on Wednesday, make sure you look your best. You'll have more courage that way. I don't mean go all out and get fancy, but make sure you're clean, neat, get PLENTY of sleep the night before so you wake up ready to face the day (and her!), and don't forget to brush your teeth! Make sure not to wear anything with holes or anything (unless you regularly sport some sort of grunge style that works for you :\).
~Denwa
actually the holes look its pretty popular now.. i think u should go with a GQ look... that wut i usually wear... it goes gud with almost any kind of pants.. cept baggy...
if u need any fashion sense on clothing.. just ask.. me .. and i can give u a few pointers on lookin GQ
- Cloud James Lionheart
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haha hmm...well i absolutely love a guy in a dress shirt with a suit/blazer on top with jeans i dunno if that helps but that's what i like seeing guys inCloud James Lionheart wrote:hey can you share some of those pointers please, it would help alot, i wanna try look my best, i think it will boost my confidence if i look better, dont you think?
- Cloud James Lionheart
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That would look snazzy I approve of this look.inishi wrote:
haha hmm...well i absolutely love a guy in a dress shirt with a suit/blazer on top with jeans i dunno if that helps but that's what i like seeing guys in
And if she's not single, if you really like her, are you really going to give up that easily? Just be careful to draw the line between not giving up and being a stalker.
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yea your right, if she is taken, i still wont give up, i dont know, its just that when i look at her, its like i would like something more than a freind, it kind of funny because at our college if your caught stalking someone you get expelled straight away, looks like i have to be careful..does anyone know any good lines to use in a convo, because i dont want to talk to her and then chat a load of crap.. which i usually do tend to end up doing =[
As long as you're not like spying on her through windows and sneaking into her apartment I think you'll be fine
This might sound cheesy but apparently it works all the time. Do something stupidly funny in front of her, like fall flat on your face, and then come up laughing and if she's laughing too say something like, "I knew you had a personality behind all that beauty. Wanna get a coffee sometime?"
Also, no matter how you get started, if the talking goes well, after like ten minutes or something, pretend you're late for something and be like "OH SHI- I gotta run! But I loved talking to you! Do you want to get a coffee sometime and chat again?" This would be a KEY time to get her phone number to arrange it
This might sound cheesy but apparently it works all the time. Do something stupidly funny in front of her, like fall flat on your face, and then come up laughing and if she's laughing too say something like, "I knew you had a personality behind all that beauty. Wanna get a coffee sometime?"
Also, no matter how you get started, if the talking goes well, after like ten minutes or something, pretend you're late for something and be like "OH SHI- I gotta run! But I loved talking to you! Do you want to get a coffee sometime and chat again?" This would be a KEY time to get her phone number to arrange it
Hi everyone, I come to this site alot but this is probably my first post.
Is the girl you are interested in your senpai (like a senior to you).
well then you could casually go up to her and ask a question about college or something like "where is this classroom" or " could you tell me about this or that".
after that say thank you for the help ect...
Next time you meet, go thank her again but with a "Hi!" at the beggining lol. this will make it easier to meet everytime.
this will help you with stage 1 I hope ^_^;
but you don't have to listen to me cause im only 16 years old and thats the length in which I have never dated >.<; OTL..
Is the girl you are interested in your senpai (like a senior to you).
well then you could casually go up to her and ask a question about college or something like "where is this classroom" or " could you tell me about this or that".
after that say thank you for the help ect...
Next time you meet, go thank her again but with a "Hi!" at the beggining lol. this will make it easier to meet everytime.
this will help you with stage 1 I hope ^_^;
but you don't have to listen to me cause im only 16 years old and thats the length in which I have never dated >.<; OTL..
That's a good idea, especially if you're new to the school (you can fake it if you aren't ).Genki123 wrote:Hi everyone, I come to this site alot but this is probably my first post.
Is the girl you are interested in your senpai (like a senior to you).
well then you could casually go up to her and ask a question about college or something like "where is this classroom" or " could you tell me about this or that".
after that say thank you for the help ect...
Next time you meet, go thank her again but with a "Hi!" at the beggining lol. this will make it easier to meet everytime.
this will help you with stage 1 I hope ^_^;
but you don't have to listen to me cause im only 16 years old and thats the length in which I have never dated >.<; OTL..
And PS, as I said before, it's not unnatural to not date at 16 don't feel pressured! You have your whole life ahead of you Would it be ominous if I said you've already lived one fifth of your life?
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hrm... jeans are always a gud thing.. but dont wear thsoe baggy kinda jeans... make it semi loose.. not bagy... hrm... did u see my picture? the one with teh white black jacket and jeans? sumtin like that or a bit less... always gud.. also... for a top.. if u got an okay build wear a beater... a.k.a.. a tank top for guys if u dont know wut a beater is.. get a size small.. since it always fits... to ur body anyways.. and um for a shirt.. or jacket ur choice.. sumtin snug.. like a racer jacket? or sumtin like wut u saw in the pic also... track jacket.. dont get kappa.. since its over used... unless its sumtin u like to wear...
I have been single for 2 1/2 years, sometimes I like it and alot of the time I hate it. I was burned at the end of my first and only relationship, that is partly the reason I kinda don't want a gf, me and my X dated for 3 years, and she is still around, being best friends with my sister and all UGH. So its partly my own fault, I am 22 and single, because I don't get out much, and I kinda like being single sometimes as I said.
i know like...2 couples who're dating, 1s been going on for like almost 6 months now (distance is toronto-NYC) and the other one has been going for 1.5 years (distance is toronto-missisauga[same distance with the guy i'm interested in]) so it depends on the relationship...distance shouldn't be an obstacle (sounds kinda naive i know) but that's what i think o_o;
Distance shouldn't be an obstacle but it is 99% of the time. If you think about it, when you are living far away from one another you start to develope new lifestyles and eventually new friends. The other person is forgotten most of the time as you adapt to your surroundings without them around. Sad but mostly true.
I agree with this. The old saying, "Out of sight, out of mind." seems to hold true most of the time :\ Long distance relationships only really work if you have reliable transportation that you can take to see them a lot, ie. your own car and access to plenty of gas money. My friend kept up an interstate relationship because she had the dedication to drive out to see her girlfriend every weekend and sometimes after school and work on weekdays.miaceres wrote:Distance shouldn't be an obstacle but it is 99% of the time. If you think about it, when you are living far away from one another you start to develope new lifestyles and eventually new friends. The other person is forgotten most of the time as you adapt to your surroundings without them around. Sad but mostly true.
inishi wrote:haha new here too, just signed up and started posting today! anyhow...i've been single for 17 years i've been living and waiting for the right person...actually i'm kind of interested in this guy but he lives far from here o_o;
hahahaha im the same as u... well almost 17 years... 17 years in well a month and a day.... hahaha except im waiting for a girl...... lol but no long distnace relationships, (cause i dun know anyone that lives farther away than where i am hahaha^^")
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hrm.. thats true.. being single has its ups and downs... ups u can flirt wit any girl u want.. downs.. u have the emptyness of a companion but not gettin out much isnt an excuse u should get out a lot more.. its fun to go out and walk around~Adam~ wrote:I have been single for 2 1/2 years, sometimes I like it and alot of the time I hate it. I was burned at the end of my first and only relationship, that is partly the reason I kinda don't want a gf, me and my X dated for 3 years, and she is still around, being best friends with my sister and all UGH. So its partly my own fault, I am 22 and single, because I don't get out much, and I kinda like being single sometimes as I said.
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hrm... id say distance is only a problem 70% of the time.. i have a 2 friends who are dating eachother.. one lives in seattle and the other in vancouver... and they only get to see eachother 2-3 times a month... thats like 2-3 days compaired to 30 days... but u know it all depends on how much u guys care and love eachother...inishi wrote:i know like...2 couples who're dating, 1s been going on for like almost 6 months now (distance is toronto-NYC) and the other one has been going for 1.5 years (distance is toronto-missisauga[same distance with the guy i'm interested in]) so it depends on the relationship...distance shouldn't be an obstacle (sounds kinda naive i know) but that's what i think o_o;
and trust me everyone says they love this and that person.. but do they really know wut love is? its prob just infatuation..
and if u plan on dating sumone thats quite a distance away.. i say go ahead.. get the experience u need... that way if any hardships come a long u know how to deal with it
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Love doesn't know distance as long as the two people love and trust each other. If it is meant to work out it will work out. See I had a boyfriend who lived in the same town as me and we both changed our lifestyles and grew apart. It's not only distance that does that, it's just not to be. You will never know unless you take the leap. It's better to know, than to give up without even trying. That's what leads to regret. It is quite possible for things to work out as long as you both trust and love each other. If the change of a person's lifestyle ends your relationship, then that means that love didn't really exist. So I say go for it if you really care about this person. There are plenty of people out there, so if this person doesn't work out, there are billions of others to choose from.
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Lipsofpoison wrote:Love doesn't know distance as long as the two people love and trust each other. If it is meant to work out it will work out. See I had a boyfriend who lived in the same town as me and we both changed our lifestyles and grew apart. It's not only distance that does that, it's just not to be. You will never know unless you take the leap. It's better to know, than to give up without even trying. That's what leads to regret. It is quite possible for things to work out as long as you both trust and love each other. If the change of a person's lifestyle ends your relationship, then that means that love didn't really exist. So I say go for it if you really care about this person. There are plenty of people out there, so if this person doesn't work out, there are billions of others to choose from.
hrm... i totally agree wit that statement.. cept for.. that if u grew apart.. love wasnt their part even if u grew apart ur feelings where true right? it just happened that naturally and unknowingly grew apart just meant that the love lost its spark love and infatuation and be explained and described differently but if the parting was just due to change in the person.. it can still be described as love all depending on how the change happened and wut the change was tho
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Distance is a problem if you want a relationship to move forward. Sometimes distance can mean lots and lots of waiting. I have tried a long distance relationship once, and I'm never gonna try it again unless there is a viable means of reaching that person. There's something about being in someones presence that makes a whole lotta difference... Sure sometimes you get online love stories that actually do work out.. But most of the time ppl are totally different to how they seem. Then again, who isn't.
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and i wonder how u learned the life's lesson of sumones pressence? lol it was all from that long distant relationship the more ur away from sumone the more u miss them.. and when the time comes to see them.. ur all happy and everysecond with them is worth while.. not many people get that feeling cause their so bored of eachother since they see eachother everyday.. each one has its ups and downs u jsut gotta work around each onePJB wrote:Distance is a problem if you want a relationship to move forward. Sometimes distance can mean lots and lots of waiting. I have tried a long distance relationship once, and I'm never gonna try it again unless there is a viable means of reaching that person. There's something about being in someones presence that makes a whole lotta difference... Sure sometimes you get online love stories that actually do work out.. But most of the time ppl are totally different to how they seem. Then again, who isn't.
So now u r talking about distant relationship..
never tried
But i'm willing to try
with him lol..
never tried
But i'm willing to try
with him lol..
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- Cloud James Lionheart
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hey everyone cloud here, how is everyone, hmmm when i think of long distant relationships, i dont really think they work, because, you have to have that strong bond, that you only usually achieve from seeing them on and everyday basis, i also think that sometimes it isnt enough just to here there voice...well that my opinion .. hmmm, thats why i wanna get to know the girl in my college... i hope it happens, by the way, i dressed up as how you told me to, ill try take a picture later and tell me what you lot think.. ^_^
u guys are crazyCloud James Lionheart wrote:hey everyone cloud here, how is everyone, hmmm when i think of long distant relationships, i dont really think they work, because, you have to have that strong bond, that you only usually achieve from seeing them on and everyday basis, i also think that sometimes it isnt enough just to here there voice...well that my opinion .. hmmm, thats why i wanna get to know the girl in my college... i hope it happens, by the way, i dressed up as how you told me to, ill try take a picture later and tell me what you lot think.. ^_^
btw i hardly wait to see the pic
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Hi cloud here, im kinda excited but nervous about tomorrow because im going to see that girl at college, ive tryed out the clothes im going to wear, but i wasnt able to take a picture because my camera didnt have a batterys, but dont worry im charging my batterys now,im going to wake up early tommorow and get everything prepared and ill take a photo then, umm i know ive asked this alot of times, but i only have some lines to use when i talk to her, i dont really want to run out of lines, because im not sure if a short convo would be nice... does anyone have any casual sentences that they can pass down to me..
arigatou mina, thanks for everything.
cloud
arigatou mina, thanks for everything.
cloud
If you run out of things to say, maybe give her a compliment? Don't just say, "You look [insert adjective] today." Make it a bit more personalized, like... "Oh, those are interesting earrings you're wearing. Where did you get them?" This also gives her an opportunity to talk about herself and also lets her know that you're interested in what she has to say.
Good luck! You're making me nervous for you
Good luck! You're making me nervous for you
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owh ive forgotten to tell everyone why im so caught up about this girl, well im actually filipino and ive always wanted to have a japanese girl or even meet one for 3 years since ive started to watch these dramas, i was so caught up in japan and its people and language, and ever since then my dreams have all been set about japan.. i dont know but this dream seems really important to me, just to have a freind or someone japanese that i could go to japan with and have fun and everything, so i can learn there ways of living, something "new" in my life. and well for those 3 years ive been searching for a japanese person, but even through out all the searching nothing appeared, as in nothing at all, because its really rare to find a japanese person my age in london, now all of a sudden, this girls at my college, and well i think this would probably be my only chance, thats why i dont want to mess things up... =[
well now ive explained why im really mad about this girl..
i wanna thank everyone again.
hontoni arigatou
cloud
well now ive explained why im really mad about this girl..
i wanna thank everyone again.
hontoni arigatou
cloud
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I know what you mean D: I love Japanese girls so much. They are so tiny! I'm not a very large man (only 5'6"!) so it would be nice to have a girlfriend shorter than me D: Where I am at college, the area my dorm is in also has the Asian dorm so I see lots of Japanese girls all the time, and they are in my classes too. But I am too shy to talk to them. I have been very shy around women I'm not friends with since things went sour with my last girlfriend a year ago D:
~Denwa
~Denwa
- Cloud James Lionheart
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hehe looks like were in the same situation, well i think you just need to build your courage like im try to do but dont wory, i think with everyones help we'll be able to fix everyones problems, everyones so helpful here, im so glad i made this thread ^_^ you should try listening to the bouncy,nice relaxing tunes on the densha ost when your on the thread, it puts alot of spirit on it
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If you want to meet new people, being shy is not the way to do it. I say suck up you're shyness and try to introduce yourself to at least one person. Since some of those girls are in the same class, all teh better. You can ask them about something that you're having trouble with. Heck, pretend you're having trouble in the class. It'll give you an excuse to talk.
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Exactly! It's not as if she's going to go up to you and introduce herself. If they have no need to do it, then it'll never happen. Fantasy type thinking is also you're worst enemy. Be assertive. Having confidence is a good thing. It'll show people you know what you're doing. If you're shy, then girls will never give you a chance because they'll think you're boring.
"If I don't do anything...Nothing will ever happen in my life"
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"If I don't do anything...Nothing will ever happen in my life"
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I'm straight-edge! Besides, wouldn't that last part come off as callous? Like I can't control myself and I'm a raging drunk?hksaznlibra wrote:Maybe you need a lot of booze to help you . Just get wasted and hit on them if they reject you, you can always say you were too drunk to realize what the hell was going on lol
Some guy called my dorm room the other night. Apparently he'd tried to pick up some girl and she gave him my number (as a random guess) when he wouldn't let her go without giving him something and when he realized he didn't have the right number, he thought I was a girl and tried to pick me up instead over the phone He was TERRIBLE.
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- Cloud James Lionheart
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hehe.. they should make an ad with those words..LightningEmperor wrote:hksaznlibra wrote:Maybe you need a lot of booze to help you . Just get wasted and hit on them if they reject you, you can always say you were too drunk to realize what the hell was going on lol
Booze....liquid confidence!!!!
"miller lite.. liquid confidence!! ... and taste better than bud light too..!!"
is it just me or does anybody else think that bud taste like coke?
and miller like pepsi..?
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wow thats like my first compliment since forever, i dunt know im usually a cluts when it comes to girls, i just have to try to unlock my funny side to teh world as my older brother says, i wish it would happen with this girl, i hope people can help me because i really am crazy for this girl, as i said before in one of my other posts.. its like one of those one in a lifetime things..... and if i miss it.... its gone forever =[
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