LOVE - Age difference
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I just read this news.mustang wrote:If it's a real love, age gap shouldn't be a problem. As long as both of the people can "click" together, they are in good chemistry.
"A 33-year-old man in northern Malaysia has married a 104-year-old woman, saying mutual respect and friendship had turned to love. "I am not after her money, as she is poor," Muhamad reportedly said." 104 - 33 = 71 years difference.
It all depends on how you feel for him. If you really believe his feelings are genuine and you like him then why not. I think it all depends on the person, not everyone is mature enough but some people are. I've met some really immature 40 year olds so I dunno how that works (he was single so I guess that explains it).
Age difference issues is 100-percent a SOCIAL ISSUE.
So why do people use social-based references when it involves something mental and biological like an attraction between a male and female? Listen - the man has a penis and the woman has a vagina. Regardless of age difference, there is arrousal involved, and therefore the two can stick tongues into each other's mouths and eventually perform intercourse.
I can't understand how most of you can watch romance dramas and with the same brain come up with these stupid social rules like "I can't stand watching a woman/man make out with a woman/man X years the junior" or "X years difference is unacceptable." Where's the romance in that??? Social barriers like these should not interfere with romance. With hundreds of hours of dramas in your heads, you should have figured this out by now.
I saw SCREW the social issues and just follow what your body tells you. If you see a person and certain features of your body start to react, just go with it.
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So why do people use social-based references when it involves something mental and biological like an attraction between a male and female? Listen - the man has a penis and the woman has a vagina. Regardless of age difference, there is arrousal involved, and therefore the two can stick tongues into each other's mouths and eventually perform intercourse.
I can't understand how most of you can watch romance dramas and with the same brain come up with these stupid social rules like "I can't stand watching a woman/man make out with a woman/man X years the junior" or "X years difference is unacceptable." Where's the romance in that??? Social barriers like these should not interfere with romance. With hundreds of hours of dramas in your heads, you should have figured this out by now.
I saw SCREW the social issues and just follow what your body tells you. If you see a person and certain features of your body start to react, just go with it.
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This topic reminds me of the story/rumor that's been circulating around (in magazines and newspapers and everything) about how Kame (Kamenashi Kazuya from KAT-TUN), who is 20 years old, is in a relationship with Koizumi Kyoko (a former idol), a 40-year old woman.
Even though what other people do is solely up to them....I somehow can't picture Kame with a woman who's twice his age. ^^;;;; Eheh. (Actually, if were up to me, I'd have him end up with Jin. LOL.) *shrugs*
Anyways, as for my personal preferences, I don't think I would be really comfortable with someone who's WAYYYYYYYYY older than me. ^^:;; or WAYYYYYYY younger than me for that matter. It's just is a weird feeling I get.
Even though what other people do is solely up to them....I somehow can't picture Kame with a woman who's twice his age. ^^;;;; Eheh. (Actually, if were up to me, I'd have him end up with Jin. LOL.) *shrugs*
Anyways, as for my personal preferences, I don't think I would be really comfortable with someone who's WAYYYYYYYYY older than me. ^^:;; or WAYYYYYYY younger than me for that matter. It's just is a weird feeling I get.
Here's my 2 cents worth
There shouldn't be an issue, depending on what ages they are. a 20 year old with a 40 year old, in my mind is acceptable. But a 13 year old with a 33 year old...unacceptable!
As a mother of 3 kids, I would find it really hard to accept someone of a huge age gap unless my daughter is already 18. Heck, if she grew up to meet say, Joo Ji Hoon when she's 17, i would absolutely not oppose to this match LOL. (My daughter is only 2 years old now)
There shouldn't be an issue, depending on what ages they are. a 20 year old with a 40 year old, in my mind is acceptable. But a 13 year old with a 33 year old...unacceptable!
As a mother of 3 kids, I would find it really hard to accept someone of a huge age gap unless my daughter is already 18. Heck, if she grew up to meet say, Joo Ji Hoon when she's 17, i would absolutely not oppose to this match LOL. (My daughter is only 2 years old now)
@ groink.... no, I'm not referring to that, I'm referring to the social issues around us, but it's good to know that your perfectly fine and on a regular basis didn't expect that kind of answer, but I guess that's you, "staight forward" don't get the wrong meaning of "straight forward" that's not what I mean what I'm trying to say is that your honestly forward, no holding back what you want to say ....your answer surprised me, but cracked me up for a while ....
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I really think it depends on how old the person is, and what age they are, and what stage of life they are in, with the life relationship experiences that they had.
As one gets older, the age gaps is smaller and does not matter as much.
a 20 yr woman, and 40 yr man...is possible, but twenty years from now...when she is 40yrs and he is 60yrs, the age doesn't matter as much. It also depends on the person. There are some mature 40yr and some immature 40yr.
a younger person say in their teens probably would strongly prefer someone the same age or near, than someone who is 20 something.
As one gets older, the age gaps is smaller and does not matter as much.
a 20 yr woman, and 40 yr man...is possible, but twenty years from now...when she is 40yrs and he is 60yrs, the age doesn't matter as much. It also depends on the person. There are some mature 40yr and some immature 40yr.
a younger person say in their teens probably would strongly prefer someone the same age or near, than someone who is 20 something.
exactly to that.....Enho2 wrote:Yeah Groink! You rock.
When you are 20, 40 0r 50 looks old in your mind. But as you age your perspectives change. Love could care less about an age difference. Also as you age, you care less and less about what society dictates. As is aften stated, there is no right or wrong in love.
i think it really depends on the person and if they are open to dating that person despite the age difference...
age does affect your decision and what you perceive as acceptable and what your peers may think...although if there is a huge big age difference it might cause some people to think, wonder, but it also depends how they adjust to that.
to me, dating a younger woman in her mid-twenties, is not a big deal, as long as she is open to dating a guy in his mid-thirties...
after awhile, age is just a number...within reason.
Yes, as you get older age gaps don't really matter as much. A couple here just celebrated their 60th anniversary.
He's 90 and she is 81, (no big deal at all), when they met he was 30 and she was 21, (still not too bad).
Now when he was a 18 year old college freshman, she was 9 years old and in 4th grade. Not good at all.
I was thinking about this because they had pictures of them from the time they were kids to the present put up
He's 90 and she is 81, (no big deal at all), when they met he was 30 and she was 21, (still not too bad).
Now when he was a 18 year old college freshman, she was 9 years old and in 4th grade. Not good at all.
I was thinking about this because they had pictures of them from the time they were kids to the present put up
Know what you mean, my grandpa is 20 years older than my grandma. Now it doesnt matter, but he was 20-something when she was born :oGir wrote:Yes, as you get older age gaps don't really matter as much. A couple here just celebrated their 60th anniversary.
He's 90 and she is 81, (no big deal at all), when they met he was 30 and she was 21, (still not too bad).
Now when he was a 18 year old college freshman, she was 9 years old and in 4th grade. Not good at all.
I was thinking about this because they had pictures of them from the time they were kids to the present put up
If it's true love...I can't even bear to think after I die of old age, I'd be leaving my 35 year old wife a widow and 5 kids fatherless. If I truly love her, I'd let her go to find a younger man she can grow old with... .
True love does not live in the moment alone. My example is a bit extreme, but you get the point.
True love does not live in the moment alone. My example is a bit extreme, but you get the point.
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well, speaking from experience ( no, not that kind of experience. I not marrying a way too older guy, but a child of one or a product of one? )....my dad and mom are 15yrs. apart....my dad is now in his early 80s and he still looks very young, like in late 60s. and very healthy too....anyway, growing up is a fun happy time for me with lots of freedom, carefree experiences....but I still have the problem with the issue....I don't want my teenage daughter comes home one day with a 30 some yrs. old guy....don't know why, but that's how I feel....am I an hypocrite?....still trying to figure out myself....oh well, maybe one day my feeling will be changing when I'm more older or too old? ...
I think your concern is only natural, as a parent. It's quite unusual seeing extremely different couples, in the sense of age. The younger a person is, the bigger it will be a deal, if he/she is involved with a partner of a farther age. I think it becomes freaky exactly when a person is in his teens, while his partner is in his 30s or 40s. Heh. When a person of 40s likes a person of 50s, it's only natural.
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age is just a number, it's not really an issue as long as both parties know what they're doing.
it depends on their maturity level too, right? *hehehe* when i was 17, i went out with a 24 yr old man... and earlier this year i dated someone 10 yrs older than me. they both had professional careers and were quite surprised that someone my age could keep up with their conversation about finance, world politics, etc. then it grew too tiring to debate about these things all the time! *laughs* men and their egos. hmph!
it depends on their maturity level too, right? *hehehe* when i was 17, i went out with a 24 yr old man... and earlier this year i dated someone 10 yrs older than me. they both had professional careers and were quite surprised that someone my age could keep up with their conversation about finance, world politics, etc. then it grew too tiring to debate about these things all the time! *laughs* men and their egos. hmph!
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i dated a 17 year old when i was 23, and i split with her cause i didnt like how easily i could manipulate the situation. if you asked her, id think shed says we are totally equals and that wasnt the case, but it 100% was. Still, if i though id stay with her for a long time (which i didnt, which is why i bailed even though i really liked her) i think it would have worked nicely. It wasn't a big deal, it was just a difference between us, and differences can be fun to deal with sometime.
i dont think its that big a deal, maybe its cause i love pop cultune things so much that i can relate to younger girls, but i ahve friends who are 20-21 (i'm 34) and although its obvious im older, its not a huge deal. 20 years would be tough i think...but not unsurmountable.
i dont think its that big a deal, maybe its cause i love pop cultune things so much that i can relate to younger girls, but i ahve friends who are 20-21 (i'm 34) and although its obvious im older, its not a huge deal. 20 years would be tough i think...but not unsurmountable.
That happened with Anna Nicole Smith...that I believe is a crime But Love has no age, just as long as you don't use it as an excuse to marry someone who is totally beyond your age, like..what KiMi said.xKiMix wrote:In some cases age doesn't really matter. But won't you question it if the guy was like 70 while ur like in ur 20s'? Its posible, but it seems more unlikely.
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I think that it can never be real feelings when the other party is soo much older, cos they´re not living in the same worlds, one has lived more and know too much and the other knows too little and knows too little.
It´s okey with relationsships which have 3-6 years difference, but not more than that like 10 and up! 10 and up it´s way too much, it´s hard to get a loong relationsship with that. But I think that the guy should be older, guys are developing much more later than us girls so they have to be older to match with us.
It´s okey with relationsships which have 3-6 years difference, but not more than that like 10 and up! 10 and up it´s way too much, it´s hard to get a loong relationsship with that. But I think that the guy should be older, guys are developing much more later than us girls so they have to be older to match with us.
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If it is indeed real love then i think it shouldnt matter. Although it kinda depends on how much of an age difference there is. If its about 5 or 10 years then its ok. If its about20- 30 years or so its not! A couple of months ago there was a story in the news about a teacher who was in her late 20s early 30s and she had, had sex with one of her students who she claimed to love. He was 14 at the time. I was like ewww. In cases like that i have to go with yes it should matter. It all just depends.
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huuu.
i'm 15, my boyfriend is 21. So i have to say that no age doesn't matter. I love him very much and he loves me too and is already talking about marriage..o.o
I believe everyone has their own definition of true love, and none of them are wrong, just different in their own ways. So in my opinion, if age hinders your love/ability to love someone, than that love seems a little fake to me.
If they're 18 or if they're 28 shouldn't make you love them less... Age isn't a quality, it's just a fact I think, a number that doesn't matter or truly count, it's whats inside thats important.
Anyway, this is just what I personally think, hehe. Whaa~ I wrote a lot more than I thought I would! >.<
If they're 18 or if they're 28 shouldn't make you love them less... Age isn't a quality, it's just a fact I think, a number that doesn't matter or truly count, it's whats inside thats important.
Anyway, this is just what I personally think, hehe. Whaa~ I wrote a lot more than I thought I would! >.<
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:-)well I just saw a couple last Sunday at church (newly wed.) He looks late 50's to early 60s and she looke early 18 to early 20s....they looked very loving to each other....attentive to each other, but to look at them walked side by side and sitting side by side, it looks like a normal father with his teenage daughter going to church, but yet I knew they are husband and wife....kind a feel sad for a split seconds there; for them....weird but I don't know why....a thought rushed thru my mind, "what gonna happen to her when he's 70's and unable to perform love (physically) to her and what gonna happen to him if she decides to cheat on him....that can happen"....then I quickly say a prayer for them; silly me, to even bother about a couple that I don't personally know.....but the point is "they really looked inloved with each other"....but the age difference, they looked like father and daughter....
That's my answer. It doesn't really matter, just that there's the maturity level factor when you're dealing with teenagers. I mean, the twenty-year-old in the relationship could be serious, but end up getting played by the teenager because the teen just wanted to get some (we are hormonal, or so I've heard ).lilswtangel wrote:i don't think age really matters. but it depends on the maturity levels of both individuals. i mean, if one partner was 14 and the other 24, whereas 10 years difference isn't much, but the partner who's 14 still haven't even reached puberty yet
For example, there's about seven years difference in my parents' ages, but they got together when they were in their late twenties/early thirties, and I do believe I see true love between them. My brother and his current girlfriend, however... She's still in her teenage years and she is very immature (and drives him up the wall; I don't know why he's still with her ) and doesn't seem to be even compatible with him in his mid-twenties.
Personally, I would like my ideal guy to be at least two or so years older than myself. Guys mature later than girls, right? Maturity compatibility.
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Age doesn't matter too much, but maturity does. I once dated a 27 year old woman when I was 17 We talked about a lot of mature stuff like politics, books, and philosophy, it was quite refreshing. It took her a long time to figure out I was a kid, but she didn't care that much, we still genuinely liked each other. We had to break it off so I could go to college. I should probably contact her again now that I'm older.
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my boyfriend is 25 and we both don´t care about stuff like that. I mean, I met him when he had to serve in Friedberg. It was 7 years ago when I was 10 years old. He was 18 and we were just neighbours which couldn´t like each other. He came after about a year and moved. We met at a disco again two years later when I was thirteen. We just had same friends and dudes so after all, now we are going out! I don´t think it will take a long time for us because we´ve different interests...i mean he´s looking for someone really serious and maybe for a future wife...and I´m still young and I wanna have fun so I´m just living my life. I don´t think there´s a chance for someone with a difference of 20 years!
And I care too much about what other people say...it´s just my character...
And I care too much about what other people say...it´s just my character...
i say age don't matter as long as the couple are really in love... but personally i wouldn't go out with a guy who's over 10 yrs older.. 10 yr difference is the limit.. nor would i go out with a guy younger than me.. i know a lot of girls dont mind younger guys but its jus my style? lol but who knows.. love hits u when u least expect it and when it does ur standards and ideals don't matter anymore ;)
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once you 18 or even 17 it really doesn't, like i mean, if ur an adult u shouldent like some one younger then that.
but other then that, age has never bothered me, though my limit is 11 years older then me, (not past 30) but all depends on a person, ive had older bf's and younger.
its the maturity and personality that r important.
but other then that, age has never bothered me, though my limit is 11 years older then me, (not past 30) but all depends on a person, ive had older bf's and younger.
its the maturity and personality that r important.
umm.. my sister 19 years older than her husband so i guess it doesnt count but yup some of our family members did make a fuss at the beginning especially my brother. Well i think love is blind. How many times we see ppl around us married to thier partner regardless of their looks, whealth, education, religion or race. The same thing goes for age i supposed when u r in love then u r in love for a reason. Love knows no boundaries. If u have hesitation then u must not be truly madly deeply in love ahakzz..
So i guess it doesnt matter. (should i vote yes or no i a bit confuse with ur poll )
So i guess it doesnt matter. (should i vote yes or no i a bit confuse with ur poll )
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i think the problem is the younger person isnt always aware ot the maturity level, and the older person doesn't always care. i had a younger gf once (i was 24 and she was 17) and i could very easily manipulate her. im sure if you asked her, she'd say she was mature enough to handle it. but she wasn't...it was ok cause im nice! But if i wasnt, i think it could be bad for her....asianblondgirl wrote:once you 18 or even 17 it really doesn't, like i mean, if ur an adult u shouldent like some one younger then that.
but other then that, age has never bothered me, though my limit is 11 years older then me, (not past 30) but all depends on a person, ive had older bf's and younger.
its the maturity and personality that r important.
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Age? Doesn't really matter in my opinion. Although I usually go for the females over my age.
My worst case came in late 2005, when I was 16. I started to fall in love with my literature-teacher. She was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my entire life. She was kind, sweet, beautiful and most of all, you could laugh with her about all kinds of things.
When I finally told her how I felt, things got bad. I waited until the last moment, my graduation day, June 21, 2006. She never spoke to me again...
So you see, things can get pretty bad when age there is a significant age difference. Even though she never spoke to me again, I will always remember Alexandra as the one woman I had my first crush on. And for the people that would like to know, she is currently 36 and living happily with her husband.
My worst case came in late 2005, when I was 16. I started to fall in love with my literature-teacher. She was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen in my entire life. She was kind, sweet, beautiful and most of all, you could laugh with her about all kinds of things.
When I finally told her how I felt, things got bad. I waited until the last moment, my graduation day, June 21, 2006. She never spoke to me again...
So you see, things can get pretty bad when age there is a significant age difference. Even though she never spoke to me again, I will always remember Alexandra as the one woman I had my first crush on. And for the people that would like to know, she is currently 36 and living happily with her husband.
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