SINGLES RANTING THREAD (Dating Advice)
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Alright sure.
Well back when school was still going on before summer started,
i really liked this one japanese girl who i sometimes kept on seeing in the hallways.
But I don't know what her name is, what classes she goes to, or anything at all.
How would I be able to start "making progress"?
Do I just go up to her in front of all her friends or something, or do I wait till she's alone. i duno rly. I should probably make up a plan before school starts again.
She's not a foreign exchange student, im guessing she lived here for most of her life.
She always tends to glance at me when im in the hallways, but im not so sure though if she's attracted.
im not much of an otaku i think, although im the kind of shy guy.
i duno, what do you guys think? i uploaded my pic for you to see.
Well back when school was still going on before summer started,
i really liked this one japanese girl who i sometimes kept on seeing in the hallways.
But I don't know what her name is, what classes she goes to, or anything at all.
How would I be able to start "making progress"?
Do I just go up to her in front of all her friends or something, or do I wait till she's alone. i duno rly. I should probably make up a plan before school starts again.
She's not a foreign exchange student, im guessing she lived here for most of her life.
She always tends to glance at me when im in the hallways, but im not so sure though if she's attracted.
im not much of an otaku i think, although im the kind of shy guy.
i duno, what do you guys think? i uploaded my pic for you to see.
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The thing is though, how is she going to know that the note is from me?
I was thinking that maybe i should write the note in Japanese, it'd make things a little more exciting for the both of us. Unless she doesn't know Japanese, lol but im certainly positive that she will know.
a date? isn't that a little bit too much, maybe i should start a friendship first and then if i know enough about her, then i'll move on to something more.
I was thinking that maybe i should write the note in Japanese, it'd make things a little more exciting for the both of us. Unless she doesn't know Japanese, lol but im certainly positive that she will know.
a date? isn't that a little bit too much, maybe i should start a friendship first and then if i know enough about her, then i'll move on to something more.
Maybe I didn't the good word, but how about meeting somewhere ? With some friends, it will be easier...
You're right, just take your time and just start becoming friends...
hum... I don't know if it's a good thing to write her in japanese. Maybe she'll think that you're an otaku interested in her only because she's japanese...
You're right, just take your time and just start becoming friends...
hum... I don't know if it's a good thing to write her in japanese. Maybe she'll think that you're an otaku interested in her only because she's japanese...
Sounds like a good plan. But starting all this will be the hardest part.
If i gave my locker number in the note.. i wonder if she'd reply on a note to my locker and just slip it in.
But yeah.. i already got a plan so that's good
I never thought i'd say this but I can't wait till school because of this, its so exciting.
If i gave my locker number in the note.. i wonder if she'd reply on a note to my locker and just slip it in.
But yeah.. i already got a plan so that's good
I never thought i'd say this but I can't wait till school because of this, its so exciting.
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I think slipping her a note is such a classic idea! You can also signed it with your initials, too. It'll sound so much like Goong Ok, I've seen way too much k-dramas, but who cares. Anyways, just wanted to wish you luck!
Oh yeah, I don't think writing in Japanese is a good idea because chances are she'll think a Japanese guy or someone taking Jap class is her secret admirer. Just a thought.
Oh yeah, I don't think writing in Japanese is a good idea because chances are she'll think a Japanese guy or someone taking Jap class is her secret admirer. Just a thought.
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Oooo maybe i really should sign it with my initials?, do girls really like having notes with initials slipt into their lockers? i never knew girls would like it alot.
Ya i suppose writing it in japanese would be a pretty bad idea. Thanks for the support everyone!
What exactly should i put in the note, and how would she know its from me??
lol i just wanna make this a perfect thing for her.
Ya i suppose writing it in japanese would be a pretty bad idea. Thanks for the support everyone!
What exactly should i put in the note, and how would she know its from me??
lol i just wanna make this a perfect thing for her.
At the time...I was debating if I should've said that. Actually, I just pulled up the AIM log of the conversation. Feel like a loserAngelGurl6 wrote:@dyesan-too bad you don't have a crush on her now coz you could've said, "you." Ok, that was cheezy, I know.
Anyways, I think that conversation was the "deciding point" of our relationship (of 'just' friends or beyond?). If any of you females can evaluate/decipher this conversation for curiosity's sake...
Firstly, I answered her question, "i don't know."
She then asked me about the first girlfriend I ever had (way back in 7th-9th grade). Then she asked me if I was sad and if I missed her.
I said no, and that she was gone (and some more cheesy stuff).
After, she said she was in a bad mood today, and apologized for asking about my past.
I said I was the one who was sorry, for ignoring her in class about prom reasons. She assumed I was mad at her.
So then she said she wants to forget about last month, and she doesn't want to lose "such a friend like you."
Eh? You tell me...
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is that she likes you (may not love you) but, there is definitely and attraction. She was probably asking you that kind of stuff for one of two reasons: one being that she was hurt romantically (the bad mood line could be an indicator) by remembering her past or just recently, Two being that he was Trying to get your opinion on love and relationships because she likes you and wants to see how you'll answer the questions. By the way you responded it make it seem like you Have no feelings for her. She responded by trying to keep away from the topic because it might compromise your friendship. All this I say without having read any previous log info so I maybe wrong, I just need a little more information. This situation reminds me when I was in high school and this girl had a massive crush on me. It was blatantly obvious to me that she liked me. She'd ask me similar questions and I'd answer honestly which always came out mushy. I eventually had to tell her I wanted to just be friends and she ended up crying. I consoled her which made her like me even more.
Oh hey calling the F4!! LOL we're no more F4 LOLpwner4once wrote:hey just posting again after leaving this thread for almost a school year. How is everything going? if all the F4 members see this thread, please drop a note
Pwner4once is now a life guard saver
Mythrel is now studying programming and moved to the west coast
Jules is now engaged to Stan
Valcun, well... didn't hear from him since don't know
and finally me... busy busy LOL
Ahh really Jing? Are you managing your time efficiently? Haven't seen you for ages!! At least I've seen Dickie erm.. last three weeks?? ROFL!!!pwner4once wrote:HEY!!!Mythrel wrote:no idea, lol it just kinda died off. Some people are busy with work and school. Others probably got lives lol.
lol we do have a life and we are just good at managing time Mythrel ';...;'
but yea... haven't seen Julie at all.. lol ever when she started with stan... lol
That was really helpful...thank you.Nakaseru wrote:is that she likes you (may not love you) but, there is definitely and attraction. She was probably asking you that kind of stuff for one of two reasons: one being that she was hurt romantically (the bad mood line could be an indicator) by remembering her past or just recently, Two being that he was Trying to get your opinion on love and relationships because she likes you and wants to see how you'll answer the questions. By the way you responded it make it seem like you Have no feelings for her. She responded by trying to keep away from the topic because it might compromise your friendship. All this I say without having read any previous log info so I maybe wrong, I just need a little more information. This situation reminds me when I was in high school and this girl had a massive crush on me. It was blatantly obvious to me that she liked me. She'd ask me similar questions and I'd answer honestly which always came out mushy. I eventually had to tell her I wanted to just be friends and she ended up crying. I consoled her which made her like me even more.
At the time, I honestly had the mindset that relationships as in boyfriend-girlfriend were OVERRATED. Even though I knew in my head that they were a waste of time, effort, and money, the inner side of me said "hey this is what life is." So I pushed myself not to start anything, even if erm..temptations were there? It was a shaky month for her and me. I asked her to the prom. She said she would only go if her best friend went, however I know she's the type of person that wouldn't "cling" to her best friend just to go to a dance. I never asked her again about it. And we didn't speak until two weeks later the day after the prom (which is when that conversation in my last post took place).
Right after that convo, she apologized to me. Indiscretely, I thought she was referring to the whole prom issue, so instead, I apologized for her, because I "didn't do anything" to show initiative. What can I say?
I can say I don't regret anything.
Maybe just a little...
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LOL well it seems this thread is once going again. About time managing..... we manage enough to the point we can actually get on the COMPUTER!11 lol unlike someone who actually works in front of a computer all the time. but it's interesting that Mythrel moved to the west coast... Well school is starting for me.. Aug. 9th T_TJeremiah wrote:Oh hey calling the F4!! LOL we're no more F4 LOLpwner4once wrote:hey just posting again after leaving this thread for almost a school year. How is everything going? if all the F4 members see this thread, please drop a note
Pwner4once is now a life guard saver
Mythrel is now studying programming and moved to the west coast
Jules is now engaged to Stan
Valcun, well... didn't hear from him since don't know
and finally me... busy busy LOL
Ahh really Jing? Are you managing your time efficiently? Haven't seen you for ages!! At least I've seen Dickie erm.. last three weeks?? ROFL!!!pwner4once wrote:HEY!!!Mythrel wrote:no idea, lol it just kinda died off. Some people are busy with work and school. Others probably got lives lol.
lol we do have a life and we are just good at managing time Mythrel ';...;'
but yea... haven't seen Julie at all.. lol ever when she started with stan... lol
atm i am a full time lifeguard but it's not much fun anymore... although a bunch of chinese girl did come to the facility. They only wanted to use the bathroom and I did joke about them taking up too much time to use it. LOl they got all mad, but then we were about to close down. Anyhow... eer... lol im off to the lifeguard job. later guys.
oh btw...i might only think of this as a way for our temp. F4 to communicate with each other... oh well.. hope we all can gather at some place one day
wow so lively again with new faces!
lol Jeremiah I am usually online, but studying like no tomorrow. Although today will be my relax day I think. I don't have time for a life and won't really for the next year and a half lol. I am playing catchup in my classes.
Julie isn't engadged LOL... she's gonna flying knee you I swear. Refer to him as Mr.S hehe. She just moved a week ago and doesn't have internet and her laptop hates her so.
dyesan is it over? Like maybe I didn't read the posts properly, but do you just see her as a friend? What do you regret about it?
lol Jeremiah I am usually online, but studying like no tomorrow. Although today will be my relax day I think. I don't have time for a life and won't really for the next year and a half lol. I am playing catchup in my classes.
Julie isn't engadged LOL... she's gonna flying knee you I swear. Refer to him as Mr.S hehe. She just moved a week ago and doesn't have internet and her laptop hates her so.
dyesan is it over? Like maybe I didn't read the posts properly, but do you just see her as a friend? What do you regret about it?
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hi everyone,
im new here hehe, and i want to ask a question to everyone.. is it possible for an Asian male to date an european girl. I've seen a lot of asian girl dating with an european guy, but never seen any asian male date with an european girl..
hmpph, i wonder what its like to date an european girl..
im new here hehe, and i want to ask a question to everyone.. is it possible for an Asian male to date an european girl. I've seen a lot of asian girl dating with an european guy, but never seen any asian male date with an european girl..
hmpph, i wonder what its like to date an european girl..
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It's not impossible for an asian male to be w/ an european female, it's just rare to see those two together. In fact, I seen one married couple who fits the description and even have 2 children together. In my opinion, I think it's because asian guys are generally shy or they prefer asian women b/c of their language barrier, so that's why people don't usually see a lot of asian guys with european women.
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you know i hate to sound very old school but nothing is impossible. Like Jeremiah said already, im currently working as a lifeguard and I met this girl from France. Been talking to her then but no aim to have her as a girlfriend since gf w/ school just don't go together for me. but yes it's possible and why in the world would ethnicity be a factor in a relationship? race is more like a attribute than a factor in relationshipmatsudahyde wrote:hi everyone,
im new here hehe, and i want to ask a question to everyone.. is it possible for an Asian male to date an european girl. I've seen a lot of asian girl dating with an european guy, but never seen any asian male date with an european girl..
hmpph, i wonder what its like to date an european girl..
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hehe i hope things will go well for you since things aren't going great for me. Lifeguarding is getting boring day by day. Not many young people come these days... it's only kids and old people.matsudahyde wrote:well i hope what you guys said is happening to me.. as like pwner4once said, maybe i'll just aim to be a friend at first. if everything goes well, i'll continue to take it to the next level...
Yosshhh, europeaan chickss be my frieend.. =p
I haven't seen that French girl i talked to at all... and the viet girl doesn't come around either... GUha!!!! boring boring T_T
Well as for me Im not too sure. I remember I was talking with a waitress at my job. I mentioned how much I loved japanese culture, then she tells me "You know asian guys have small penesis, right?" Maybe that has to do something with it.LMAO I hope know one finds this offensive. That comment wasnt made by me it was the waitress at my job. Oh but she wasnt European, she was Black.matsudahyde wrote:hi everyone,
im new here hehe, and i want to ask a question to everyone.. is it possible for an Asian male to date an european girl. I've seen a lot of asian girl dating with an european guy, but never seen any asian male date with an european girl..
hmpph, i wonder what its like to date an european girl..
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may i jump in on this conversation?
i find the condoms in japan to be smaller than the one's in the states...could that be part of the reason for the stereotype? just a thought....
and i have a chinese friend who exclusively dates blonde girls who are into fitness. (he's a workout nut himself.) I've know him since college (93-94) and ive never seen him with an asian girl, only blondes. so i know its possible!
i find the condoms in japan to be smaller than the one's in the states...could that be part of the reason for the stereotype? just a thought....
and i have a chinese friend who exclusively dates blonde girls who are into fitness. (he's a workout nut himself.) I've know him since college (93-94) and ive never seen him with an asian girl, only blondes. so i know its possible!
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You should save him before he marries one.nikochanr3 wrote: may i jump in on this conversation?
i find the condoms in japan to be smaller than the one's in the states...could that be part of the reason for the stereotype? just a thought....
and i have a chinese friend who exclusively dates blonde girls who are into fitness. (he's a workout nut himself.) I've know him since college (93-94) and ive never seen him with an asian girl, only blondes. so i know its possible!
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too late. October 8th is the day. Funny you said that.kotaeshiranaihito wrote:You should save him before he marries one.nikochanr3 wrote: may i jump in on this conversation?
i find the condoms in japan to be smaller than the one's in the states...could that be part of the reason for the stereotype? just a thought....
and i have a chinese friend who exclusively dates blonde girls who are into fitness. (he's a workout nut himself.) I've know him since college (93-94) and ive never seen him with an asian girl, only blondes. so i know its possible!
Some guys are small some guys are huge some guys are just in between
Some girls only like em large some dont care if they like the person its attached too
I think that holds true for all racial types...
I see azn guys with white girls all the time...i see black girls with azn guys i see every mix u can think of and around here no one thinks too much about it anymore...but o lord there was a time that was ugly for inter racial dating around here....I've always thought that if we all belong to the human race how can there be race mixing? I know I know there are caucasians blacks hispanics asians...w/e...all the same to me if you please
Some girls only like em large some dont care if they like the person its attached too
I think that holds true for all racial types...
I see azn guys with white girls all the time...i see black girls with azn guys i see every mix u can think of and around here no one thinks too much about it anymore...but o lord there was a time that was ugly for inter racial dating around here....I've always thought that if we all belong to the human race how can there be race mixing? I know I know there are caucasians blacks hispanics asians...w/e...all the same to me if you please
why say that he should be saved before he marries a blonde?? any bad experience with one?nikochanr3 wrote:too late. October 8th is the day. Funny you said that.kotaeshiranaihito wrote:You should save him before he marries one.nikochanr3 wrote: may i jump in on this conversation?
i find the condoms in japan to be smaller than the one's in the states...could that be part of the reason for the stereotype? just a thought....
and i have a chinese friend who exclusively dates blonde girls who are into fitness. (he's a workout nut himself.) I've know him since college (93-94) and ive never seen him with an asian girl, only blondes. so i know its possible!
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Yeah, but I also had bad experiences with 5 asian girls (6 if you count the korean one fron a week ago), one redhead, an african american girl, and a brunette. And this was all in the last 2 1/2 months (I'm good at dating, but suck at relationships, I have to work on that-lets hope the chinese girl I'm kinda seeing now will be better). It was pretty much just a joke that people who date asian girls like to make (the "white girls are all crazy" joke).zaechi wrote:why say that he should be saved before he marries a blonde?? any bad experience with one?nikochanr3 wrote:too late. October 8th is the day. Funny you said that.kotaeshiranaihito wrote:
You should save him before he marries one.
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lol i don't think we are really following the all single only discussion anymore since the topic is getting kind old and no one really attends the school nowadaysgibonite wrote:hum... are we still in the single thread?
anyhow eer.... i wouldn't care about all the stereotype thing... however i am sure some slutty girl will perfer large and phat ones...
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hey dude u know what? FUFUFU!!!Jeremiah wrote:@Mythrel, ahh? Julie got engaged?? LOL How's school life man?
@Pwner4once, erm.. you're joking right? A full time lifeguard?? LOL Well wish you all the best.
anyhow, school is starting next week and im going to cut down on the hrs for lifeguard too. puff lifeguard is really a joke. I don't do anything at all except getting on the stand to watch patrons. most guards don't even care and merely any1 drowns at all.
lol cute picture gibonite, I wish you two the best.
LOL jeremiah Julie isn't engaged.. She is about to leave for Japan soon though!! Sooo jealous!! Ehhhhhh.. School sucks, like its a good experience just too much work. I wish they kept it a 3 year course instead of shrinking it to a 1year 1/2, but they obviously want more money... Math sucks, but I have to deal with it because its what im always going to be using with this career. Got any awsome books on Matrices you can send me bro :X
LOL jeremiah Julie isn't engaged.. She is about to leave for Japan soon though!! Sooo jealous!! Ehhhhhh.. School sucks, like its a good experience just too much work. I wish they kept it a 3 year course instead of shrinking it to a 1year 1/2, but they obviously want more money... Math sucks, but I have to deal with it because its what im always going to be using with this career. Got any awsome books on Matrices you can send me bro :X
I CAN'T LIVE ANOTHER SECOND WITHOUT INTERNET! hopefully it will be set up this wednesday. it was supposed to be set up last thursday but people suck and don't do their job
*flying knee-kicks jeremiah in the face* sorry aniki, but stan sucks. ew, engagement. Mr. S is dumb and pathetic and a loser.
all is good though.
*flying knee-kicks jeremiah in the face* sorry aniki, but stan sucks. ew, engagement. Mr. S is dumb and pathetic and a loser.
all is good though.
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hm so yea... im just coming by to see if anyone watches Kekkon Dekinai Otoko. it's basically a handsome quiet version of Densha... and more accomplish and etc... any1 interested to watch?
edit: Today I saw a Korean kid and her mom at the Social Security Office. For all americans, i hope u guys know what it is. Anyhow, the kid seems to be cold. However the mom didn't seem to have much on either. Nevertheless, she took off her shirt and put it on him. For some reason, that just reminded of my mom... The picture of not having a father bearing the harsh stuff when the father is absent... yea so just a rare scene i saw, well i may say unforgettable.
edit: Today I saw a Korean kid and her mom at the Social Security Office. For all americans, i hope u guys know what it is. Anyhow, the kid seems to be cold. However the mom didn't seem to have much on either. Nevertheless, she took off her shirt and put it on him. For some reason, that just reminded of my mom... The picture of not having a father bearing the harsh stuff when the father is absent... yea so just a rare scene i saw, well i may say unforgettable.
Haha Julie thought you were getting engaged to him on our last talk.. man!! Sorry for misunderstanding.
Richie, man thanks for the pack of ice.. that little sister has one of the kick of jet li haha!!
Jing man... you and your thoughts haha.. at first I thought you were getting perv like Justin.. hey anyone have news of Justin??
Nice picture Gibonite!! Cute couple
Richie, man thanks for the pack of ice.. that little sister has one of the kick of jet li haha!!
Jing man... you and your thoughts haha.. at first I thought you were getting perv like Justin.. hey anyone have news of Justin??
Nice picture Gibonite!! Cute couple
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no jeremiah... my thoughts aren't no where related to sex... lolJeremiah wrote:Haha Julie thought you were getting engaged to him on our last talk.. man!! Sorry for misunderstanding.
Richie, man thanks for the pack of ice.. that little sister has one of the kick of jet li haha!!
Jing man... you and your thoughts haha.. at first I thought you were getting perv like Justin.. hey anyone have news of Justin??
Nice picture Gibonite!! Cute couple
so stop relating my thoughts to perversion... u sick sickO!
anyhow, i talked to Jeremiah today and we were thinking of getting all the F4 members together for a chat
so Mythrel Julie and Justin... u guys okay with it?
'maybe we cna arrange a date or smth lol
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I am very glad to hear you guys. Regarding the hour, might it be tomorrow morning in US Central time? if not, just tell me and i'll arrange another dayx_XJules wrote:Bwahahaha more like two seasons. (didn't it come out in winter season?)
meh, no matter what we'll always be f4 though.
yea, i'd be down for a chat.
Im gonna be going to the mall on Monday.
Me and my friend thought that maybe we should find some girls to hang out with and perhaps even become good friends, or possibly something more.
Does anyone think it's a good idea to find girls at malls?
Would it be easier to go alone, or better with a friend?
Question to any girls reading this, how would you feel if you were at the mall and a guy asked if he can join your group?
Is there any other way to approach?
Me and my friend thought that maybe we should find some girls to hang out with and perhaps even become good friends, or possibly something more.
Does anyone think it's a good idea to find girls at malls?
Would it be easier to go alone, or better with a friend?
Question to any girls reading this, how would you feel if you were at the mall and a guy asked if he can join your group?
Is there any other way to approach?
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I don't know about you but I'd be hell out freaked. I mean, we do live in a deranged society where we have to deal with creepy people. And the mall thing, it's kinda pointless to find girls there. Not all nice girls are shopaholics you know. Try like at clubs/parties/concerts/social gatherings/school events. It's best to go with a friend incase something goes wrong.Crono wrote:Im gonna be going to the mall on Monday.
Me and my friend thought that maybe we should find some girls to hang out with and perhaps even become good friends, or possibly something more.
Does anyone think it's a good idea to find girls at malls?
Would it be easier to go alone, or better with a friend?
Question to any girls reading this, how would you feel if you were at the mall and a guy asked if he can join your group?
Is there any other way to approach?
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