Are you in love or not at all?
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Not at all right now but I've been in love before and it was the biggest waste of time. You think about the person constantly, detracting you from more important things such as studying, earning money, and downloading/watching dramas. lol. I made a vow to myself not to fall in love with anyone until I'm ready to get married (which is still years ahead). People should guard their hearts more because romantic love can consume you.
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I was and still am in love. Even though I met her during the end of the summer, I know that I have strong feelings for her. She elft the US to go back home to Japan. I know its like 1/100 chance of me seeing her again, but thats what Im planning on doing. I really cant quite explain it. When I first met her I just wanted to talk to her longer and when that time she left I wanted to go to the airport and go back with her xD.
I hope your wish come true, but don't waste yourself to much on the guy who don't treasure you.Cub wrote:Very much in love right now... with someone who says he loves me too but not in the same way
But I'm told by many people to just love him and treat him lovingly and he'll come back to my side soon
Have been in love for a few months with a reaaally hard-to-get girl, she's been really undecisive and troublesome and testing me in all kinds of ways and every little step has been a challenge... Phew. For some reason I didn't give up yet though and now she's falling for me. :)
Actually there's one more awesome girl, my backup target (wouldn't go for two at the same time!), but that one seems to have a boyfriend... f^^;
Actually there's one more awesome girl, my backup target (wouldn't go for two at the same time!), but that one seems to have a boyfriend... f^^;
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Good luck man, i am not Chinese but i meet this Chinese girl about 5-6 years ago and from then i realize what is the meaning of true love , we went through a lot of hardship and she was always standing beside me as a supporting pillar.pwner4once wrote:haha i want to be in love yet I am trying to avoid emotional things. girlfriends will mean a burden for me. they will only become a part of my memory and no further since American girls are always like stuffed dull. maybe someday i will meet a chinese girl and have a life together.
Recently we got married . And i am very thankful to GOD who make this happen .
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Life is quite strange... I meet some guy on another forum, we became good friends, and it appears after some time that a friend of him works in my compagny... and one day, that guy called me in a corridor. We met in some colleague's parties, sometimes at work... but he is as shy as I am... maybe more
I wasn't sure at beginning if I really love him or not, but he always remain in my mind, I've engrave every little words he've said, and I thought about interpretation, implications... so much that even me could realised that it wasn't "normal"... and he also seems interessed.
I had just quit my work, he is still working there. I managed to get his e-mail, and find a pretext to wrote to him, maybe I'm too complicated (not "maybe", I'm actually too complicated) but now all I can do is waiting. I should search work in fishing.
I wasn't sure at beginning if I really love him or not, but he always remain in my mind, I've engrave every little words he've said, and I thought about interpretation, implications... so much that even me could realised that it wasn't "normal"... and he also seems interessed.
I had just quit my work, he is still working there. I managed to get his e-mail, and find a pretext to wrote to him, maybe I'm too complicated (not "maybe", I'm actually too complicated) but now all I can do is waiting. I should search work in fishing.
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yeah, that's what i thot at first as well... but when u meet the girl that u like and i jus had it all pressured up inside of me, bursting to confess...but yeah that was my turning point in my love lifeberserk wrote:Not at all right now but I've been in love before and it was the biggest waste of time. You think about the person constantly, detracting you from more important things such as studying, earning money, and downloading/watching dramas. lol. I made a vow to myself not to fall in love with anyone until I'm ready to get married (which is still years ahead). People should guard their hearts more because romantic love can consume you.
i got turned down, and it went in a rather bad way cuz i did a lot to try to keep it up, and it was hard cuz she did a lotta things to avoid and make me forget her but she doesnt' realize that i think of her everyday...every morning, day and night; i try to forget her but forgetting her also means forgetting this feeling and losing this hope and motivation that i keep... and the fact that i was so determined to get her back and talk like we used to...
now realizing it'll never be the same, i have to respect her and what she wishes... she may choose to forget me but i tend to count the days and look back and say "i don't believe it's been 'x' days ago and i still think of her" ... today's day 56 (8th week), every week, i make it a tradition to tell a new person about this... i waste a lotta time thinking of her... and sometimes i think to myself that i'm dumb and i'm wasting a lotta time thinking of this one person... but i gotta say she was the only person who picked me up from the junkpile and took me under her wing... well... that's how i feel about her... at first i wasn't interested in her...but with time, talking to her and seeing her became a necessity
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as i read through the posts. somehow it brought back the memory when i first experienced a relationship. it wasn't very long since a week after. i left for US. but i guess i was kind lucky. the gurl liked 3 guys in my class including me. she asked which 1 to choose and I said of course me cuz im dead handsome which is a totally lame lie. but she went out with me. went iceskating, busted knee and it was fun. but ever since i had lost trust. is it me or it's just really hard to find some1 trust worthy in america?
I am not in love.
But i am missing the feeling of being in love.
Moreover i am missing the feeling of being loved.
I miss all those casual and tender moments.
So i am hoping I would be in love. Like a simple love story
that would not involved him going back to somewhere or him having a girlfriend already...or anything of the kind.
I hope there is still love left for me and to think there is none is what hurts me the most i guess.
But i am missing the feeling of being in love.
Moreover i am missing the feeling of being loved.
I miss all those casual and tender moments.
So i am hoping I would be in love. Like a simple love story
that would not involved him going back to somewhere or him having a girlfriend already...or anything of the kind.
I hope there is still love left for me and to think there is none is what hurts me the most i guess.
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hrmnnm... hard to fall in love these days and it probably has a lot to do with aging (is anyone else feeling the same thing?), but for all what love is worth it is worth taking the risk.
for all the ppl who are too chicken to confess, you should do it while you still can b/c you don't know what your chances are. you do get some yes and no, but i can tell you they all wont be all yes or no. this is how you progess or move on, and that is life.
for all the ppl who are too chicken to confess, you should do it while you still can b/c you don't know what your chances are. you do get some yes and no, but i can tell you they all wont be all yes or no. this is how you progess or move on, and that is life.
azn_guitar_guy, live and learn my friend. I don't think any girl is worth your diginity or happiness. My older friend told me a good tibit of advice the other day. He said, "You are going to strike out, gutter, and air ball a lot. Eventually, you will find the right one and she will make all the heartache worth it." I say treasure what she gave you and don't waste it. Be satisfied and thankful, but dont dote on it. Time heal all wounds and lay new tracks.
As for me, I think I am an M...
As for me, I think I am an M...
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well to be truthful, at the time i thought that this WAS my happiest moment in life...i thought a lotta ways of what she might've thought... i watched a lotta movies, and a lotta tv drama series... i thought like those movies... and i must emphasize on "movies", when the guy ends up changing the girl's mind and they live happily ever after... i could easily narrow it down to that movie Big Fish if u guys have seen it... it was like my only chance in life to express how i felt about a girl...even tho she turned me down...i went and did it...a nice mistake there... and y'know what, it's like i didn't even learn my lesson, i wanted to meet or jus see a glance of her... i'd ride my bike to across the city... jus to hide in a bush... cuz like she was the person who brought me up when everyone else left me... the person who taught me how to study... otherwise i'd be out of univ at the end of the yr... now i'm in 2nd yr cuz she was the one who taught me ... and i'll never forget her ... to me, she was an angel
i could explain it in a lotta diff ways... i don't want to give up on her.. a lotta times i said i would... but i couldn't... maybe there was something wrong with me i thought.. but after all these weeks i realized there's prob no right/wrong path.. do what u must.. take the time u need... cuz i believe jus one day... we'll talk again.. and i'll have nothing to say to her about all this
i could explain it in a lotta diff ways... i don't want to give up on her.. a lotta times i said i would... but i couldn't... maybe there was something wrong with me i thought.. but after all these weeks i realized there's prob no right/wrong path.. do what u must.. take the time u need... cuz i believe jus one day... we'll talk again.. and i'll have nothing to say to her about all this
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I'm madly in love, and could tell you a story that's all the way up there with Densha Otoko. I am however embarresed, as my progress would be equal to episode 3 of a romantic comedy drama (when the male lead fucks up for the 2nd time in the row), so i wont talk about it.
I've started to lose faith in myself, but i have a strong feeling that we were meant to be and I wont give up just yet. Wish me luck.
I've started to lose faith in myself, but i have a strong feeling that we were meant to be and I wont give up just yet. Wish me luck.
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I am already 28 and yet still could not find a girlfriend..All my colleagues love to make fun out of me by saying, '' the one without girlfriend please do this or do that.'' It is so irritating.
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haha are they your coworkers? that's kind cruel but I can see how it became a tradition to call u that. sometimes people think stuff are funny but it's really annoying and dumb.TIticamara wrote:I am already 28 and yet still could not find a girlfriend..All my colleague love to make fun out of me saying, '' the one without girlfriend please do this or do that.'' It is so irritating.
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its unfortunately the same everywhere. we give people with different cultures more leeway, OR other cultures are more reserved about their feelings. but the bullshit is universal. when i was younger, id think exactly what you did, but i got older and found out the unfortunate truth.pwner4once wrote:as i read through the posts. somehow it brought back the memory when i first experienced a relationship. it wasn't very long since a week after. i left for US. but i guess i was kind lucky. the gurl liked 3 guys in my class including me. she asked which 1 to choose and I said of course me cuz im dead handsome which is a totally lame lie. but she went out with me. went iceskating, busted knee and it was fun. but ever since i had lost trust. is it me or it's just really hard to find some1 trust worthy in america?
the good news is there are quality individuals everywhere, you just need to step upon the right one.
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well, i have a bf.. but i dont know if we are "IN LOVE" though. i mean, we really like each other and all, and do what normal relationships do but sometimes.. i feel it isnt "REAL LOVE" .. maybe its cause im tooo young or something. who knows. but when i get older, i guess i will understand what love is and probably feel it one day. Probably im not in the "love" stage yet. =P
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thats disturbing.....that an older woman would have you promise to marry her if you are legally not able to.mOnk3yy wrote:well..I'm currrently dating an older woman....
I already promised to marry her when I'm old enough (yes I'm underaged)
But.. I don't actually know if i really love her or not to marry her.
id say RUN SON RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!! find a nice young girl, and dont marry her! have fun!
you sound so funny kawaiilil'himitsu wrote:Life is quite strange... I meet some guy on another forum, we became good friends, and it appears after some time that a friend of him works in my compagny... and one day, that guy called me in a corridor. We met in some colleague's parties, sometimes at work... but he is as shy as I am... maybe more
I wasn't sure at beginning if I really love him or not, but he always remain in my mind, I've engrave every little words he've said, and I thought about interpretation, implications... so much that even me could realised that it wasn't "normal"... and he also seems interessed.
I had just quit my work, he is still working there. I managed to get his e-mail, and find a pretext to wrote to him, maybe I'm too complicated (not "maybe", I'm actually too complicated) but now all I can do is waiting. I should search work in fishing.
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wahh...i do not know whether im in love or not. theres this guy at my hs and i think i started to like him from the first time i saw him. It wasnt until one day we sat next to each other and we actually had a bit of a conversation. I had a chance to actually look him in the eyes and really see his smile. Thats when i thought, "hey i might actually have a crush on this guy". But unfortunetly we dont talk very much, and i started to admire him from afar. My "crush" on him lasted for about a year. But then recently i found out that he likes this girl that doesnt even go to our school. Surprisingly i wasnt really hurt from this info. So now im thinking whether i really even had a real crush on this guy in the first place. But anyways, now im trying to "un-like" this guy...but its kinda hard.
Also, theres this other guy thats that manager of the volleyball team im in. We do not talk AT ALL....literally. I dont even think i ever even said a word to him. However, i get nervous whenever i see him or even stand close to him. My heart actually beats really fast. I reallllyyy do not know why this is happening. Im pretty sure i do not have a crush on this guy...and to tell you the truth, i dont even find him attractive (not that hes ugly or anything). But why am i feeling this way whenever i see him?
arghhhh...im soo confuseddddd.
Also, theres this other guy thats that manager of the volleyball team im in. We do not talk AT ALL....literally. I dont even think i ever even said a word to him. However, i get nervous whenever i see him or even stand close to him. My heart actually beats really fast. I reallllyyy do not know why this is happening. Im pretty sure i do not have a crush on this guy...and to tell you the truth, i dont even find him attractive (not that hes ugly or anything). But why am i feeling this way whenever i see him?
arghhhh...im soo confuseddddd.
To the girl that I met on the copyroom at my university yesterday, most probably you won't read this, but if you do, i want to tell you that you're pretty and i guess i'm in love
thank you for borrowing my copy card, it is indeed a pleasure, too bad i'm too shy to ask ur number , and i'm graduating this semester so i won't see you ever again
i wanna say that u make my day and i hope the best for you, even though we don't know each other, i feel really happy for that 5 minutes
so long and good luck
thank you for borrowing my copy card, it is indeed a pleasure, too bad i'm too shy to ask ur number , and i'm graduating this semester so i won't see you ever again
i wanna say that u make my day and i hope the best for you, even though we don't know each other, i feel really happy for that 5 minutes
so long and good luck
not exactly in love.maybe a little bit of crush.maybe because some sweet things they did.yep,THEY.a few friends of mine.
once,i almost confessed to a close friend that i like him very much.later on,i found out that he likes somebody else.i was a little heartbroken though.but now i'm over it.my heart still pounds sometimes when i'm with him though.
i fell for another guy for almost a year.i even told his friend who was my friend about it.i really hope he didnt tell him though.because after liking him for a year, i found out he's very mush in love with some other girl.well my heart broke again.but why is he acting weird when he's around me?could it be that he already knew i once liked him?
had a crush on a colleague.it was joke at first.then it grew.again,i found out he has a huge crush on somebody else.
and a few other guys i had a crush on recently,they are all taken.why do i never fall for a guy who's single and has a crush on me back?
once,i almost confessed to a close friend that i like him very much.later on,i found out that he likes somebody else.i was a little heartbroken though.but now i'm over it.my heart still pounds sometimes when i'm with him though.
i fell for another guy for almost a year.i even told his friend who was my friend about it.i really hope he didnt tell him though.because after liking him for a year, i found out he's very mush in love with some other girl.well my heart broke again.but why is he acting weird when he's around me?could it be that he already knew i once liked him?
had a crush on a colleague.it was joke at first.then it grew.again,i found out he has a huge crush on somebody else.
and a few other guys i had a crush on recently,they are all taken.why do i never fall for a guy who's single and has a crush on me back?
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Yup, that's how it is. Probably the guys that you got crushes on suffer the same with the girls they have crushes on. It's a lucky thing to have a crush on someone that also has a crush on you. For those who are less fortunate, which is most of us; spending happy time with the one you like will give you a high possibility of making him or her like you back.sshlady wrote:not exactly in love.maybe a little bit of crush.maybe because some sweet things they did.yep,THEY.a few friends of mine.
once,i almost confessed to a close friend that i like him very much.later on,i found out that he likes somebody else.i was a little heartbroken though.but now i'm over it.my heart still pounds sometimes when i'm with him though.
i fell for another guy for almost a year.i even told his friend who was my friend about it.i really hope he didnt tell him though.because after liking him for a year, i found out he's very mush in love with some other girl.well my heart broke again.but why is he acting weird when he's around me?could it be that he already knew i once liked him?
had a crush on a colleague.it was joke at first.then it grew.again,i found out he has a huge crush on somebody else.
and a few other guys i had a crush on recently,they are all taken.why do i never fall for a guy who's single and has a crush on me back?
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I love him so much; he's the world to me; we're going to get married in... when I'm in grad school and he has his steady job as a lawyer (about 8 years from now) you get the point; yeah it seems "early" but I can't help it. 2 years does a lot to someone haha.
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HM.. Not in love right now ...becaue i can´t call love when it isnt love and when it is love i can´t either call that love....Hm...I hopp you guys undertande what i mean...because in this new world .. not the old world ..but the world that we pepole creat now..there is no love...because when i was litel i was all guys dreamgirl....at least my parensts use to say that...but the point is that i cant find that real love i m looking for...it not easy ..but also not hard...but now iam happy ...i have friends who really cares about me ... but a boyfriend ...i can waith bit longer .. .nOO ..but the point is that im not IN LOVe ...But there is celerbyte i like...Danile henney´,.. .really like how he speak english...and korean..heheh C/= heheh
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never been in love as well, maybe too otaku or somesort no, no it drama otaku...
i feel like i am damn in love when i watch korean drama....hehe
it beats than hafing a real gf....trust me dude no gf go find 1 damn nice drama wif damn hot cute girl...u know virtue gf or some sort haha.....but then no touching no kissing thts the saddest part.... it frustrates me **** piss me sometimes especially the part in the drama where the girl(actress) so hot starts kissing and then there is this urge u feel like getting into the screen.....and haizz impossilbe...zzZZzz
i feel like i am damn in love when i watch korean drama....hehe
it beats than hafing a real gf....trust me dude no gf go find 1 damn nice drama wif damn hot cute girl...u know virtue gf or some sort haha.....but then no touching no kissing thts the saddest part.... it frustrates me **** piss me sometimes especially the part in the drama where the girl(actress) so hot starts kissing and then there is this urge u feel like getting into the screen.....and haizz impossilbe...zzZZzz
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I think I was in love... I guess, some platonic one, really, maybe more than ideal friends like, but this person was the most important for me. Right now, I don't know anymore. It has been already three years but our relationship feels ruined now.
My special person was hiding something from me, that was the feeling I got when it started to get worse. She was much nicer to other people, even the ones she knows almost nothing about, she was acting like they were her best friends and not I, with me she started to be always unhappy and actually prefered talking to others... when I asked her why is it like that she won't answer or keep saying I'm imagining things. Later she was reacting like I'm a wild beast with which she must be carefull even though I wasn't even agressive, just sad that she forgot about our friendship and keep telling me it's not true on the same time she talked with me less and asnwered once for half o hour... >.> we ended having a fight, and originally either of us wanted it. Then she stopped suddenly talking to me saying something like "No one wants to talk to person who only wants to fight" hurting me with this words and it wasn't even truth. Right now we try to rebuild it, we can't actually talk with each other, we communicate through monologues in exchange diaries...
And right now I'm not sure if it's still this kind of deep relationship it used to be. Some days I wonder if it was or was it just my imagination?
Still, I don't think I regret having such relationships. I actually feel that life without them is kind of empty, even if my time shedule is full. People want to have someone to think about anytime, to talk with about nothing and everything, to know closer and be happy being with even on normal walk. And help each other when the time needs.
Loving just an idol is not enough... cause it's one-sidedXP
Still, I wonder, was I not good enough that this relationship is so ruined right now?... was it that we were blind on each other's problems or just sitting silent when we shouldn't have to? Or were it too many things on the same time...?
Right now it feels like I don't have a place to go back...
Still I'm trying my best at rebuilding this friendship. A feel it's impossible, but I'm still trying... actually I can't stand the thought it can end and in such a way...
on the other hand I want so much to be free from this relationship... sometimes it's too toxic even for me... being with high-depression type of person is really hard and I don't want to leave her alone... still my words don't reach her anymore.
My special person was hiding something from me, that was the feeling I got when it started to get worse. She was much nicer to other people, even the ones she knows almost nothing about, she was acting like they were her best friends and not I, with me she started to be always unhappy and actually prefered talking to others... when I asked her why is it like that she won't answer or keep saying I'm imagining things. Later she was reacting like I'm a wild beast with which she must be carefull even though I wasn't even agressive, just sad that she forgot about our friendship and keep telling me it's not true on the same time she talked with me less and asnwered once for half o hour... >.> we ended having a fight, and originally either of us wanted it. Then she stopped suddenly talking to me saying something like "No one wants to talk to person who only wants to fight" hurting me with this words and it wasn't even truth. Right now we try to rebuild it, we can't actually talk with each other, we communicate through monologues in exchange diaries...
And right now I'm not sure if it's still this kind of deep relationship it used to be. Some days I wonder if it was or was it just my imagination?
Still, I don't think I regret having such relationships. I actually feel that life without them is kind of empty, even if my time shedule is full. People want to have someone to think about anytime, to talk with about nothing and everything, to know closer and be happy being with even on normal walk. And help each other when the time needs.
Loving just an idol is not enough... cause it's one-sidedXP
Still, I wonder, was I not good enough that this relationship is so ruined right now?... was it that we were blind on each other's problems or just sitting silent when we shouldn't have to? Or were it too many things on the same time...?
Right now it feels like I don't have a place to go back...
Still I'm trying my best at rebuilding this friendship. A feel it's impossible, but I'm still trying... actually I can't stand the thought it can end and in such a way...
on the other hand I want so much to be free from this relationship... sometimes it's too toxic even for me... being with high-depression type of person is really hard and I don't want to leave her alone... still my words don't reach her anymore.
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Luthien-Archer wrote:i'm not in love, but i want to be 'in love'
i have nobody in mind right now...hmmmm..seeing my friends being in a relationship makes me want to be in one too...peer pressure i guess?
Ah, I know what u mean, friends in relationships that seem to work out well, special moments, special person...
But hey, what about the great life of a single
So yeah, Im not in love at all, never been either. How do you people fall in love?? Do you have to want to fall in love for it to happen?
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I'm happily in love with my boyfriend
We've been together for five and a half years (and we're each other's first love). Our friends keep pestering us on when we'll get married... but there's no rush! We don't need a ring or certificate to prove that we're in love.
The crummy thing is, we're always separated (went to different colleges, and now he's back home while I'm at grad school) and only get to see each other during the summer and winter breaks.
I miss him
We've been together for five and a half years (and we're each other's first love). Our friends keep pestering us on when we'll get married... but there's no rush! We don't need a ring or certificate to prove that we're in love.
The crummy thing is, we're always separated (went to different colleges, and now he's back home while I'm at grad school) and only get to see each other during the summer and winter breaks.
I miss him
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