How many ppl here live a depressing life?
How many ppl here live a depressing life?
i often look on the negative side of everything, thru out my life so far, nothing came easy.. so i just wonder if ppl in here are happy birds or somewat depressed.
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
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jinwah.. what do you mean by starting this thread??
well happy skydiving... and then I suggest you meet friendly people, happy go lucky person and watch happy happy dramas/movies like
1) My Boss, My Hero (JAPAN)
2) My Girl (KOREA)
3) all Stephen Chow movies (CHINA - Hong Kong)
just my words.. "you are what you think, you do like you think".. think positive ne..
pay a visit to hospital and see at their face and talk with them, it will be a good theraphy for unhappy person.. respect Aya in drama "One Litre of Tears / Ichi Rittoru no Namida"
live must go on for the living
well happy skydiving... and then I suggest you meet friendly people, happy go lucky person and watch happy happy dramas/movies like
1) My Boss, My Hero (JAPAN)
2) My Girl (KOREA)
3) all Stephen Chow movies (CHINA - Hong Kong)
just my words.. "you are what you think, you do like you think".. think positive ne..
pay a visit to hospital and see at their face and talk with them, it will be a good theraphy for unhappy person.. respect Aya in drama "One Litre of Tears / Ichi Rittoru no Namida"
live must go on for the living
I totally agree with malay_tiger. Moreover I would suggest to hang out with friends or even finding new ones. For instance by doing a new hobby and joining a club. i think if you are really interested in sky diving. This is a good step. Another thing I am doing is setting myself some goals i want to achieve.
But don't forget good times will always come, so cheer up
But don't forget good times will always come, so cheer up
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This is life isn't it? I think my life is pretty hard too and I have a lot of those depressed / emo moments but it's up to you to not let those moments get you down. I can just sit and wallow in self pity but I think.. what is that going to do? how is that going to help me at all? So I try to stand on my own two feet and keep living. Like zippyflu said, live for the happy moments. Try to stay positive and be around happy / positive people. Do something that'll make you happy.
Skydiving is a good choice for instance. There's nothing like it, that feeling is irreplaceable and I love it ! For those who are thinking about skydiving (and have the cash) definitely do it, it's one of the most amazing things you'll ever do.
Cheer up & be happy
Skydiving is a good choice for instance. There's nothing like it, that feeling is irreplaceable and I love it ! For those who are thinking about skydiving (and have the cash) definitely do it, it's one of the most amazing things you'll ever do.
Cheer up & be happy
Well, lessee....
In the last year, I sold my business, ended up using all the proceeds to keep a roof over my family's heads after a work-related injury kept me from working for almost 9 months, my father-in-law had a stroke so Mom's back in China to take care of him for a bit, so I have nobody to watch my son while I'm working, I'm trying to launch a new business while working 3 jobs, and it's been nothing but headaches for the last month getting things organized and set up to get things rolling....
But y'know what? I have utmost confidence in myself and my abilities, I have a beautiful lady who loves me unconditionally, and I have an adorable little 10-year-old who thinks his Daddy's the coolest guy in the universe, so I'd say all in all, things are going pretty damn good right now!!!!!
(except for this annoying migraine I've got at the moment, but I'll bet I still get the next ep of RRLY up in the next day or so...)
In the last year, I sold my business, ended up using all the proceeds to keep a roof over my family's heads after a work-related injury kept me from working for almost 9 months, my father-in-law had a stroke so Mom's back in China to take care of him for a bit, so I have nobody to watch my son while I'm working, I'm trying to launch a new business while working 3 jobs, and it's been nothing but headaches for the last month getting things organized and set up to get things rolling....
But y'know what? I have utmost confidence in myself and my abilities, I have a beautiful lady who loves me unconditionally, and I have an adorable little 10-year-old who thinks his Daddy's the coolest guy in the universe, so I'd say all in all, things are going pretty damn good right now!!!!!
(except for this annoying migraine I've got at the moment, but I'll bet I still get the next ep of RRLY up in the next day or so...)
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Thanks so much. Your positive spirit really lifts me up. Wishes your life gets better everyday.aNTok wrote:
Well, lessee....
In the last year, I sold my business, ended up using all the proceeds to keep a roof over my family's heads after a work-related injury kept me from working for almost 9 months, my father-in-law had a stroke so Mom's back in China to take care of him for a bit, so I have nobody to watch my son while I'm working, I'm trying to launch a new business while working 3 jobs, and it's been nothing but headaches for the last month getting things organized and set up to get things rolling....
But y'know what? I have utmost confidence in myself and my abilities, I have a beautiful lady who loves me unconditionally, and I have an adorable little 10-year-old who thinks his Daddy's the coolest guy in the universe, so I'd say all in all, things are going pretty damn good right now!!!!!
(except for this annoying migraine I've got at the moment, but I'll bet I still get the next ep of RRLY up in the next day or so...)
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I think ppl get depressed mostly when they don't get what they want or need.Too much of free time makes ppl depressed ,too.Make your life fullfiled with things you like to do so they would ocupie you for a whole day.That way u'll put depression away.Also...try to talk with someone trustfull about that(feelings,thoughts...,blah,blah)...pain is helded easier when it is shared with someone...hope you understand (I know to say this perfectly in my languahe )
We live in a broken world where things do not always go as they should. My life rarely goes as planned. But although I've had times of unspeakable sadness I've also experienced unspeakable joy. Through the tough times (yes, I have experienced severe depression) I've continued to believe several things: 1) It will pass. This moment in my life is not the sum of my whole life. 2) There are people who love me and value me - even when I doubt my own worth. 3) My life has value and meaning - even though it may not make much sense right now. 4) There is a God who loves me and cares for my well-being - even when I feel that God is far away.
I had a hard time when I was in my 20s - always on an emotional roller coaster ride. However, now that I'm older I feel much more settled and much less prone to depression - and yes, I'm very happy right now. I'm so thankful to my family and friends who listened and comforted me. For those out there who do suffer from depression - please talk to someone. Don't just perservere alone. And if it's really severe - please get professional help... Please!!
I had a hard time when I was in my 20s - always on an emotional roller coaster ride. However, now that I'm older I feel much more settled and much less prone to depression - and yes, I'm very happy right now. I'm so thankful to my family and friends who listened and comforted me. For those out there who do suffer from depression - please talk to someone. Don't just perservere alone. And if it's really severe - please get professional help... Please!!
I'm not sure if younger people are more depressed than older... I just think there is a lot more confusion when you are younger. There are so many uncertainties - and sometimes looking at your future can be quite scary... As you get older you often have a sense of structure and stability in your life - often there is a committed partner and a job that you can settle in to. In addition, I feel a lot happier about myself now that I'm older. I feel I know who I am much more than I when I was younger - I have more confidence in my ability to make choices and there is much less pressure to be someone that I am not. There is less pressure to conform. I had a tough time as a teenager - I'm MUCH happier now... (I'm probably old enough to be your mom!)
didn't read much of the thread as of yet (just stumbled across it a few minutes ago) but my take on it is life is only as depressing as you let it take you.I've had some severe depression before but i know that anytime i had it, it was because i was taking on more than i should have.
In that respect,i'd have to say that relatively i think i lead a pretty much depression free life. Personally, watching 1 litre of tears again really really makes you appreciate just how little we think of life. (cough does not help that i just watched love generation before that again and got reminded again how humans(or maybe just me) don't really appreciate what they have until they lose it)
at any rate anyone who's depressed i can only say take heart and look for the silver lining the cloud.
(alternatively... watch 1 litre of tears... cry your eyes out then feel happy that you're alive... )
hmm after reading the thread i think i should add a few more details, i am a pessimistic by nature pretty much but i don't let it get me down unless it gets REALLY bad... (cough... being hyper for too long is equally bad i've woken up with massive headaches due to it before... )
@ aNToK: i have to say i am impressed by your dedication to your family(cough and to dramas...) as well as your confidence hope your business succeeds and you can rest a little..
@ Psionic: i'll have to disagree on your thinking. leading a depressing life may not mean much in the bigger picture BUT the bigger picture does not mean much in a depressing life afterall, why would you care about other problems if you're depressed (note: i'm assuming that this is so i've not been so depressed that i haven't been able to think objectively before thus i'm not 100% sure just felt that this post is not that err... helpful?) also: not a personal attack
@ Nonbirira: i'd agree on there being more confusion... heck i was one VERY confused individual a short while back. err not sure bout anything else so.. yeah... i personally think i'm still tethering on the verge of being an adult and still being a teen so i can't comment on that ^^
In that respect,i'd have to say that relatively i think i lead a pretty much depression free life. Personally, watching 1 litre of tears again really really makes you appreciate just how little we think of life. (cough does not help that i just watched love generation before that again and got reminded again how humans(or maybe just me) don't really appreciate what they have until they lose it)
at any rate anyone who's depressed i can only say take heart and look for the silver lining the cloud.
(alternatively... watch 1 litre of tears... cry your eyes out then feel happy that you're alive... )
hmm after reading the thread i think i should add a few more details, i am a pessimistic by nature pretty much but i don't let it get me down unless it gets REALLY bad... (cough... being hyper for too long is equally bad i've woken up with massive headaches due to it before... )
@ aNToK: i have to say i am impressed by your dedication to your family(cough and to dramas...) as well as your confidence hope your business succeeds and you can rest a little..
@ Psionic: i'll have to disagree on your thinking. leading a depressing life may not mean much in the bigger picture BUT the bigger picture does not mean much in a depressing life afterall, why would you care about other problems if you're depressed (note: i'm assuming that this is so i've not been so depressed that i haven't been able to think objectively before thus i'm not 100% sure just felt that this post is not that err... helpful?) also: not a personal attack
@ Nonbirira: i'd agree on there being more confusion... heck i was one VERY confused individual a short while back. err not sure bout anything else so.. yeah... i personally think i'm still tethering on the verge of being an adult and still being a teen so i can't comment on that ^^
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Although I have not finish reading everyone's response. I just want to say that life is what you fulfill with it. Yes simply as it puts. Life is not boring or exciting until you do something about it. As a kid, I thought my day was colorful and I was a happy kiddo until I departed from parents and now It seems the days are long and sometimes short. It might become boring and sometimes exhausting but it simply depends on your mindset. I might not sound convincing but really life is just a way to put your mind to work. I am only writing this because I have nothing to do until 6:30 for the UT Austin orientation. It is indeed boring at the moment but I am at least trying to find something to do to fill this free spot in my life. So when someone ask me what did you do today. I can at least have an response but not the usual " oh nothing." when you feel that your life is boring and depressing. I think that's when to start thinking about learning to have habit and trying new thing out for life. i am starting college soon and so far all the requirement courses will be tkaing up pretty much everything in my schedule. however i do love swimming, so in my sparetime I will be working out and making new friends at the pool. Do not force yourself to do what others are best at. Do what you think will be fun and do what you think might help you make more friends ;D
Wow, what pwner4once said about doing what will help you make friends... That is SO right! When things really go wrong, you really need to feel that there are people that will help you get past it. You can try and rely on your family for personal support, but you have to realise at some point that the people that CHOOSE to support you are going to be easier on your mental health than the people who feel OBLIGATED to support you. And what he said about life being what you make of it... That might sound trite, but it's also the other half of the Golden Rule.
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haha I am glad one of ya actually supports me. anyhow just came back from a Vietnamese noodle place... yes i was bored but hey. I get hungry a lot so why not go out with friends and eat ? Funny thing is I ran into this girl I been stumbling into on and off. I was too much of a wuss to ask her # yesterday but God she asked for mine What a great world! It's all about being happy and lookin forward to future! If you think your life sucks, think about the people who have to put up with harder life! Like the people in africa and etc. Just try to be happy and go hang out with friends! if you got no close friends like me. Oh well just hang out with some people you know. You think it'll suck and be boring? try to crack some jokes, be funny and do goofy stuff.
hope ya the best
hope ya the best
my life is pretty boring too... every day i always ask myself "why doesnt my family have a special kung fu martial arts manual?" or "why dont i posses a sword thats made from a rare material unmatch by anyother sword in the world"
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im not so sure i would call myself depress but everyone tells me i am
but i don't find many things people value in life important
and watching doramas gives me an idea of how good people could be to each other
but when you look at the real world the majority of people in little ways act untrustworthy, greedily, violent which just adds to everybodys overall suffering and tone of depression but this is life, this is the world people made for themselves
i think to counter this people focus solely if not the majority of their time on the so-called "happy" things in life (most of which I believe either dont exist or dont really make people happy) i choose not to though i like to look at the big picture, its SAD but so what
personally i think people get depressed when they realize these things after having a positive outlook on life but when u realize that this is the world then i guess you can go on existing
you just take it day by day, . . . but dont expect too much and always prepare for the wrost
but i don't find many things people value in life important
and watching doramas gives me an idea of how good people could be to each other
but when you look at the real world the majority of people in little ways act untrustworthy, greedily, violent which just adds to everybodys overall suffering and tone of depression but this is life, this is the world people made for themselves
i think to counter this people focus solely if not the majority of their time on the so-called "happy" things in life (most of which I believe either dont exist or dont really make people happy) i choose not to though i like to look at the big picture, its SAD but so what
personally i think people get depressed when they realize these things after having a positive outlook on life but when u realize that this is the world then i guess you can go on existing
you just take it day by day, . . . but dont expect too much and always prepare for the wrost
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NO NOwat3rm3lon wrote:Go watch some dramas. They will make you happy.
Or instead of watching people's happy lives-
Live your own happy life.
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT FOO
watching drama will only make your life worse if you are hoping that they will make your life for the better. I used to be sad and watching drama is as good as a daily happy pill. However it actually separates you from reality and make you rely on the drama inside a drama adn therefore living in it. I think the best way is do some kind of exercise for starter if you can't find any friends to hang out. If that doesn't work, you can always find some kind of study group (if you are in college like me). Worse case, go to the gem and swim. Make new friends! From experience, don't try to find people you will like at first sight. Just try to make friends in general. Don't be picky! It's not finding my best friend contest!
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I know that there's a particular song (or rather group of songs) that help me get up when I am down.
"Pulled up" by the Talking Heads (last song on the first album). David Byrne's almost frantic
delivery actually leaves him breathless by the end of the song.
There's some others but listen to that and get moving! See if that doesn't help.
I also found riding my bike thereapeutic. Then I found riding that bike long distances was
also thereapeutic. As many as 100 miles. I'm nuts, I know.
"Pulled up" by the Talking Heads (last song on the first album). David Byrne's almost frantic
delivery actually leaves him breathless by the end of the song.
There's some others but listen to that and get moving! See if that doesn't help.
I also found riding my bike thereapeutic. Then I found riding that bike long distances was
also thereapeutic. As many as 100 miles. I'm nuts, I know.
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depression isnt always related to specific things one must remember. i used to get depressed and not be able to shake it, it didnt matter if things got better or changed or anything. i was "stuck" for lack of a better term. if never went away, i just understand it now which kind of makes it go away if that makes sense. tokk a long time...
if you are depressed about nothing in general and cant shake it you should see someone about it.
if you are depressed about nothing in general and cant shake it you should see someone about it.
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Ehm, I see the general wisdom in what you're saying, I really do. Friends can be wonderful, they can pick you up when you're feeling down and all that cliche jazz. Though, I think going out and looking for friends simply because you're sad is just as much of a "happy pill" as watching dramas. The only difference is with dramas you aren't taking advantage of someone else. It's the same with exercise, because I feel you tend to focus on the exercise rather than what's really bothering you. There really is no easy way to work through the painful parts of life, at least not healthy ways. Ultimately, everyone has to figure out how to move on themselves.pwner4once wrote: I used to be sad and watching drama is as good as a daily happy pill.
I also think wat3rm3lon nailed it in one go. Watch dramas, do whatever, but live your life. Don't get so bogged down on the sad parts, because there's better(and worse) parts still to come. If you just live your life the way that makes you happy, usually you gain friends naturally.
Disclaimer: Please note, I'm not trying to attack anyone's opinions or beliefs. If it was taken as such, I apologize beforehand. Any content listed above is my own meandering opinion and should not be taken as a statement of fact from any kind of informed professional.
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Yes, you can say I live a depressing life.
However, I'm coming to terms with my depression. I finally accepted it as not being bad, but a part of life and this moment will pass. Usually something triggers my depression and other times, I'm just depressed for no reason.
I had a really bad episode so I decided to self-medicate(talking the mood enhancer: St. John's warts.) I discovered that being numb and feeling just okay about everything was worst off than being depressed.
I kinda over-dose on St. John's warts. I followed the instruction and took 3 pills a day, and it totally screwed me up. I lost my appetite. I felt fine, but everything was too neutral. I didn't have negative thoughts, but I couldn't really fully enjoy myself. I love listening to music, but listening to music became unsatisfying. I even tried thinking about negative thoughts, but I couldn't do it. I also lost my creative flare for creating art and writing.
After my St. John's warts experience, I discovered that life sucks but there are happy times also and I liked that I was an emotional basket-case.
I'm still insecure, I'm still hyper-shy, and at times I'm a maniac. finally at the ripe old age of 23 I accepted these emotions as colors of life.
I'm still closed in my shell, but I'm creeping out little by little.
However, I'm coming to terms with my depression. I finally accepted it as not being bad, but a part of life and this moment will pass. Usually something triggers my depression and other times, I'm just depressed for no reason.
I had a really bad episode so I decided to self-medicate(talking the mood enhancer: St. John's warts.) I discovered that being numb and feeling just okay about everything was worst off than being depressed.
I kinda over-dose on St. John's warts. I followed the instruction and took 3 pills a day, and it totally screwed me up. I lost my appetite. I felt fine, but everything was too neutral. I didn't have negative thoughts, but I couldn't really fully enjoy myself. I love listening to music, but listening to music became unsatisfying. I even tried thinking about negative thoughts, but I couldn't do it. I also lost my creative flare for creating art and writing.
After my St. John's warts experience, I discovered that life sucks but there are happy times also and I liked that I was an emotional basket-case.
I'm still insecure, I'm still hyper-shy, and at times I'm a maniac. finally at the ripe old age of 23 I accepted these emotions as colors of life.
I'm still closed in my shell, but I'm creeping out little by little.
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x NomadGirl x wrote:I'm usually either very happy or incredibly depressed. For others, I am optimistic, but for myself, I have a pessimistic view of things. Right now my life is depressing because of certain family problems, but I believe that things will always turn out fine. =]
I'm just like you! Sometimes, I'm really hyperactive and very cheerful but then on some days I throw a fit and then get all moody and end up not talking to anyone. Very weird. I think I'm moody. Don't worry about your family problems.. I've had that and that time was REALLY big and I didn't really have anyone to talk to about it. So, all the feelings were inside me and then I ended up crying to myself oh shyt why am i telling everyone this... =X
yeah anyway things got better and now every second that I spend with my family is mostly sounds of laughter! xDD hope things get better for ya~
Re: How many ppl here live a depressing life?
ohhh how i hope that's skydiving WITH the parachute! ^^jinwah wrote:i often look on the negative side of everything, thru out my life so far, nothing came easy.. so i just wonder if ppl in here are happy birds or somewat depressed.
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
yeh but its not easy to make friends.pwner4once wrote:NO NOwat3rm3lon wrote:Go watch some dramas. They will make you happy.
Or instead of watching people's happy lives-
Live your own happy life.
DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT FOO
watching drama will only make your life worse if you are hoping that they will make your life for the better. I used to be sad and watching drama is as good as a daily happy pill. However it actually separates you from reality and make you rely on the drama inside a drama adn therefore living in it. I think the best way is do some kind of exercise for starter if you can't find any friends to hang out. If that doesn't work, you can always find some kind of study group (if you are in college like me). Worse case, go to the gem and swim. Make new friends! From experience, don't try to find people you will like at first sight. Just try to make friends in general. Don't be picky! It's not finding my best friend contest!
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I can't say that I live a depressing life, but I sure don't live a happy one either. It's pretty boring and dull. I failed to get into the university because of a stupid system my country uses to give extra credits, and now I'm forced to work for one year in a random place chosen by the government because of the fact that I'm a pacifist and didn't want to join the army. I'm only 18, give me a break. Earlier this year, my house burned to the ground, and I lost almost all of my possesions.
I live on the countryside, so there arent that many people to become friends with, so it's hard to get new ones ><. And I live in a country with a very small population, and people here have very conservative interests, so there are no chances for me to do the activities that I'm interested in. Not to mention the messed up, kind of corrupted school system here.
Over to the good stuff! xD
I live in a country with a superb welfare system. I have a family that loves me, and we have enough money to live a decent life. We received a nice amount of insurance money for the burnt down house I have great friends, and last I was lucky to be born in a peaceful country which has provided me with a good education (but as I mentioned, we have a messed up system, and also we have no extracurricular activitites, and a very small array of hobby-activities outside of school).
I live on the countryside, so there arent that many people to become friends with, so it's hard to get new ones ><. And I live in a country with a very small population, and people here have very conservative interests, so there are no chances for me to do the activities that I'm interested in. Not to mention the messed up, kind of corrupted school system here.
Over to the good stuff! xD
I live in a country with a superb welfare system. I have a family that loves me, and we have enough money to live a decent life. We received a nice amount of insurance money for the burnt down house I have great friends, and last I was lucky to be born in a peaceful country which has provided me with a good education (but as I mentioned, we have a messed up system, and also we have no extracurricular activitites, and a very small array of hobby-activities outside of school).
I'm a pretty melancholic guy and my life is far from being cool, so most of the time, i'm depressed.
You know, wondering why a lot things all day long is bad for mental health, yet that's what 'im doing most of the time.
My family's pretty poor and i'm not that great in studies and of course, needless to say i don't have a lot of friend nor i ever had a gf before.
But i still dream of having a nice future so i won't kill myself for now, life might have some goos thing awaiting for me ^^
You know, wondering why a lot things all day long is bad for mental health, yet that's what 'im doing most of the time.
My family's pretty poor and i'm not that great in studies and of course, needless to say i don't have a lot of friend nor i ever had a gf before.
But i still dream of having a nice future so i won't kill myself for now, life might have some goos thing awaiting for me ^^
Most people I have ever met live a depressing life or are depressed, regardless of their situation.
I do not know anyone who does not live a depressing life. Every time I meet a new person who seems like they have their act together, I very soon find that their life is pathetic and pitiful and very depressing. Maybe I attract these people???
How can any of us ever escape the tragedy of not being able to be with the person who you want, live in the place that you want, etc....???
This is all a matter of perspective, though, and this is the most important thing to remember.
If you keep a green tree in your heart, perhaps the songbird will come.
I do not know anyone who does not live a depressing life. Every time I meet a new person who seems like they have their act together, I very soon find that their life is pathetic and pitiful and very depressing. Maybe I attract these people???
How can any of us ever escape the tragedy of not being able to be with the person who you want, live in the place that you want, etc....???
This is all a matter of perspective, though, and this is the most important thing to remember.
If you keep a green tree in your heart, perhaps the songbird will come.
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where do you live?Sakuranantogay wrote:I can't say that I live a depressing life, but I sure don't live a happy one either. It's pretty boring and dull. I failed to get into the university because of a stupid system my country uses to give extra credits, and now I'm forced to work for one year in a random place chosen by the government because of the fact that I'm a pacifist and didn't want to join the army. I'm only 18, give me a break. Earlier this year, my house burned to the ground, and I lost almost all of my possesions.
I live on the countryside, so there arent that many people to become friends with, so it's hard to get new ones ><. And I live in a country with a very small population, and people here have very conservative interests, so there are no chances for me to do the activities that I'm interested in. Not to mention the messed up, kind of corrupted school system here.
Over to the good stuff! xD
I live in a country with a superb welfare system. I have a family that loves me, and we have enough money to live a decent life. We received a nice amount of insurance money for the burnt down house I have great friends, and last I was lucky to be born in a peaceful country which has provided me with a good education (but as I mentioned, we have a messed up system, and also we have no extracurricular activitites, and a very small array of hobby-activities outside of school).
Life is depressing only if you make desicion that it will be like that! Sometimes you just have to tell yourself "Is it really ok to spend my life like this?" ... You live only once.. think about it!
And to those who think I'm just all talk: I have been deep down and I have so many bad experiences that I think nobody should have... I now I could be really down, but I think I'm not giving up! I have to be strong and proud of myself! I will live!
And to those who think I'm just all talk: I have been deep down and I have so many bad experiences that I think nobody should have... I now I could be really down, but I think I'm not giving up! I have to be strong and proud of myself! I will live!
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i was depresed until 1 year .... but not anymore...i was thinkin' too of my meaningfull existence...but now i feel ok...i don't give a f.. anymore i just have fun and live on...even if it's a bad situation even if people yell at me or argue...it's like i can't hear them anymore...i'm a verry relaxed person now..too relaxed i'd say
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my life has been horrible this past year, what with my mom suddenly having an illness and my dad all of a sudden not prioritizing my family even with my mom's condition. all my friends are older than i am and i feel like i'm not going anywhere with my life. it's been very rough. i've cried so many times about everything and complaining and being depressed that i realized it just doesn't help. you have to realize you have all the time in the world to make the most out of your life. no matter what age you are.
you first have to set goals for yourself while going through these tough times. then try achieving them one by one keeping in mind that everything takes time. the more you accomplish with self-improvement the better you'll feel. even if your goals seem soo far away or even impossible, it's fun just trying to make the most of it and actually making part of it reality. because it can happen if you really want it to.
i'm serious.
you first have to set goals for yourself while going through these tough times. then try achieving them one by one keeping in mind that everything takes time. the more you accomplish with self-improvement the better you'll feel. even if your goals seem soo far away or even impossible, it's fun just trying to make the most of it and actually making part of it reality. because it can happen if you really want it to.
i'm serious.
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yea but if you make it a process you'll realize your just creating a purpose when you really don't have any then you might actually think whuts tha point its tha same thing over and over
set goal -> accomplish goal-> find new challenge -> set goal-> accomplish goal -> find new challenge
i think a lot of people who realized them get bogged down in the lonely repetions of life and that why theyre depressed
. . . oh just a thought. . .
set goal -> accomplish goal-> find new challenge -> set goal-> accomplish goal -> find new challenge
i think a lot of people who realized them get bogged down in the lonely repetions of life and that why theyre depressed
. . . oh just a thought. . .
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My life used to be horrible, now it's great. I used to be stuck in the countryside in a small European country without people of interest around, then when I graduated from high school, I packed my bags and moved to South Korea by myself and am here to stay for the next couple of years. It's good. Life is truly what you make of it.
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omigosh, riding your bike is bicycle or motorbike? So fun la! You're frm singapore. Isn't it dangerous to ride on the roads or highways? ahah, or u keep going around in circles...aliensporebomb wrote:I know that there's a particular song (or rather group of songs) that help me get up when I am down.
"Pulled up" by the Talking Heads (last song on the first album). David Byrne's almost frantic
delivery actually leaves him breathless by the end of the song.
There's some others but listen to that and get moving! See if that doesn't help.
I also found riding my bike thereapeutic. Then I found riding that bike long distances was
also thereapeutic. As many as 100 miles. I'm nuts, I know.
Mmm, after reading these 4 pages of posts, I feel that things aren't really what they seem. These ppl may be people u see in school, at your work place everyday. But you might not know they have their own problems. They may seem very strong on the outside but they are actually fragile inside. We just don't know.
I just started university as a freshman earlier in Aug this yr and got all depressed when that process of making frens and getting adapted to independent learning got too overwhelming. I'm those type who warm up slower so I always feel uncomfortable (it's just not a good feeling, I feel tight at my chest) when in new classes and I'm all alone. But, I know I get pass it.
I once read about "Impermenance". It just means nothing is permanent, everything keeps on changing. There are depressing parts of life and happy parts too. Without sad times, we won't feel the happiness when good times are here. There must be contrasts and ups and downs. Otherwise, life would be too bland.
Remember, everything happens for a reason! Go and find the joy in simple things, small things... Sunshine, the gentle breeze on your face and your hair gets sweeped back haha. The smile of a child. See how children get so happy easily. Yea, I agree very much that having too much of free time is bad! Your thoughts run too wildly and end up clogging your mind!
Somemore happy things: A compliment frm someone. I bet everyone, EVERYONE have received compliments in their life at some point in time. The taste of chocolate or your fave food? Someone thanking you for something you've done for them. The flowers by the road side. The trees, so mighty and strong! A hug frm someone. Ribbons, wood (I lurve wood, it calms me). Get immersed by nature, feel its soothing effect on you. It's rejuvenating and theraupetic.
Best still, keep a book of happy times when you feel it. No one gets thru life without smiling or laughing once. Hee. Ooops, soz for writing so long. Hope anyone out there who is depressed find some meaning in what I've written. I'm very easily hurt and take criticism seriously. But, sometimes, I just heck care and take it as stuff passing by me. Life's too short to worry too much. Live for the moment. Find the joy in everything you do. It's easier to pass time and enjoy!
I just started university as a freshman earlier in Aug this yr and got all depressed when that process of making frens and getting adapted to independent learning got too overwhelming. I'm those type who warm up slower so I always feel uncomfortable (it's just not a good feeling, I feel tight at my chest) when in new classes and I'm all alone. But, I know I get pass it.
I once read about "Impermenance". It just means nothing is permanent, everything keeps on changing. There are depressing parts of life and happy parts too. Without sad times, we won't feel the happiness when good times are here. There must be contrasts and ups and downs. Otherwise, life would be too bland.
Remember, everything happens for a reason! Go and find the joy in simple things, small things... Sunshine, the gentle breeze on your face and your hair gets sweeped back haha. The smile of a child. See how children get so happy easily. Yea, I agree very much that having too much of free time is bad! Your thoughts run too wildly and end up clogging your mind!
Somemore happy things: A compliment frm someone. I bet everyone, EVERYONE have received compliments in their life at some point in time. The taste of chocolate or your fave food? Someone thanking you for something you've done for them. The flowers by the road side. The trees, so mighty and strong! A hug frm someone. Ribbons, wood (I lurve wood, it calms me). Get immersed by nature, feel its soothing effect on you. It's rejuvenating and theraupetic.
Best still, keep a book of happy times when you feel it. No one gets thru life without smiling or laughing once. Hee. Ooops, soz for writing so long. Hope anyone out there who is depressed find some meaning in what I've written. I'm very easily hurt and take criticism seriously. But, sometimes, I just heck care and take it as stuff passing by me. Life's too short to worry too much. Live for the moment. Find the joy in everything you do. It's easier to pass time and enjoy!
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@ kylagurl: true, true, most things arent really what they seem...i kinda understand that...and i guess i can relate to what u said...maybe you're right, that it is just about perspective...about being appreciative.....i just hope i could be one....
i always feel kinda empty...that there's something missing...
i always feel kinda empty...that there's something missing...
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friggin norway.. massive amounts of oil money, small amounts of brain cells in the world of politics thus shitty prioritization on what's importantnophankh wrote:where do you live?Sakuranantogay wrote:I can't say that I live a depressing life, but I sure don't live a happy one either. It's pretty boring and dull. I failed to get into the university because of a stupid system my country uses to give extra credits, and now I'm forced to work for one year in a random place chosen by the government because of the fact that I'm a pacifist and didn't want to join the army. I'm only 18, give me a break. Earlier this year, my house burned to the ground, and I lost almost all of my possesions.
I live on the countryside, so there arent that many people to become friends with, so it's hard to get new ones ><. And I live in a country with a very small population, and people here have very conservative interests, so there are no chances for me to do the activities that I'm interested in. Not to mention the messed up, kind of corrupted school system here.
Over to the good stuff! xD
I live in a country with a superb welfare system. I have a family that loves me, and we have enough money to live a decent life. We received a nice amount of insurance money for the burnt down house I have great friends, and last I was lucky to be born in a peaceful country which has provided me with a good education (but as I mentioned, we have a messed up system, and also we have no extracurricular activitites, and a very small array of hobby-activities outside of school).
im depressed becoz im 24, never had a boifren. i repeat NEVER. and all(maybe most) of my friends are getting married or having babies. but me, im single and currently hate my career. im worse than ANEGO. i think i need therapy, but my friend said, think about other people who live a worse life than us, then maybe i should think about how im gonna spend my money to pay someone just to make him/her told me what to do to be happy.okay, so now its about money. yes, im broke. im always broke and never gets the chance to make savings. can u believe it? i cant even help out my parents.that's another depressing point. even thinking about getting help is even depressing.
Re: How many ppl here live a depressing life?
jinwah wrote:i often look on the negative side of everything, thru out my life so far, nothing came easy.. so i just wonder if ppl in here are happy birds or somewat depressed.
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
Not getting laid, huh?
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I never had a depressing life really, but I used to be depressed a lot. Actually, I used to like being depressed. It made me feel like there was nowhere to go but up. It actually made me feel safe to think that if I'm that low, then anything else that could hurt me probably just won't hurt that much because it can't get any worse than what it was. I was the type of person who never showed his true feelings, and if I was angry at someone I tried not to show it (altho you can read me like a book, emotionally). I was everybody's friend. I laughed in social situations and tried my hardest to be accepted by everyone. And I was. But nobody really knew me. And I didn't trust anybody.
I started to feel stuck, like I was going nowhere. And I realized that I was basically trading comfort in solitude with progression. One year I decided to change things. I started to see that I was worth something, and even if I didn't think I was good enough to be a part of anything, I began to believe in myself. I started setting goals for myself I never would have done before.
However, for me it came at a price. I'm far more selfish than I ever was. Before, I would do anything for anybody because I wanted to be accepted. Now I do stuff for me first, then others. If somebody offers something, I'll gladly accept. But I don't offer anything like I used to. These days I've sort of balanced things out, but I'm nowhere near the giving person I used to be. Still, I'm actually proud of who I am, I respect myself and others, and I'm still working hard towards my goals despite the fact that I'm basically "behind everybody" as I turn 29. To be honest, I think everybody goes at a different pace and I don't regret most things I've done. I kinda wish I finished college when I was younger, but during the time I was working full time, I had some great times.
I don't have any real advice for people who are depressed, whether they're doing it to themselves or it's completely out of their hands. I was one of the former types. You just gotta figure things out for yourself. Depend on yourself. But don't forget others. Try to realize your potential and if not, watch some dramas and make yourself happy or sad. When I was in my depressed stage, I used to loooove to watch sad things. It made me feel better. I still watch them, but I look for other things now rather than simply dwell on the negative.
I really don't think it's wrong to dwell on the negative. You're still just discovering yourself. Whether you're old or young, short or tall, white, black, yellow, purple, whatever. What matters is you, and how you see yourself is up to you, not others.
I started to feel stuck, like I was going nowhere. And I realized that I was basically trading comfort in solitude with progression. One year I decided to change things. I started to see that I was worth something, and even if I didn't think I was good enough to be a part of anything, I began to believe in myself. I started setting goals for myself I never would have done before.
However, for me it came at a price. I'm far more selfish than I ever was. Before, I would do anything for anybody because I wanted to be accepted. Now I do stuff for me first, then others. If somebody offers something, I'll gladly accept. But I don't offer anything like I used to. These days I've sort of balanced things out, but I'm nowhere near the giving person I used to be. Still, I'm actually proud of who I am, I respect myself and others, and I'm still working hard towards my goals despite the fact that I'm basically "behind everybody" as I turn 29. To be honest, I think everybody goes at a different pace and I don't regret most things I've done. I kinda wish I finished college when I was younger, but during the time I was working full time, I had some great times.
I don't have any real advice for people who are depressed, whether they're doing it to themselves or it's completely out of their hands. I was one of the former types. You just gotta figure things out for yourself. Depend on yourself. But don't forget others. Try to realize your potential and if not, watch some dramas and make yourself happy or sad. When I was in my depressed stage, I used to loooove to watch sad things. It made me feel better. I still watch them, but I look for other things now rather than simply dwell on the negative.
I really don't think it's wrong to dwell on the negative. You're still just discovering yourself. Whether you're old or young, short or tall, white, black, yellow, purple, whatever. What matters is you, and how you see yourself is up to you, not others.
I don't think it is good to think and compare yourself with other people/your friends, like they are 25 and have a bf/gf, so you should have one also, or that you should be married and have kids by then and then, etc, etc..
What if other people get divorced when they are 50, do you also want/get one?
I would say, just do what you like, whether it be alone or together.
Though, talking to other people is very important. Ofcourse preferable to really nice and unselfish people, that you can trust, but since that is a rare specie, at least where I live, anybody should do.
Thoughts kept in one's head tend to grow very quick and big. But once shared with someone, they seems to become "normal". Also 2 people really know more than one person, I must reluctantly admit.
What if other people get divorced when they are 50, do you also want/get one?
I would say, just do what you like, whether it be alone or together.
Though, talking to other people is very important. Ofcourse preferable to really nice and unselfish people, that you can trust, but since that is a rare specie, at least where I live, anybody should do.
Thoughts kept in one's head tend to grow very quick and big. But once shared with someone, they seems to become "normal". Also 2 people really know more than one person, I must reluctantly admit.
I think everyone has depressive moments in his life. and people who have more time than others or at least take this free time for themselves are getting depressive easilier than others I guess.
Because you have too much time to think about topics.
For me..there was a period of time this year when I was depressed as hell so I tried to become happy at least on the Internet.
Because you have too much time to think about topics.
For me..there was a period of time this year when I was depressed as hell so I tried to become happy at least on the Internet.
not sure if i'll be much of a help here..
one thing i've learnt in my life..is
being grateful of whatever you have right now and you will much better...
every one has their own problem...but of course you can't see it from outside
god only give you what you can handle..soon you'll find out that these obstacles are meant to make you stronger and become a better person
in every stage of your life..there are different challenges..so always be grateful, bcs that means that you've passed the test and moved on to the new level
i hope you feel better....it's normal to be feeling down..after all we're just human....just don't forget to get back up again..
TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED
one thing i've learnt in my life..is
being grateful of whatever you have right now and you will much better...
every one has their own problem...but of course you can't see it from outside
god only give you what you can handle..soon you'll find out that these obstacles are meant to make you stronger and become a better person
in every stage of your life..there are different challenges..so always be grateful, bcs that means that you've passed the test and moved on to the new level
i hope you feel better....it's normal to be feeling down..after all we're just human....just don't forget to get back up again..
TOO BLESSED TO BE STRESSED
I don't know if one could say I lead a depressing live. Actually my life runs its course. I even usually get what I want. One way or the other... but...
I can't be really happy about it. The problem is outer life and inner life I guess. At a nice round we were to describe each other (my friends and I) and they decided that I'm the self-confident cool chick. Doing things right, looking pretty, never stressing to much. The actual truth is that I get daily eaten by my self consiousness. I do things because they have to get done. I'm being nice to alot of people... because thats what you do. I need people to like me but if they do I can never trust them that they won't abandon me one day. That they will betray me one day. There is a saying. That people can't love you unless you love yourself. But I think thats a lot of crap. You need someone else to show you that your loveable to believe it yourself.
Not being able to be myself and to be self conscious to the point of hating myself sometimes can be really tiring. Thats a bit depressing I think
I can't be really happy about it. The problem is outer life and inner life I guess. At a nice round we were to describe each other (my friends and I) and they decided that I'm the self-confident cool chick. Doing things right, looking pretty, never stressing to much. The actual truth is that I get daily eaten by my self consiousness. I do things because they have to get done. I'm being nice to alot of people... because thats what you do. I need people to like me but if they do I can never trust them that they won't abandon me one day. That they will betray me one day. There is a saying. That people can't love you unless you love yourself. But I think thats a lot of crap. You need someone else to show you that your loveable to believe it yourself.
Not being able to be myself and to be self conscious to the point of hating myself sometimes can be really tiring. Thats a bit depressing I think
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It's not healthy to live a depress life.
I guess we all come to this world for a reason but most of us just confuse and lost. Living in this world full of sickness is pretty scary. I'm depress most of the time too. I can't eat, sleep and can't even think. It hella suck. I got lay-off for like 10 month and still unable to find a job. I have used up all my money and it's super SUCK. Just try to be happy cuz being depress is not gonna do you any good. Happy or not you still have to live in this world that we have no idea about. Either way you still have to eat, sleep and wake up everyday; why not just be happy. Be stupid, be silly and be yourself. Do whatever that make you HAPPY. Just live your everyday like your last day cuz my friend just recently past away with cancer and from that moment I know I gotta live my life to the fullest and be thankful that I'm still alive and have such a big and happy family. I gotta live a healthy and happy life and you should too. God gave us a better life than other already and you should treasure it. PLEASE LIVE A HAPPY LIFE FOR ME. thank you
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Re: How many ppl here live a depressing life?
I feel the same thing! Not that i want to die or anything but I'm just depressed. Mostly because I don't have money, own alot of debts, bad education, no job and my marriage is loveless. All of these things makes my life depressing. I think that the most important thing I need right now is MONEY, it will solve all my problems!jinwah wrote:i often look on the negative side of everything, thru out my life so far, nothing came easy.. so i just wonder if ppl in here are happy birds or somewat depressed.
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
It came down to hating myself for making the wrong decisions in life. I hate that I didn't continued my education after high school, hate myself for ruining my body--I'm fat and overweight right now---I can't lose weight not that I try but because I think I'm already too old to look good now. Every night I wish I can turn back the clock and have a second chance at everything up until now. The only thing I don't want to change are my children but other then that I want to change everything including my husband hahaha....
So like you say, I have becoming careless of life and I feel I had nothing to look forward to except getting old and died.
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Re: How many ppl here live a depressing life?
You are funny, but I had to agreed about not getting laid. Maybe I need to get laid myself but I'm a married woman and I'm being faithful so what can I do when my husband doesn't want to get laid hahaha......Bababooey wrote:jinwah wrote:i often look on the negative side of everything, thru out my life so far, nothing came easy.. so i just wonder if ppl in here are happy birds or somewat depressed.
i have becoming careless of life, planning on go skydiving ^^
thank you,
jinwah
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