IMO, this is unreasonable request . If you love him why don't you convert your religion instead of him? My point is if you love him, then you should give him the freedom to choose what he wants to do. Use love to force/manipulate him to convert or to join other religion, to me, it kinda... selfish... Sorry for being rude.meera wrote:
hurm...it's going 2 be hard though...unless he convert his religion..
im a muslim btw....if he really love me then off course he's willing 2 do so aite..??!!
will you marry someone with different religion
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^^ Actually Muslim girls can't marry non-Muslim guys..
But assuming the guy should convert to marry you is not right anyways, if he doesn't truly accept the religion for Allah, but instead for some girl, then that is not a good reason to convert and it will be like he isn't converting at all.. so their marriage would still be invalid. It wouldn't last in most cases anyways because they don't care about applying it to their lives truly and problems concerning that would pop up in the future..
But then again, if you are dating a non-Muslim guy in the first place you aren't following the religion so maybe there wouldn't be problems? But I mean if you are saying the guy has to convert to marry you.. if you don't follow Islam anyways why insist on making someone else follow it?
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i like this post, im not sure why but i do.natasjageill wrote:I won't marry a danish >.<
NO WAY! Okay, well.. I can't see 10 or 20 years from now, can i?
But honestly.. Danish guys are really boring
my take, for people who are really religious, i find it strange that they don't feel god wouldn't accept someone outside their "clique". For me, my understanding of faith has always been that a supreme being would have supreme understanding, and therefore understand if a person is good or not, and thus accept their non belief i him. not accepting someones doubt is ego, its petty, its mean spirited, and its not "divine". so to me, even though my wife is not my religion, i feel god understands, because she is a good person, so he'd be open to her, wheter or not she understood all the litte rules people put forth for him. Because all the rules we have in our religions are people's interpetations of divine things and what is necessary, not the booming voice from the heaven's.
so to me, the person is more important than their earthbound believes i gues....
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Exactly! Well said, nikochanr3!r me, my understanding of faith has always been that a supreme being would have supreme understanding, and therefore understand if a person is good or not, and thus accept their non belief i him. not accepting someones doubt is ego, its petty, its mean spirited, and its not "divine". so to me, even though my wife is not my religion, i feel god understands, because she is a good person, so he'd be open to her, wheter or not she understood all the litte rules people put forth for him. Because all the rules we have in our religions are people's interpetations of divine things and what is necessary, not the booming voice from the heaven's.
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Hmm.. I don't really know. They're just.. Boring! YesAboutDrama wrote:I don't know any Danish guys but I'm curious... Why they're boring?natasjageill wrote
But honestly.. Danish guys are really boring
They all look the same, and act the same.. And there just isn't anything special about them..
I don't know. Maybe it's just me xD And i've never been in love with one >.<
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I'm pleasantly suprised that there are many muslims on this board.
Back on topic as a Muslim I would not marry a girl that is not Muslim nor would I want a girl to convert to Islam just to be able to marry me, because that would mean she is converting for the wrong reasons. I would have no problem marrying someone outside of my ethnicity, my brother paved the way for me by marrying a Filipino.
The hard part is finding a Muslim girl in the UK who can put up with my love for Soccer, Games, Anime and Far East Asia Movies and Dramas.
When I do get married I have every intention of introducing the Korean Drama Full House to my future wife and try to get her hooked on dramas.
Back on topic as a Muslim I would not marry a girl that is not Muslim nor would I want a girl to convert to Islam just to be able to marry me, because that would mean she is converting for the wrong reasons. I would have no problem marrying someone outside of my ethnicity, my brother paved the way for me by marrying a Filipino.
The hard part is finding a Muslim girl in the UK who can put up with my love for Soccer, Games, Anime and Far East Asia Movies and Dramas.
When I do get married I have every intention of introducing the Korean Drama Full House to my future wife and try to get her hooked on dramas.
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I don't think I would let religion stop me from marrying the guy I love. Though I don't think I could ever be with a person who live and breathe for their religion. Simple because I'm an atheist, and that stuff might be a bit too heavy for me. But then again, it would probably be fine as long as he wouldn't force his religion on me.. hmm.
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Gozen wrote:I wouldn't marry anybody who seriously followed any religion at all. If they follow a religion, they are almost inevitably intolerant, brain-washed, unrealistic, narrow-minded and, with some religions, cruel. Their parents are likely to be even worse. For me, religion = bad attitude to everyone who doesn't follow it, and most especially religion = anti-woman. I've never come across a religion that didn't try to sujugate, humiliate or discriminate against women. That's because religions are man-made and therefore subject to all the petty-minded and illogical practices that men can come up with. No, that's not an anti-male rant, it's just what happens when human nature is left in charge of the way people are meant to live.
amen ...lol.....i beleve in god , but not in religion . i find religion is just another catogary that ppl use as excuse to discriminate against other ppl wif , and instead of briniging ppl togather , it can in many situations cause wars .....wheres the love and harmoney ......
if he believes in religion its kool wif me , but as long as he dosent try to impose those views on me and the kids , and because he belives it would be hard not to impose views , and hence lead to huge fights and probablly degridation of marriage and lead to divorce ....want someone to share similar opinions abt religion as me so we dnt fight ...hehehehe
yup I totally agree with you... no1 should convert just for some girl... but I think you missed one thing here... yes you're not following the religion if you're dating anyways but it is less more serious than marrying a non-muslim guy... this is like TOTALLY forbidden right? what you're saying is that ok you already crossed the line, why don't you go a bit further. well don't missunderstand me, I'm not saying that dating isn't a serious sin in Islam either, yes it is and i'm against itAuty wrote:^^ Actually Muslim girls can't marry non-Muslim guys..
But assuming the guy should convert to marry you is not right anyways, if he doesn't truly accept the religion for Allah, but instead for some girl, then that is not a good reason to convert and it will be like he isn't converting at all.. so their marriage would still be invalid. It wouldn't last in most cases anyways because they don't care about applying it to their lives truly and problems concerning that would pop up in the future..
But then again, if you are dating a non-Muslim guy in the first place you aren't following the religion so maybe there wouldn't be problems? But I mean if you are saying the guy has to convert to marry you.. if you don't follow Islam anyways why insist on making someone else follow it?
What do you mean by that?? If you wheren't a Muslem I would say ok, since most religions don't have to convert when marrying from any other religion. But being a Muslim women you should be well aware that marrying some1 from other religions means giving up your own... and even if you were just kidding, it means that you're taking your religion lightly... anyways, it's your own freedom, just had to point that out coz I was really dissapointed.DarnCat wrote:lol nawya ma3ach hehe
I would marry him not only if he has a diffrent religion but also even if he is from another planet .. "it doesn't matter" as long as we like each other ..
Well well, sorry for going off topic... now to comment on this I would say (as you have alreadyy guessed ) DEFENETLY WON'T even if I could.
I was really surprised by pplz comments, like what does marriage have to do with religion. Ofcourse it does... different religion = clashes in beliefs = arguments and dissagreements. Now it depends, if you're the type of person who like to have sensitive arguments and not have much in cummon with your partner, or just not religous then it's not a problem i guess, but I believe that marriage is about understanding and having a peacfull life... having love only doesn't solve your problems (like clashes in your beliefs in this case)
Some ppl said that it's a nice opportunity to get to know different religions and cultures. Well can't you research about the religion and just know as much... you can also have freinds from different religions... it doensn't have to go as far as marriage.
It's not that I'm closed minded, on the contrary I respect others beleifs and religions... and sometimes in discussions with my non-muslim friends I don't comment on things in their relligion if I feel like it would hurt them... would you do the same thing with your partner... just nod and smile for how long would this last?
And ofcours if you had any children in the future it would just be worse, coz it's not only a matter of "choosing" the religion, it's about based on which culture are you gonna raise them, both? I don't see that happening.
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hehe.. yeah.. u better!! i watched FH 3X already...YaGaMi82 wrote:I'm pleasantly suprised that there are many muslims on this board.
Back on topic as a Muslim I would not marry a girl that is not Muslim nor would I want a girl to convert to Islam just to be able to marry me, because that would mean she is converting for the wrong reasons. I would have no problem marrying someone outside of my ethnicity, my brother paved the way for me by marrying a Filipino.
The hard part is finding a Muslim girl in the UK who can put up with my love for Soccer, Games, Anime and Far East Asia Movies and Dramas.
When I do get married I have every intention of introducing the Korean Drama Full House to my future wife and try to get her hooked on dramas.
and when i watched My Girl start addict with Junki..
every1 hv their opi.. but like i said b4.. muslim cant change their religion..
but still i can friend with any religion any races..
make friendship.. ---> relationship.. i will..
as long he believe with Islam..i'll marry him (n_n)v
I am curious about this - is it okay or not okay for a Muslim woman to get married to a man who converts to Islam? And Muslim men can marry a non-Muslim woman without basically losing their religion, is that right?Ore.Sama wrote:What do you mean by that?? If you wheren't a Muslem I would say ok, since most religions don't have to convert when marrying from any other religion. But being a Muslim women you should be well aware that marrying some1 from other religions means giving up your own.
Other than that... cool views on marriage, clever thinking overall. ^_^
And, in a very belated reply to gs56cb - sorry, your post was too inconsistent for me to be able to give a proper consistent reply, so I am just going to address a few points.
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Yes, it would be.If it was the man that was born from the women and the man that persuaded the women to sin, then it would be against men, wouldn't it?
You say: why is it upon me to right your ways?, but: what is it upon you to know what God should do? What is it upon you to tell God what to do and how to act?
It is rather mind-boggling to be telling someone who does not believe in God's existence to not tell him what to do.
Cutting all the snark to everything else you wrote.
Ill try to clear it up a little bit.
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
In both cases it is acceptable for the non-muslim to convert to Islam, but it has to be a real conversion. (Usually this is not preferred.)
I understand how some Women might get frustrated thinking its unfair, but I have seen some Muslim women who Married Muslim men and really the religion was completely lost.
Even when some Men I knew Married Non-Muslims their religion was weakened but not lost.
My father married my mother when she was still Christian but now she has been a Muslim for over 20 years and she is very religious.
I just wanted to say, more power to the Muslim girls who maintain their beliefs
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
In both cases it is acceptable for the non-muslim to convert to Islam, but it has to be a real conversion. (Usually this is not preferred.)
I understand how some Women might get frustrated thinking its unfair, but I have seen some Muslim women who Married Muslim men and really the religion was completely lost.
Even when some Men I knew Married Non-Muslims their religion was weakened but not lost.
My father married my mother when she was still Christian but now she has been a Muslim for over 20 years and she is very religious.
I just wanted to say, more power to the Muslim girls who maintain their beliefs
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It's all a matter of preference and love. I love my GF very much. I am not Christian while being an American. She is Korean and is Christian. SO it really doesn't matter whether religion plays any part in our relationship. All that matters is that she respects and understands my Buddhist beliefs and I respect and acknowledge her Christian beliefs. In the end, there are only a few "recognized" religions that only accept particular religious beliefs into their fold; one of them being Mormons and Catholic Christians. In the end, I believe that it really doesn't matter who and what religious background, or race, or gender, or ANYTHING for that matter a person is from, all that matters is the feelings between the two people.
@Hanmaybj: thank you very much for your explanation! Though this makes me think that it is assumed that women are more likely to give up their religion, which is quite a generalisation. It's also interesting that the book religions are accepted more, but this is understandable, because they have a link to Islam.
I'm guessing that women cannot marry outside their religion because way back, when you gave your daughter away for marriage, she was lost to you, and if she ended up falling away from her religion, it would be something her family cannot influence any more, but it would still cause shame to them.
I'm guessing that women cannot marry outside their religion because way back, when you gave your daughter away for marriage, she was lost to you, and if she ended up falling away from her religion, it would be something her family cannot influence any more, but it would still cause shame to them.
@horndogbuddhist: I don't understand; I live in a predominantly Catholic country, and I haven't heard that Catholics are forbidden to marry outside their specific belief. There are even regulations for when you are allowed to get married in a church despite not being a Catholic (or even Christian).In the end, there are only a few "recognized" religions that only accept particular religious beliefs into their fold; one of them being Mormons and Catholic Christians.
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This is a really, really big thread. Which seems pretty odd to me, considering Kstar pretty much answered the question perfectly in the second post.
This is a really, really big thread. Which seems pretty odd to me, considering Kstar pretty much answered the question perfectly in the second post.
So yeah, that's what I agree with.kstar wrote:If you love them, then why should that stuff matter? I mean if it conflicts with your relationship, then i don't think its love.
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can i know where u get this information???Hanmaybj wrote:
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
dont 4get to clear bout something b4 u post or it'll make misunderstand..
actually 4 muslim.. whether u're male or female u're allow to marry with some1 who is not muslim.. but d partner u want 2 marry must convert to islam..
there r no excuse.. n there is no such things d man is muslim n d women is other religion n they can married...
n if they married, the children they get is not legal in islam..
is the fact n i dont want any1 of u is confused or scared...
besides every1 hv their religion n thought just dont offend any other ppl who diff with ur religion...
hope its clear.. n i'm not emo.. (n_n)v
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Salamlittlemafia wrote:can i know where u get this information???Hanmaybj wrote:
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
dont 4get to clear bout something b4 u post or it'll make misunderstand..
actually 4 muslim.. whether u're male or female u're allow to marry with some1 who is not muslim.. but d partner u want 2 marry must convert to islam..
there r no excuse.. n there is no such things d man is muslim n d women is other religion n they can married...
n if they married, the children they get is not legal in islam..
is the fact n i dont want any1 of u is confused or scared...
besides every1 hv their religion n thought just dont offend any other ppl who diff with ur religion...
hope its clear.. n i'm not emo.. (n_n)v
Actually, there is no debate about what I said. It is from the Quran, Sura Al Ma'ida (5:6)
"This day all innately good things are lawful for you…Lawful to you are the chaste women from among those who have been given the Book before you. . . ." (i.e. Jews and Christians). "
The law specifically mentions muhsanaat -- chaste females (from the People of the Book); it did not say muhsaneen -- chaste males.
Like I said there is no debate, search it anywhere ask any sheikh.
Here is one website on this: http://www.irfi.org/questions_answers/m ... muslim.htm
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Hi, I'm new here....
actually i was bout to search a dorama here, but then i saw this thread and i found it attractive....
well, ...since i used to have a boyfriend, he's a catholic and i'm a muslim. both of us know that if we're together someday it wil bring troubles, his family has a very strong roots of catholics....but ya know....love , like what it says, love blinded everything....i hve never had such feeling like this before. ..then we decided that, okay, we're dating out but secretly from everyone,
but those happy days not last for long, we broke up after 3 weeks together, he says his mom finds out and she told him to make it over the relationship, just because we're different....
at first i just can't take it but then i realised when it comes to parents, it's like penalty, it something that i can't bargain....and that's why i accepted his decision.....
though i feel a very deep scar in my heart but then because i love him then i let him go, i kept thinking that it's because THE RELIGION that we broke up....until...
I find him dating another girl, which is MUSLIM too, just like me!!!! how can i be so sure? well, i know the girl very well, she's one of my friend, and the worst is i'm the one who introduce her to him......hahhaha
ya know, he even post a pic with his new gf on friendster, something that he didn't do when he was with me because he said he was affraid that his sister would notice it and that she would report to their mom that he's dating someone from other religion...
now it's clear to me that, he's nothing but a hipocrit .....he said he loves his mom and sister that's why he decided to break up with me, he said that he embarrased if he have a muslim gf, but now he's showing everyone that he proud having a muslim girl.
i really don't know what's in his mind, but one thing for sure that it's not about the religion but it's bout the personality of the person himself that made me sick! he speak for his mother, sister,religion's sake but the truth is none of his word true...that what make me sick... hontou ni kimochi waruin desu!! hehe
well, i don't give s*** about that, it just give me one point that it's not the religion but it's us, human who decide to embrace it....i think every religion which is given purely from the Up Above a.k.a GOD in this world will never teach bad thing to the people who embrace it, it depend to the people in how to execute the lessons they've gain into their life and their society.
p.s sorryfor giving such a long opinion for my first post...nice to meet ya all guys
actually i was bout to search a dorama here, but then i saw this thread and i found it attractive....
well, ...since i used to have a boyfriend, he's a catholic and i'm a muslim. both of us know that if we're together someday it wil bring troubles, his family has a very strong roots of catholics....but ya know....love , like what it says, love blinded everything....i hve never had such feeling like this before. ..then we decided that, okay, we're dating out but secretly from everyone,
but those happy days not last for long, we broke up after 3 weeks together, he says his mom finds out and she told him to make it over the relationship, just because we're different....
at first i just can't take it but then i realised when it comes to parents, it's like penalty, it something that i can't bargain....and that's why i accepted his decision.....
though i feel a very deep scar in my heart but then because i love him then i let him go, i kept thinking that it's because THE RELIGION that we broke up....until...
I find him dating another girl, which is MUSLIM too, just like me!!!! how can i be so sure? well, i know the girl very well, she's one of my friend, and the worst is i'm the one who introduce her to him......hahhaha
ya know, he even post a pic with his new gf on friendster, something that he didn't do when he was with me because he said he was affraid that his sister would notice it and that she would report to their mom that he's dating someone from other religion...
now it's clear to me that, he's nothing but a hipocrit .....he said he loves his mom and sister that's why he decided to break up with me, he said that he embarrased if he have a muslim gf, but now he's showing everyone that he proud having a muslim girl.
i really don't know what's in his mind, but one thing for sure that it's not about the religion but it's bout the personality of the person himself that made me sick! he speak for his mother, sister,religion's sake but the truth is none of his word true...that what make me sick... hontou ni kimochi waruin desu!! hehe
well, i don't give s*** about that, it just give me one point that it's not the religion but it's us, human who decide to embrace it....i think every religion which is given purely from the Up Above a.k.a GOD in this world will never teach bad thing to the people who embrace it, it depend to the people in how to execute the lessons they've gain into their life and their society.
p.s sorryfor giving such a long opinion for my first post...nice to meet ya all guys
Well said, kamen_rider_blue!! And I'm really glad you saw him for the hypocrite that he was and didn't regret him anymore. He doesn't seem to deserve you suffering one bit for him. And I hope you'll find someone who will value you for who you are and will love you in all honesty!kamen_rider_blue wrote: i really don't know what's in his mind, but one thing for sure that it's not about the religion but it's bout the personality of the person himself that made me sick! he speak for his mother, sister,religion's sake but the truth is none of his word true...that what make me sick... hontou ni kimochi waruin desu!! hehe
well, i don't give s*** about that, it just give me one point that it's not the religion but it's us, human who decide to embrace it....i think every religion which is given purely from the Up Above a.k.a GOD in this world will never teach bad thing to the people who embrace it, it depend to the people in how to execute the lessons they've gain into their life and their society.
I seriously don't know where did you learn all this. You just make peoploe confuse about Islam. Muslim men or women CANNOT marry someobody who are NOT muslim...unless that somebody converted to Islam first. What 'people of the book?' Yeah, I heard Islam can marry a 'kind of people' but that 'kind of people' is no longer exists in this world, not Christian, not Jewish. Marry somebody who is not a muslim (for both gender) is considered a serious sin. What would happen if that woman did not convert to Islam?? You will continue making the sin. And the children born is invalid because the marriage is invalid. Islam is a FAIR religion, you know. I know all this because I am a Muslim, since born till now. My grandfather is a Muslim and my grandmother was a Chinese and she converted to Islam before she married my grandpa. What I'm trying to say here is if you're muslim and you want to marry somebody who is not a muslim (Christian, Jews, atheis, Buddhist etc), you can with a condition he or she must convert before you married. Thank you!Hanmaybj wrote:Ill try to clear it up a little bit.
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
In both cases it is acceptable for the non-muslim to convert to Islam, but it has to be a real conversion. (Usually this is not preferred.)
I understand how some Women might get frustrated thinking its unfair, but I have seen some Muslim women who Married Muslim men and really the religion was completely lost.
Even when some Men I knew Married Non-Muslims their religion was weakened but not lost.
My father married my mother when she was still Christian but now she has been a Muslim for over 20 years and she is very religious.
I just wanted to say, more power to the Muslim girls who maintain their beliefs
P/s There's still many women in my country who maintains their belief even though they married other races...
I am not confusing anyone. I am also a Muslim and have been all my life. My father is an Imam, but thats beside the point. I am not going to bother trying to convince you, you seem to be set in your beliefs. There is a verse in the Quran that says Muslim men may marry chaste women from the "people of the book". Saying that these people no longer exists means that chaste Christians and Jews no longer exist?stear375 wrote:I seriously don't know where did you learn all this. You just make peoploe confuse about Islam. Muslim men or women CANNOT marry someobody who are NOT muslim...unless that somebody converted to Islam first. What 'people of the book?' Yeah, I heard Islam can marry a 'kind of people' but that 'kind of people' is no longer exists in this world, not Christian, not Jewish. Marry somebody who is not a muslim (for both gender) is considered a serious sin. What would happen if that woman did not convert to Islam?? You will continue making the sin. And the children born is invalid because the marriage is invalid. Islam is a FAIR religion, you know. I know all this because I am a Muslim, since born till now. My grandfather is a Muslim and my grandmother was a Chinese and she converted to Islam before she married my grandpa. What I'm trying to say here is if you're muslim and you want to marry somebody who is not a muslim (Christian, Jews, atheis, Buddhist etc), you can with a condition he or she must convert before you married. Thank you!Hanmaybj wrote:Ill try to clear it up a little bit.
First off, Muslim men are allowed to Marry "people of the book" meaning Christian's and Jews, no Buddhists, atheists etc and even then the Christian or Jew should be a chaste person.
Muslim women are only allowed to Marry Muslim men.
In both cases it is acceptable for the non-muslim to convert to Islam, but it has to be a real conversion. (Usually this is not preferred.)
I understand how some Women might get frustrated thinking its unfair, but I have seen some Muslim women who Married Muslim men and really the religion was completely lost.
Even when some Men I knew Married Non-Muslims their religion was weakened but not lost.
My father married my mother when she was still Christian but now she has been a Muslim for over 20 years and she is very religious.
I just wanted to say, more power to the Muslim girls who maintain their beliefs
P/s There's still many women in my country who maintains their belief even though they married other races...
I am not speaking in ignorance, nor am I speaking out of just hearing something. I have spoken to many Sheikh's and read much literature on this issue. As I mentioned, there is really no debate about this issue.
In the case that the Women does not convert the child will take the religion of his/her father.
What do you mean by chaste anyway?? I'm also not speaking in ignorance I have asked many 'ustaz' (I don't know what terms you use but it refers to somebody who is experts in religion),and I have also asked many people that study at Al-Azhar University. I even read Quran translation. From what I know we can only marry another Muslim or as I mentioned before ' a kind of people' (or chaste men and women). They lived before the existance of Islam but have belief in Allah. That's why we can marry them because both have the same belief. However, they're no longer exist now. Can you make sure that there are Christian and Jews that are totally chaste and have full faith in Allah??Hanmaybj wrote:
I am not confusing anyone. I am also a Muslim and have been all my life. My father is an Imam, but thats beside the point. I am not going to bother trying to convince you, you seem to be set in your beliefs. There is a verse in the Quran that says Muslim men may marry chaste women from the "people of the book". Saying that these people no longer exists means that chaste Christians and Jews no longer exist?
I am not speaking in ignorance, nor am I speaking out of just hearing something. I have spoken to many Sheikh's and read much literature on this issue. As I mentioned, there is really no debate about this issue.
In the case that the Women does not convert the child will take the religion of his/her father.
I'm not trying to debate here, just state something I know, something that I learnt because this is about religion. And I'm not set in my belief. I think of the logic before I accept something, especially in religion. It's stupid to follow without knowing anything. I'm also not trying to convince anybody, it's up to individu to do their own thinking.
I don't know if this is cause you have different sect. I'm following Shafie sect and what's yours? I respect your opinion and I don't want to create chaos because we both Muslim. Thank you!
I'm totally agree with you, human are hypocrite. Not all but some. Don't worry, if you don't get this time, you will get later, much better than him and that time you'll feel glad he did that to you. Life is unique, full of challanges and it must go onkamen_rider_blue wrote:Hi, I'm new here....
actually i was bout to search a dorama here, but then i saw this thread and i found it attractive....
well, ...since i used to have a boyfriend, he's a catholic and i'm a muslim. both of us know that if we're together someday it wil bring troubles, his family has a very strong roots of catholics....but ya know....love , like what it says, love blinded everything....i hve never had such feeling like this before. ..then we decided that, okay, we're dating out but secretly from everyone,
but those happy days not last for long, we broke up after 3 weeks together, he says his mom finds out and she told him to make it over the relationship, just because we're different....
at first i just can't take it but then i realised when it comes to parents, it's like penalty, it something that i can't bargain....and that's why i accepted his decision.....
though i feel a very deep scar in my heart but then because i love him then i let him go, i kept thinking that it's because THE RELIGION that we broke up....until...
I find him dating another girl, which is MUSLIM too, just like me!!!! how can i be so sure? well, i know the girl very well, she's one of my friend, and the worst is i'm the one who introduce her to him......hahhaha
ya know, he even post a pic with his new gf on friendster, something that he didn't do when he was with me because he said he was affraid that his sister would notice it and that she would report to their mom that he's dating someone from other religion...
now it's clear to me that, he's nothing but a hipocrit .....he said he loves his mom and sister that's why he decided to break up with me, he said that he embarrased if he have a muslim gf, but now he's showing everyone that he proud having a muslim girl.
i really don't know what's in his mind, but one thing for sure that it's not about the religion but it's bout the personality of the person himself that made me sick! he speak for his mother, sister,religion's sake but the truth is none of his word true...that what make me sick... hontou ni kimochi waruin desu!! hehe
well, i don't give s*** about that, it just give me one point that it's not the religion but it's us, human who decide to embrace it....i think every religion which is given purely from the Up Above a.k.a GOD in this world will never teach bad thing to the people who embrace it, it depend to the people in how to execute the lessons they've gain into their life and their society.
p.s sorryfor giving such a long opinion for my first post...nice to meet ya all guys
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yeah.. he so unlucky becoz leaving u...
nvm.. he already show his trueself..
good luck kamen_rider
p/s: thanks stear375 4ur comment..
nvm.. he already show his trueself..
good luck kamen_rider
p/s: thanks stear375 4ur comment..
hurm... hopefully someday they know.. n their husband will guide them..stear375 wrote:P/s There's still many women in my country who maintains their belief even though they married other races...
I'm an atheist but I've been baptized a catholic. I don't think i'll be able to stay with someone who is religious because I don't believe in such things. i don't think my ideas will fit with his. I believe in tolerance and respect to others and this is usually not the lesson which religions are teaching. i don't think i'll be able to stay with someone who thinks God(or whoever) created the universe in 7 days or who thinks that homosexuals are not "persons",etc...
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for me...i most likely will not end up marrying someone of a dif religion
i've seen a lot of problems wen others married a spouse of a dif religion
too many problems can occur when ppl hold dif beliefs...my family is a strong catholic family..cept my oldest bro who screwed up his marriage...i'm not gonna follow his footsteps.
i've seen a lot of problems wen others married a spouse of a dif religion
too many problems can occur when ppl hold dif beliefs...my family is a strong catholic family..cept my oldest bro who screwed up his marriage...i'm not gonna follow his footsteps.
the greatest religion for me is humanism, everything else is secondary... so if you like your partner as a person, then to me religion is like "favorite color" or "prefered spot to sit on a train, in the direction of the train's motion or with your back against the train's motion" or "whether you like to floss before or after you brush your teeth". You respect each others views and differences, and that's that.
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I'm agnostic- so I'd prefer to marry someone whose not religious.
Not because I dislike religious people- I definitely do not as long as they don't flaunt their faith in my face or worse- try to convert me.
It's just that we'd probably end up arguing about faith sooner or later- probably when kids come into the picture.
Not because I dislike religious people- I definitely do not as long as they don't flaunt their faith in my face or worse- try to convert me.
It's just that we'd probably end up arguing about faith sooner or later- probably when kids come into the picture.
ditto on Vanilla Spider X.
I'm apathetic agnostic. Basically, I don't think it even matters. So, anybody of weak or no religious faith gets along well with me... Or as long as you don't try to convert me. If, however, you start telling me about why I'm going to suffer eternally and go to hell for some things... Well, we're just not going to get along.
I'm apathetic agnostic. Basically, I don't think it even matters. So, anybody of weak or no religious faith gets along well with me... Or as long as you don't try to convert me. If, however, you start telling me about why I'm going to suffer eternally and go to hell for some things... Well, we're just not going to get along.
To me, if someone was extremely religious, and takes everything they do into consideration with religion, it would matter greatly to me. I am not religious, and do not plan to become religious. If religion is part of their background, I suppose it is alright. However, if they are devote so and so, it would be difficult for me to be accepted as well as for me to share my thoughts on life, death, love, marriage and so on. Since religion seems to have such a big opinion on everything, I would say it is important to me if someone is religious or not.
Religion usually does have some influence on how well the two of you will get along.
I don't think I could ever marry someone who is extremely religious, because I'm sure my partner wouldn't be able to accept that I am not religious and would constantly bother me with his thoughts and ideas, trying to convince me. Apart from the level of dedication, I think it also depends on the religion itself. Certain morals and ideas go with certain religions, if you know what I mean.
I don't think I could ever marry someone who is extremely religious, because I'm sure my partner wouldn't be able to accept that I am not religious and would constantly bother me with his thoughts and ideas, trying to convince me. Apart from the level of dedication, I think it also depends on the religion itself. Certain morals and ideas go with certain religions, if you know what I mean.
I would but only if he didn't try to convert me or force our children to be a certain religion.
I'm a Taoist/Buddhist mix. I practice both religions in a way, but Taoism is stronger because it ties into my culture and customs (e.g. praying to past ancestors, burning "dead people" money, etc.)
So as long as I can still do that, and he won't make me stop for force me to adopt his religion then yeah, I'd be ok with it.
However if we could be the same religion (or if he was more agnostic or atheist) that would be much, much easier.
I'm a Taoist/Buddhist mix. I practice both religions in a way, but Taoism is stronger because it ties into my culture and customs (e.g. praying to past ancestors, burning "dead people" money, etc.)
So as long as I can still do that, and he won't make me stop for force me to adopt his religion then yeah, I'd be ok with it.
However if we could be the same religion (or if he was more agnostic or atheist) that would be much, much easier.
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Absolutly not, diffrent ways of thinking in religion, diffrent thaughts about afterlife, diffrent thoughts about everything WILL lead to a horrible divorce experince for the kids. But if you do get married with someone with a diffrent religion, then i admire the love that's strong enough to focus more about the marriage then the religion (alot more).
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Hmmm well I actually support Hanmaybj. Actually a Muslim men can marry women from Jews and Christian religion even if they don't convert at first because we have the same basic understanding. And in Islam it depends on men to guide their wife. It's hard to convert to a religion and that's why Islam gives time to do it.
Hanmaybj just saying that given the wife have intention to convert they are allowed to get married.
As for why women are not allow to marry men with different religion is because it's hard to advise your husband to do certain things and this is why for women the men must convert first.
p/s: I am muslim too.
Anyway I just think having the same religion is easier. because it's one less thing to fight over. However I practise religion in moderation and I can't stand ppl who are fanatic about it. It doesn't mean that I am biased to ppl who don't have the same religion as I am. I am tolerant and respectful about it.
In my family we never think less of our Chinese and Indian side family. They are Buddhist.Christian and Hindu. We still go to their home to celebrate each and single thing. No quarrel about food except pork and alcohol.
Hanmaybj just saying that given the wife have intention to convert they are allowed to get married.
As for why women are not allow to marry men with different religion is because it's hard to advise your husband to do certain things and this is why for women the men must convert first.
p/s: I am muslim too.
Anyway I just think having the same religion is easier. because it's one less thing to fight over. However I practise religion in moderation and I can't stand ppl who are fanatic about it. It doesn't mean that I am biased to ppl who don't have the same religion as I am. I am tolerant and respectful about it.
In my family we never think less of our Chinese and Indian side family. They are Buddhist.Christian and Hindu. We still go to their home to celebrate each and single thing. No quarrel about food except pork and alcohol.
I voted yes, but actually think it depends on the religion and how religiously fanatic is the other person or family.
Even though I'm not really religious myself, I'm baptized and celebrate Christmas, so I'm not willing to convert to any other religions (I wouldn't want someone to convert because of me either). Also, I was not educated to feel less than anyone and no one guides my life for me. I expect my children to have the same freedom of choice.
Even though I'm not really religious myself, I'm baptized and celebrate Christmas, so I'm not willing to convert to any other religions (I wouldn't want someone to convert because of me either). Also, I was not educated to feel less than anyone and no one guides my life for me. I expect my children to have the same freedom of choice.
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both of u are right. some of Islamic jurists say that people of the book have changed their book so they no longer as their forebears so it's unlawful in islam to marry them others say that even if they changed they still "people of the book".stear375 wrote:I don't know if this is cause you have different sect. I'm following Shafie sect and what's yours? I respect your opinion and I don't want to create chaos because we both Muslim. Thank you!Hanmaybj wrote:
I am not confusing anyone. I am also a Muslim and have been all my life. My father is an Imam, but thats beside the point. I am not going to bother trying to convince you, you seem to be set in your beliefs. There is a verse in the Quran that says Muslim men may marry chaste women from the "people of the book". Saying that these people no longer exists means that chaste Christians and Jews no longer exist?
I am not speaking in ignorance, nor am I speaking out of just hearing something. I have spoken to many Sheikh's and read much literature on this issue. As I mentioned, there is really no debate about this issue.
In the case that the Women does not convert the child will take the religion of his/her father.
and i believe with the second one cuz when prophet Mohammad was alive the books were changed already.
maybe the diff. is based in the different between the four juristic of islam and the understanding of the verse. btw "Sheikh" means also the expert or juristic in islam. they both refer to the same concept and "chaste" means not have a bf before marriage except if she regrets it and see it as a bad or an lawful "Taobah".
i think they still exist. i know an American woman and was Christian say that their family would punish her if they know she slept with a man before marriage.
maybe they are few. i don't know
as you guessed i'm Muslim & i wouldn't even if i could. my religion is a large part of my life that have to be share with the man whom love me.
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